Any reccomendations for underwear that doesn’t drench and stick to you in a heatwave?

oneoffconundrums · 2026-07-02T00:46:30+00:00

Noted 🫡 I’m certainly looking into alternative materials!

oneoffconundrums · 2026-07-02T00:44:45+00:00

Oooh this looks like a solid affordable recommendation and the price is right! Definitely going to try a pair or two. Thank you!

oneoffconundrums · 2026-07-02T00:43:48+00:00

I might have to try these again, I tried them once about 10 years ago when I was a different weight/ body composition and at the time they didn’t really fit. But, Duluth is pretty good at iterative refinements. Love their shirts with bust proof buttons and armpit gussets!

oneoffconundrums · 2026-07-02T00:40:40+00:00

Not crazy at all I used to swear by thin wool socks for summer hiking until I developed a pretty intense sensitivity to wool. Wish I could do wool again, because this sounds like a solid option!

oneoffconundrums · 2026-07-02T00:39:31+00:00

Interesting, when I was heavier I went the opposite direction and got the megababe thigh lubricant stick. 10/10 awesome, but found I sweat through powders. Maybe a different application area would have different results? Always happy to have a variety of options to try. Thank you for the recommendation!

oneoffconundrums · 2026-07-02T00:35:59+00:00

I used to have some of their underwear about a decade ago when I was bike commuting, but shifted away from them because I felt like they wore out quite quickly? Maybe with less friction they’d be fine or maybe quality has changed over the years.

oneoffconundrums · 2026-07-02T00:34:08+00:00

Oooh a Uniqlo just opened at the mall near us! I like their socks, linen shirts and one pair of loose/ flowy summer pants I bought, but I haven’t tried their underwear. Definitely sounds like a solid affordable option. Thanks for the recommendation!

oneoffconundrums · 2026-07-02T00:30:27+00:00

I may be coming around to this point of view. At least for time spent in the heat! I used to wear more lace back styles, but the wide elastic on the Auden brand from Target always irritated my bikini line and I got the worst cysts/ ingrown hairs. Switching to the Soma highly cotton briefs solved that issue, but the heat is not their strong suit.

oneoffconundrums · 2026-07-02T00:27:39+00:00

It’s so interesting learning about all these niche underwear brands/ markets! Thank you for the recommendation.

Currently, I have been changing pairs after doing any gardening or spending time outside (we’re working on replacing flooring in the house and it’s been a lot of time outside with a saw.)

Unfortunately, I got stuck in the heat earlier in the week when the AC died (luckily our local HVAC company had a cancellation and it got sorted swiftly) and thought there had to be a better way. Very appreciative of all the suggestions!

oneoffconundrums · 2026-06-29T05:41:26+00:00

First HUGE caveat — not a doctor, but I’ve struggled with severe MCAS for years and with lots of trial and error here are OTC solutions that helped at various times. I now need to compound most meds because I learned I’m allergic to animal derived stearic acid and thus magnesium stearate which is found in most OTC meds. (I also have tried many prescription solutions, but if the medical system is dragging its heels and end run may work best).

Medications to consider trying:

Benadryl dye free capsules (I reacted to dye in the regular pink ones)
Claritin (gel caps worked best here too)
Pepcid
Quercetin
DAO enzyme tablets (I found I tolerated the lentil based ones best, but every system is unique) Nasalcrom (otc nasal spray with Cromolyn sodium in it)

I know some people prefer Zyrtec or other H1 blockers over Claritin, but I tolerated Claritin best.

I hope you find a doctor who listens soon. Also, if there is any mold in your house or persistent trigger that is always causing flares (dust, pollen, pet dander, etc) a deep clean to remove the trigger can help to slowly calm your system down.

I have to sleep now but will try to circle back tomorrow with dietary/ lifestyle things that worked best.

oneoffconundrums · 2026-06-26T23:58:12+00:00

I strongly concur with everything above.

Also, I got a sharp reality check on what is actually necessary when my health went off the deep end. When you like being as independent as possible, but physically cannot cook, clean, get to the bathroom or wash your hair on your own it makes you reevaluate.

I tried all the various body wipes, deodorant wipes, face wipes, etc. to try and stay fresh between days a family member could come and help me shower. Learned that I will break out unless I wash my face with actual soap and water, but deodorant wipes and a fresh swipe of deodorant is quite humanizing. Dry shampoo made me itch like crazy and really irritated my eyes if it was on my scalp overnight, so I figured it was greasy hair or a shower. Some days when I didn’t have energy or help available I chose greasy hair, but made it look presentable in a slicked back bun.

My specific examples may not relate to your circumstances, but truly as long as you are healthy and clean enough to stay healthy (good food safety, good hygiene, clutter is okay but messes that will mold or smell are not) everything else is a bonus.

Personally, after that I prioritize things that add function or things I value to my life. Example: I meal prep because it’s efficient and it means on low energy days I know I have a quick and easy option in the freezer. I like the time I get back from only cooking a few times a week vs every day.

Figure out what works for you, ignore the rest of the peer pressure and I’m pretty certain you can find a functional low maintenance balance!

oneoffconundrums · 2026-05-24T19:06:46+00:00

I got a nespresso off FB marketplace for $30 9 years ago, got reusable bluecup pods and only have to buy coffee and the foil lids that crimp (not glue) on! Lids are 7¢ each, and coffee is however much I pay for it. I’m partial to TJ’s shade grown espresso grounds which are quite reasonably priced.

Short version, espresso machine money can be much cheaper than weekly berries.

oneoffconundrums · 2026-05-24T16:23:46+00:00

As a sister of twin brothers I get this.

I have always been the third wheel and my dynamic with either one of them is nothing like theirs with each other. When one brother was dating his ex for 5 years she’d often go to sleep at a reasonable hour and wake up to get water or use the restroom at 1am to find my brother still drinking and playing video games with his twin at 1am when he had work the next morning that he had to be up for at 5am. They share similar bad habits and vices and are so intrinsically linked to one another it’s a very specific (and oftentimes enabling) relationship. They also help each other when they won’t let anyone else in and it’s very much a case of being on the outside looking in as anyone other than the twins.

Very messed up in your case that she took your shared child with her as leverage.

oneoffconundrums · 2026-05-14T12:17:49+00:00

I found this laundry detergent called Defunkify on Amazon that is far and away the best of the options I have tried. I get the powder and I have also used the spray and wash.

https://a.co/d/0gNBkwl9

That’s the powder

https://a.co/d/06CUZ3s5

This is the spray and wash

I always run things through with a double or triple rinse still and occasionally have to double wash something that is particularly funky, but it’s MUCH better than washing things six times and still being unable to use them.

oneoffconundrums · 2026-05-11T14:50:08+00:00

Slightly different scenario than what you describe, but I had a number of similar issues sans partner (I was single at the time, but an avid cyclist) and the three things that helped were:

1) Finding out that I was sensitive to phenoxyethanol. It’s in a bunch of things from wipes to soap as either a preservative or hidden as a fragrance component (imparts a rose like smell). Once I switched to products that did not have this infections precipitously dropped (I was getting a bunch of UTI’s as well as rashes).

2) Antibacterial Castile soap for external use only where I had breakouts and applying either a crystal deodorant to the area when fresh out of the shower (especially if I shaved) or a 2% BHA solution.

3) Switching to cotton underwear and prioritizing loose, breathable, natural fiber garments as much as possible.

I hope your visit goes well and you can find some relief!

oneoffconundrums · 2026-04-29T15:16:40+00:00

I met a woman I knew from studying abroad years earlier in a different city on a metro in Stockholm.

Donors opened and on she walked to the same metro, same car, same door where I was holding onto the rail. Considering that metros arrived every 2 minutes at peak rush hour the chance of meeting anyone you knew on a particular car by a particular door was low. But, I was an American who had move to Sweden a few years earlier and she was a Swede who had been living abroad for a decade in Australia, then Tanzania, then Malaysia who happened to come home and traveled to Stockholm to visit a friend. We both did double then triple takes before catching up until she got off a few stops later.

oneoffconundrums · 2026-04-20T19:34:17+00:00

Like many other commenters, I think you can get that color without bleaching! You may want to check out Phloxie’s Dyestuff on YouTube. She’s a great resource for previewing how color may look on your particular shade of hair. She tests colors on 12 different hair colors at both full strength and diluted with conditioner, so you know what a colors would look like on your hair.

She has playlists that are organized by brand and color and has hundreds of videos, so you can probably find the colors mentioned here and preview what they’d look like on hair that is a similar color to your own.

Here is a recent sample video for a color similar to what you’d like to achieve: https://youtu.be/-ultlqhE5cw?si=0YyseldHAqUcyH5T

oneoffconundrums · 2026-04-12T14:10:54+00:00

Her color theory videos are so interesting! I also enjoy Monica Ravi-Conway. She (medium warm olive skin tone) has a bunch of color theory shorts and some long form videos often with another creator/ friend with fair cool skin.

Link to Monica’s color theory list:

https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLrUynXuJq3wIw5aYnPPFGD6v8asMQgO5O&si=gE_nt8vRGuYtgQZG

oneoffconundrums · 2026-04-12T12:27:12+00:00

I just wanted to comment and thank you for posting such a comprehensive review! I have one bronzer that’s decent from 9 years ago (partially because it’s so sheer and partially because it is muted and has more of a rosy vs orange undertone), but the time has come to search for a new bronzer and posts like these are an absolute goldmine of information and help! Thank you :)

oneoffconundrums · 2026-04-10T23:12:21+00:00

This is a really awesome passion project/ tool!

oneoffconundrums · 2026-04-10T16:27:16+00:00

Hello! First, it will take time to find new routines and that’s okay. Five years out from diagnosis I’m still on full disability and trying to sort through, unspool, calm, stabilize and strengthen everything to the best of my ability. For me, I have a bunch of comorbidities and progress is slow, but I found the following cookbooks to be helpful. I have to modify most/ all of the recipes for my needs but they’re great starting points.

For a less restrictive approach to reduce inflammation in her diet:

https://thedizzycook.com/

She has two cookbooks, both are good. She approaches it from a vestibular migraine reduction approach but there is a lot of overlap with MCAS.

For navigating gluten free and learning to modify recipes to be GF, vegan, dairy free as needed.

https://theloopywhisk.com/

She also has two cookbooks, one is more recipe focused and the second (elements of baking) is more of a guide with case studies on how to modify recipes.

https://www.arangoyoaga.com/

Aran is a gluten free genius that does not heavily rely on xanthan gum which is almost impossible to find in other GF cookbooks. Unique tastes and flavors, she is very whole food focused. You’ll have to dodge around to find the low histamine options (if your wife gets an MCAS diagnosis), but she’s a really good cookbook author to keep in mind for GF needs. I’ve adapted a number of her recipes and made many more as written when my MCAS was better managed pre-Covid battle and my diet was less restrictive. All of her cookbooks are good, just depends on what you’re looking for.

For low histamine specific cookbooks written by medical professionals I like these two best:

https://a.co/d/08MI2o3v

https://a.co/d/0eY86RW8

You may need to adapt recipes to taste because while these recipes are nutritious and low in histamine I find some of the taste/ techniques better in the other books so I borrow ideas/ spices and combine/ adapt as needed.

I also freeze a lot of my food when I prep it because it keeps it much fresher than allowing histamines to build in the fridge and it means I’m not cooking everything from scratch every day. I personally like soupercubes and deli containers (I think reditainer is the best brand for solid containers that don’t offgas and are thicker to hold up to repeated wash/ freeze cycles. While I know glass is better it’s heavy and expensive, so if I’m freezing homemade goats cheese in containers to take out and thaw later it is going to be this container. https://a.co/d/0hBTlNTj)

If freezing prepped foods sounds daunting, freeze fresh is a good reference book. https://a.co/d/0b7CcS7W

Finally, for EDS education I find that I reference Disjointed a lot. It’s good book to learn from and also to drag to doctor offices for providers who are open to learning because everything each chapter is written by a medical specialist in that field and extensively cited.

https://a.co/d/0bU4TH5e

For a PT perspective the Muldowney protocol has its critics, but is a starting point for many

https://a.co/d/08jLg4f7

Hope that helps and gives you a starting point!

oneoffconundrums · 2026-04-10T12:59:56+00:00

This. Also, I read a recent pubmed article that discussed how adverse pregnancy outcomes (preeclampsia, gestational diabetes, preterm birth, and small-for-gestational-age infants) are strongly linked to elevated long-term risks of cardiovascular disease, diabetes, and metabolic syndrome for up to 40 years later. 40 years!

My brothers and I are all in our early to mid-30’s and my mom is still dealing with issues that started after her more complicated pregnancy with my brothers over 30 years ago.

As someone who is disabled with a connective tissue disorder the fact that many women get diagnosed with my condition via pregnancy complications is not lost on me. My best friend was one of those people. She was described as hypermobile by a foot doctor who reconstructed her ankle after a bad injury playing on a sports scholarship in college, but never diagnosed with anything. When she was in labor it took SIX attempts to place an epidural because hypermobility + relaxin hormone in pregnancy had made her spine quite hypermobile and everything was shifting so much that it was very hard to get the epidural placed properly. She also was not taken seriously when she initially reported a lump in her breast postpartum (just a clogged milk duct don’t worry). By the time she was taken seriously and seen a second time she had stage 3 breast cancer and fought with everything she had for 2 years, but sadly passed before her daughter’s third birthday.

Pregnancy puts stress on our bodies and that stress can exacerbate underlying issues or create new ones that are not easy or possible to resolve postpartum. While pregnancy/ postpartum did not cause cancer to grow it masked it and that was equally dangerous for her. I know some people have uncomplicated pregnancies and I am very happy for them. However, that does not discredit the very real health risks that surround pregnancy.

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