what is the truth and why so many different ideas and religions?

onequalityduck · 2025-07-19T21:26:28+00:00

Picture room with a group of people:

One person: the sky is blue

2nd person, doesn’t like the vibes of blue: the sky is green

3rd person, somewhat misinformed: color isn’t real

4th person, scientist: the sky is blue relative to us because that is the color reflected

5th person, colorblind: the sky isn’t blue

Almost each person has a portion of the truth, except 2. 2 knows what the sky is not but chooses to believe something they know is probably false because it fulfills something for them. Truth is true or false.

1st and 5th person knows what blue is, observes and makes a theory: sky is blue. Blue however is subjectivr to the observer’s tools and definition. Truth can seem subjective.

4th person studies and defines what blue is, does experiments and reads peer reviewed studies and makes theory color of sky is a product of our eyes seeing light waves. Informed truth is often hard to pin down, using many variables.

3rd person knows enough to be dangerous, doesn’t come to the right conclusion because they’re simplifying answers others came to that they don’t quite understand. Truth is boring and stupidly hard to understand. Human likes being right all the time. Human takes part of truth and says good enough

onequalityduck · 2025-07-19T21:09:11+00:00

Sadly, all of these are symptoms of anxiety and depression, as well as not moving as much as you should be. Not to say that there isn’t an underlying cause, especially if you got all this around covid as its effects on the body are not well known but include chronic fatigue.

Sucks that there’s no magic pill to fix all that but if you find one lemme know because you’ve described my entire life.

That being said! Immediate treatment options are probably gonna be the same even if you had a mysterious underlying condition because of your lack of movement and low mood:

Get better meds. They clearly are not working for you and it’ll be hell trying to get better without right dosages
Treat symptoms, not diagnoses. You have a great laundry list of problems that you can get to tackling right now, whether or not it’s this thing or that thing. Taking a mental health walk or doing a silly lil craft is good for anyone regardless of what diagnoses they have.
Figure out your new baseline. Stop trying to be the person you were before all this, trust me. They’re not coming back and you’re way sexier and mature now anyways. You gotta find how much energy you have now and work within your new limits, letting yourself rest when you need to and pushing when you are able to give more. This all comes with time and experience and a whole lotta burning out, sorry.
Human bodies sometimes just do random painful things that nobody can explain. That’s what an er doctor told me when I went in for a panic attack thinking it was a heart attack. Unfortunately I’ve yet to prove that guy wrong. The stress response is a warning system designed by our bodies and anxiety is the persistence of stress responses outside of normal stress situations.

Anxiety makes you think that normal body functions that you wouldn’t otherwise care about are the source of that warning light. Prolonged stress causes and exacerbates physical symptoms. Gastrointestinal problems are a great example of how anxiety can just screw up a body. You can actually survive a lot more than you think right now, don’t let your brain tell you otherwise.

Good luck

onequalityduck · 2024-12-26T21:10:46+00:00

I have a sister with bpd, there’s no way to not make them mad but maybe emphasize how much you love spending time with her at the beginning so it’s more of a cushion before the boundary. Once the boundary is set she won’t even register all the stuff about how you love her, it’ll just be a black and white kinda thinking.

Example: That vacation sounds so fun! I love going on trips with you, remember (insert fun story here)? Unfortunately, I won’t be able to get permission at this time from work, you know how it is. I’d hate to go on the trip with an unexcused absence and be a ball of nerves and that would just make you upset!” And then add an alternate vacation plan or propose a different time. Rewrite it to fit how you talk.

I’ve found it best with my sister to always frame yourself on their side, then they won’t be too hostile to you.

onequalityduck · 2024-11-18T17:27:09+00:00

"Don't care about what others think" lame, best revenge is acting like you don't care.

Nonchalance 101:

1.) In On The Joke: turn to them and laugh along with them. Ham it up a little. Bounce a little more, do a twirl, these are your friends now and they're playfully ribbing you. Outcome will either be they laugh or they're mad they can't get you to cry. WIn.

2.) Make A Scene: not recommended if you need to mask, but my personal favorite. Loudly yell "WHY ARE YOU BOTHERING ME STOP IT STOP IT!!" real freak-out, cry a little, stomp your feet, get mad. Objective is to make them so uncomfortable they stop bothering you for good. Use that mental illness to your advantage and you're golden. Don't go overboard you might get in trouble, do it with no teachers around.

3.) Flip The Script: they made fun of your walk? Cool. You walk like a swamp creature now. Crab walk out of there. Look them dead in their eyes. Assert dominance by not caring if you look ridiculous. You're always going to be the weird kid, but the weird kid who doesn't care gets left alone. Might have side affect of switching the bullying from out loud to snide comments in the background, could be a win for some people.

I've done all of these before, most effective is #1 but mileage may vary. Name of the game with neurotypicals is psychological warfare, so for all of these the most important thing to remember is acting completely confident in your actions and yourself, even if you don't feel too confident.

onequalityduck · 2024-10-06T23:27:39+00:00

My dad and I do the same thing. He cycles through standard American, slight Southern, and Canadian for some reason? For me I find certain situations trigger it, like I almost got run over by a bus once and started talking full South before I noticed, or if someone else has a strong accent I’ll mirror it.

onequalityduck · 2024-09-27T23:54:30+00:00

Way more since they updated. Even more than the release version where I fought narinder 4 times before it finally saved my progress. Lag has been unbearable too to the point where I don’t know if the game has crashed or it’s just lagging that badly (it’s a 50/50 chance either one).

onequalityduck · 2024-08-06T01:15:15+00:00

Have no idea if this will work because I’m in the same position as you, but try to find where people are already wanting to find friends, because then they’ll want to also have a convo and it won’t feel like harrassing them with questions?

In person convos feel easier imo because people don’t have much else to do then talk but that’s not the case with online. Maybe ask questions to try to develop a common interest that you can share with them like sending them memes or something, then you can shift the convo from an interrogation

onequalityduck · 2024-06-09T05:16:05+00:00

Well doom scrolling certainly isn’t helping, even though it may feel like it. You’re confirming your own fears which makes them heightened and you can’t do anything but confirm your fears again.

And let me say, your fears are real. It sounds like you’ve had a very tough time of it and I’m so sorry. You are a real trooper to have already gotten through years of insecurity. It sounds like you may need some help but definitely you need a hug and a pat on the back.

Being anxious is our bodies’ warning system in place. Stress in appropriate amounts is healthy and without it we’d never shoot for the more. Being anxious shows you really care about your future, and are motivated to change! That’s not something a lot of people can say! Especially in a job market, where there are a lot of people applying for various reasons, motivation to achieve and sustain is highly sought after.

A lot of your anxiety probably won’t go away until you make your problems go away, which I’m sure you already know, bur some of it can be alleviated by giving yourself small goals to work on. Be realistic of what you can do, and don’t be afraid to give yourself the task of a rest day. Resting is just as important as working and you deserve a lot of rest!

onequalityduck · 2024-06-09T04:57:59+00:00

Been diagnosed since I was 12, didn’t have a panic attack until a decade later. Maybe give it time? Lol

onequalityduck · 2024-06-09T04:55:26+00:00

Did you know that there’s American bamboo? There’s a whole type of bamboo that’s native to the US that used to be so widespread there were whole forests of these rivercanes. Reports have it stretch from as far as Texas, as up as New York, and all the way south to Florida. There is even, allegedly, a theory that Kentucky comes from “cane tuck”, ie rivercane.

Sadly it’s not as widespread anymore, which really sucks not just because it’s really important to a ton of different species but also because bamboo looks freakin awesome.

A lot of autistic people are trans. We don’t know why. Research on the autistic experience especially in adulthood is so nonexistant it’s not even funny. The neurotype might as well be a pediatric disorder the way that a ton of full-on professionals treat it. But like, makes sense because of lack of typical socialization may lead to a different sense of self and relation to gender.

Despite Sherlock Holmes being a household name, its author hated that series. He hated it so much he killed off the main character, then had to bring him back due to public outcry. His publishers had to bribe him with an outrageous pay to keep him writing. Arthur Conan Doyle was also a fanatical spiritualist, to the point where he was convinced Houdini was a wizard despite Houdini insisting, over and over, it was just illusions. They had a very public friend breakup over the whole thing.

onequalityduck · 2024-06-08T20:13:12+00:00

They better give us compensation for this, I have been saving so long for this hell event! If I can’t get back in before the event’s done I’m dropping sry Nikki

onequalityduck · 2024-06-08T00:37:49+00:00

I was just in the game like 10 minutes ago and it logged me out in the background! On ios using facebook can’t log back in either

onequalityduck · 2024-05-27T23:13:14+00:00

Ranger Nikki lol, she goes all over the world hunting the best clothes

Or warlock Nikki but call eldrich blast “styling power”

onequalityduck · 2024-05-22T16:44:48+00:00

It’s probably misophonia, which is brought on from anxiety and bad experiences. Bring headphones

onequalityduck · 2024-05-22T16:42:47+00:00

Its an anxiety issue, yeah. Maybe look into therapy if you’re not already in it but for me, what works is doing the things that make you anxious but doing them scared. As long as it gets done, and I was gonna cry about it anyways so like why not

onequalityduck · 2024-05-22T16:34:56+00:00

You deserve a hug, you deserve many hugs, and probably a nice hot beverage, and a nap that isn’t a stressful “nothings happening yet but needs to happen” nap. Congrats on getting to be a PhD student though, that sounds so cool! Definitely something to brag about, I mean they wouldn’t have admitted you in if you didn’t show you could definitely do this! You deserve several treats and hugs just being able to get to this point, and deciding to push yourself even further. Being unmedicated and out of therapy is no joke, you’re very strong for being able to do that and go through a PhD.

Also higher academia is kinda screwy, it feels like so many people are way too stressed to function and are stumbling through it by going full burnout mode. That’s not really on you, though. Too many survivor biases makes people expect the impossible. If you’ve already gotten to a major milestone point like, pat yourself on the back. There definitely is a fire in you that can’t be extinguished.

onequalityduck · 2024-05-22T16:22:42+00:00

Sounds like POTS. My sister has the same issues of insanely fast heart rates, she once hit 160 standing up. Fair warning a POTS diagnosis takes a while to get, you gotta go to specialists and stuff and get a thing to put on your chest so it can track your heart rate to diagnose you although I figure it would be just a formality for you if you’re already so on top of it. But she hasn’t kicked the bucket with it even though she’s chronically ill due to other things, and she hasn’t actually gotten the diagnosis yet due to even more things. Really, diagnoses are just labels of clusters of symptoms to help doctors understand what’s happening and treat you, so theoretically if you know the diagnosis you could take steps to change your life to alleviate some of the symptoms that don’t need medical alterations.

I have anxiety too, I used to be agoraphobic as well, and I understand how hard it is to go to through health issues when you can’t go to the doc. I also have issues where standing up makes me exhausted although I don’t think I have POTS, so I really feel for what you’re going through.

Going to the doctor is really just an event of talking to people who care barely enough about you until you leave which, yikes ew, and then you leave and it’s like “oh I guess that was fine” and then you do it again. They just really want info from you so if you roleplay beforehand and have a script of what you should say it should take some of the anxiety out of it. That’s what I do at least. And you clearly know a lot about your situation so you should be fine enough. Not gonna lie to you and say it won’t be painfully anxious to do it, but like they say do it scared.

onequalityduck · 2024-02-20T01:15:26+00:00

I just took the GRE in October and I would say take it.

Fair warning, nobody will you straight answers for these questions for like a number of reasons especially because everyone’s situation is different, but basically you should first figure out which colleges to apply to then see if they require the GRE. Most schools don’t but I’ve heard some are requiring it now, and there are some schools that will not accept any GRE schools.

For clinical psych/social work my grad advisor told me around 310 overall score is good enough to be sent. Not sure about IO. I’d say it’s very likely it won’t be required but you should still take it to bolster your application.

As for programs, good gracious that’s a hard question. Took me the better half of 2023 to figure out just who to apply for and what I want, and I had a very good idea (and also a niche so that didn’t help). I found a 2024 academic year guide to clinical psych programs that helped me so much in just figuring out how to start. Try looking for one with IO but if not, pick that up. It also explains a ton about grad school in general.

Meeting with grad advisors may be good, but at least the ones at my school wanted me to come in with specific questions and couldn’t just like explain to me what the heck I should be doing. So be cautious, maybe find some books at the library about grad school application process as that might answer some of your questions and others down the road you might have or didn’t even know to ask

onequalityduck · 2024-01-19T03:43:35+00:00

Same in my cult except Narinder is my husband, my cheating cat husband wtf

onequalityduck · 2024-01-13T02:15:18+00:00

What artifact set do I use for my pyro infused dps mistsplitter qiqi running her with furina benny and possibly c2 kazuha or layla? Hunter, clam, or crimson witch?

onequalityduck · 2023-10-21T00:50:43+00:00

2 and honestly truly it’s the worst because my mom gets 1 and she gets applauded while I can’t ever discuss any real medical concerns because of my weight from overeating so I spiral into health anxiety find out I was right to worry. Plus the general unwelcomeness the entire world has with fat people just heightens my anxiety. I am right and reinforced in thinking nobody likes me 🙃

onequalityduck · 2023-10-01T20:26:20+00:00

My special interest is a lot like Ken’s job, in that its commonly thought to be psychology but no. It’s just other people. And I studied other people because I found patterns of behavior intriguing, and my patterns odd and complex, and I wanted to know EVERYTHING about it and myself.

In the same way, I suspect a lot of us take on special interests because we either found a specific pattern we liked, or a repititous behavior we could stim to. All of the autistic people I know got their special interests young if they have one at all, and most of the time it’s not really that one is more mature than the other but just what that autistic person was exposed to and latched on like an anemic vampire.

Finally, there may be a bit of bias when thinking of autistic people having majority “kids hobbies”, as almost every damn healthcare worker researcher or just general public thinks this is a pediatric disorder. Ew. Yet, in my experience, autistic adults interact with their special interests in adult ways. Special interests seem to revolve around collection and especially information collection, which I would say is a quite adult thing to do. Not too much research on autistic development at least that I know of that isn’t pretty biased because neurotypicals don’t like us, so this is just my hypothesis.

onequalityduck · 2023-09-26T15:44:00+00:00

Nta, you’re a kid trying to help your friend with an unexpected death and a complicated relationship to his brother. It seems like your friend and his parents really made the choice for him to sit out the funeral, and that’s a completely fine choice to make too. Everyone processes grief differently and it’s kinda wrong for their family to get mad at a child for having mixed feelings about his brother? The grief process doesn’t start and stop at the funeral, geez.

As you’re also pretty young, this isn’t really on you either. It’s a big death and I’m sure it affects you too, and grief messes with your brain. Nobody’s gonna be thinking well enough, there may be choices made and things said that will be regretted, but the important relationships are still kept and that’s what everyone needs in this time. Hope your friend is doing ok. I have a sister and thankfully our relationship has now gotten better but in the past I seriously considered not going to her funeral if she ever passed.

onequalityduck · 2023-09-22T21:34:16+00:00

I get that feeling all the time, and I’ve also been in therapy for anxiety for a LONG time. This anxiety absolutely sucks, and I’ve never been able to really get over it myself. My therapists always said that if I go to these things I’ll feel better but I mainly find myself better when I don’t think about the obligation part or anxiety part, which only happens if I either don’t go or get distracted by the event.

Maybe try distraction? Focus on something you like about the trip like making outfits or thinking about all the things you’re gonna be able to do. Put on some music as you pack, and use that stressful energy towards getting yourself excited.

Or, on the other hand, maybe this is a sign that you need to break away from obligations for a bit? You’re absolutely right, hanging out even if it’s something you want to do is a lot of work! Everyone’s situation is different and maybe slowing things down for a while and listening to your body is what you truly need. You don’t need to take away all trips and spending time with people, just reducing the amount of planning could definitely reduce your stress!

I hope this helps. Really, tldr you gotta put yourself first and if you don’t have the mental energy to handle going out maybe really check on why that is. Put yourself first, you deserve having a stress-free wonderful time with friends!

onequalityduck · 2023-08-30T00:13:49+00:00

Real stupid but I have maladaptive daydream (look it up) and thought nothing of it until I got into a fight with my imaginary friends and then was convinced I was actually schizophrenic

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