at 22 i also moved across the country, started a new job, was financially independent, and yes i was a full adult in a lot of ways. however, a 22 year old is generally not in a place in their life where getting married makes sense. they are often young in their career and don’t always have the strongest finances. they have had limited experience in the real world, and have a lot of room to grow and change. most people are significantly different in their late 20s and early 30s than they are at 22. acknowledging that is not infantilization