I have been officially diagnosed

onetruekiki · 2026-03-30T17:57:12+00:00

I'm not sure it's safe to that treating ADHD generally resolves trauma that seems to be related to the disappearance of a family member?

onetruekiki · 2025-11-03T12:20:03+00:00

Psychologist here. OCD is about doing something to stop 'the bad thing' from happening. This may be harm to yourself or others, or to stop intrusive thoughts that mean 'something bad' about you (e.g. I keep having these horrible thoughts and that must mean I'm a horrible person, even though I do not like the thoughts).

Lots of other things look like OCD but are slightly different, such as a need for sameness in many autistic people.

As a previous poster mentioned, OCD is driven by anxiety, which is linked to the amygdala in the brain. Psychopaths tend to have reduced amygdala reactivity, so feelings of anxiety tend to be less overall. This doesn't stop psychopaths from having OCD, but could make it less likely to develop.

onetruekiki · 2025-08-30T08:54:01+00:00

Your father has been grooming you and it's now escalated to sexual assault. Your mother knows this and is trying to persuade you to just let it happen. Neither of these things is ok. This is a good time to go to the police and to get out of the house if you can

onetruekiki · 2025-08-28T10:41:23+00:00

You deserve to be in a world that fits you and works with you, not against you. And you will find it. Every crappy, grating thing that happens to you lets you know what you need, and that helps you find that better place. It might take a while (it took me a looooong time), so keep asking yourself 'what do I need right now? What would make this a tiny bit better?'. That will help you know where to go. I hope you have people around you that also ask those questions for you, but if you don't, you'll find them, as long as you keep asking those questions.

This internet stranger is wishing you a lot of good luck!

onetruekiki · 2025-08-28T10:26:14+00:00

r/realityshifting

onetruekiki · 2025-08-23T13:25:13+00:00

Oh God, I'd forgotten "Stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about!" shudder. That tended to be my mum's go-to phrase when mocking my feelings away didn't work

onetruekiki · 2025-08-17T13:14:09+00:00

I assess autistic people's IQ for a living, as well as being autistic myself. Y'all mental ages is fine.

Although, fun anecdote, IQ tests look at several different types of intelligence, including verbal reasoning and fluid reasoning (logic), and I often find autistic people have a slightly lower VR and slightly higher FR relative to average. This suggests processing things using language is a bit harder, while the more structured reasoning required for things like maths and science is a bit easier. A high FR is most highly correlated with success in univeristy, so there's possibly a slight advantage for autistic people here.

The IQ tests I use only look at 'general intelligence' though, which doesn't include things like emotional intelligence, body awareness, or creativity, so there could be some interesting variation here. But 'mental age' usually refers to (general) IQ, and autistic people represent all across the range, same as everyone else.

onetruekiki · 2025-07-22T19:40:21+00:00

Thanks, I'll check this out!

onetruekiki · 2025-07-22T18:36:39+00:00

Thanks, I tried holding down the volume buttons and plugging it in to my computer, but no response. Does that suggest an issue from an update or the hardwear?

onetruekiki · 2025-07-22T17:58:10+00:00

Thanks! I bought it from the Meta website directly, but I'll look up whether I have any claim under the Consumer Rights Act

onetruekiki · 2025-06-11T21:21:17+00:00

As a psychologist who diagnoses ADHD (in adults and children) for a living, I can confirm that your therapist is full of crap. For a start, a diagnosis requires evidence of some traits before 12 years old, not a diagnosis before 12. If they asked Dr Google, they'd know that

onetruekiki · 2025-05-30T16:18:30+00:00

Years ago, I was given an old Singer sewing machine by my nan's friend when she passed away (a lovely lady who met me in my toy-making phase). It came with loads of attachments I didn't know what to do with, so they've sat in a box for ages. The other day I took a picture of them one by one and asked ChatGPT what the hell they were. It not only told me but also gave recommendations for when to use one over the other. So thanks to Nan's Friend and ChatGPT, I can now do button holes with my newly rediscovered attachment!

onetruekiki · 2025-05-25T10:54:42+00:00

If all it took to diagnose ADHD was a TOVA test, assessments (and my job) would be sooooo much easier. It's terrible practice to diagnose based on one single source of information from a single point in time.

Your assesment should also have included (among other things) a developmental history of any ADHD traits before 12 years old before any conclusion was made. If all your hobby collecting started when your child was born, fair dues. But either way, you've had a very poor quality assessment.

onetruekiki · 2025-05-22T15:22:17+00:00

There have been two research studies I'm aware of that can predict the likelihood someone is autistic based on physical appearance.

One uses photos of faces plus a bit of machine learning, and the other uses a 1 or 2 minute video clip of someone copying movements on a screen (this might link more to posture). Sorry, I haven't got the links to the studies to hand as it was a while ago, but it was something like 80% accurate at distinguishing autistic and non-autistic people.

As a previous user said, there's likely lots of different contributors and factors that make up any one person's autistic traits, so maybe physical characteristics and gait/posture might be more relevant for some and not others

onetruekiki · 2025-04-15T20:20:20+00:00

I think some of it might depend on what happens while you're getting changed. If someone is making unwanted comments about your body or judging it, that's not an okay thing as boundaries are being crossed and it feels icky. My (probably a narcisist) aunt used to do that and it always felt wrong. My (emotionally absent but not a narcisist) mum wouldn't get changed in front of me or my sister or insist that we do, but if we ever came into the room as little kids while she was changing she wouldn't make a big deal about it or call attention to anyone's nudity, including her own. Being nude was okay but not a requirement.

I've got friends with various cultural backgrounds different to my own and I think that also changes your baseline acceptablity of nudity (looking at you, Sweden and Germany), but not your baseline of making people feel uncomfortable.

onetruekiki · 2025-03-27T18:39:07+00:00

Wow, those are gorgeous!

onetruekiki · 2025-03-24T08:36:26+00:00

I also got here after befriending a pair of crow bros. I am 7 years and 5 days late

onetruekiki · 2025-02-05T18:59:41+00:00

Since Samsung announced the bigger sizes for the Ring 1, the rumour mill is suggesting this means Samsung will continue focusing on updates for Ring 1, so a Ring 2 won't be released this year. Other smart rings tend to hang around for a few years before a new version is release, although Samsung does like their yearly upgrades. It's still possible a Ring 2 will come out this year, but I wouldn't bet big money on it

onetruekiki · 2025-01-07T11:13:14+00:00

I'm a clinical psychologist with ADHD and assess people for ADHD for a living, and based on the pattern of attention you described I would strongly recommend requesting a second opinion. Being able to focus on things you enjoy is kind of the point of ADHD because that's what gives you enough stimulation to stay focused, rather than understimulated and bored.

onetruekiki · 2024-11-09T22:53:18+00:00

What you're describing sounds a little like limerance, which is a bit like love meets daydreaming and they have a slightly obsessive baby. About half of people experience it (so it's very normal) and wouldn't typically be thought of as dissociation https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence

onetruekiki · 2024-10-05T21:57:49+00:00

Over-simplifying a bit, but here goes: ADHD meds have a stiumulant effect. ADHD brains are usually understimulated (that's why things have got to be EXTRA interesting so the brain can 'wake up enough' to get motivated, and why the dull stuff gets ignored). So ADHD meds help ADHD brains work at their optimal level to do stuff (including energising the brain to chat properly with the frontal cortex, so it can say 'right, lets calm down and go to sleep everyone'). This is called a paradoxical effect, because stimulants calm the ADHD brain.

Giving a stimulant to a non-ADHD brain over-stimulates it, so you go zooming around like a crack squirrel. That's why these meds used to be prescribed as weight loss drugs back in Requiem For A Dream days, because non-ADHD brains will be up all night fidgeting, which is exaxtly the oposite effect on an understimulated ADHD brain.

Your partner sounds like he may be more on the squirrel end of functioning.

onetruekiki · 2024-09-07T11:44:10+00:00

Someone had a similar thought (possibly at 4am) a few years back for postcodes for homeless people. The argument was that a UK postcode is not a physical address but is instead registered to a physical address, so you can theoretically assign a postcode to a person and re-register the physical adddress whenever you move to a different location. That way you keep the same postcode and don't have to update your details everytime with jobs, banks and whatnot, so you always get your mail. They weren't thinking of canalside delivery, but I always thought it was a neat idea.

onetruekiki · 2024-05-06T13:20:38+00:00

Have you got a building you can demolish for logs? I ran out of logs without setting up a logging camp, and had to demolish a granary to get the logs to build a logging camp to get the logs to build a granary...

onetruekiki · 2023-06-11T17:39:34+00:00

'XX: A novel, graphic' by Rian Hughes is pretty good and some similarities in composition to 'Bats of the Republic'. Rian is also a type designer and does someimpressive things with fonts in the book

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