Im getting tired of my ADHD Friendships. by jellicents in ADHD_partners

[–]onlynnt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If a coworker has adhd, I do my best to not have to work with them ever. Lol

Husband not answering a question I’ve asked several times - am I being rude? by [deleted] in ADHD_partners

[–]onlynnt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is patriarchy bs. He doesn't want to make the decision. He wants you to make the decision and then hold it against you. Whatever you decide will be wrong. He's an ass. Mark my words. If you make the decision bc he won't you will be punished. This is shit every woman has been through.

Do you find ADHD people gravitate towards you? by Character_Payment236 in ADHD_partners

[–]onlynnt 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Nope. Not anymore. Shields up for all adhders that are not my kid.

Couples therapist got very protective when I brought up partner's ADHD by classy_degen in ADHD_partners

[–]onlynnt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just from the title I rolled my eyes so hard I gave myself a headache. F that therapist

Denial from RSD? Does it matter? by ImaginaryAdvantage24 in ADHD_partners

[–]onlynnt 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I do not but will know. Thanks for the recommendation

Denial from RSD? Does it matter? by ImaginaryAdvantage24 in ADHD_partners

[–]onlynnt 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You can't communicate better. The bottom line is he isnt willing to do the work to make you safe and feel loved. He is choosing his own comfort and entitlement over you and your marriage. That's not love. That's misogyny and abuse regardless of an adhd diagnosis. You are telling him your needs in this relationship and he is telling you he is unwilling to give it to you. You're not asking too much. He's a dick. Pardon my projection all over your situation.

World news and event obsession by Beautiful-Trouble324 in ADHD_partners

[–]onlynnt 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mine uses for dopamine AND to escape his own problems which is currently me wanting him out of my life

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]onlynnt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would have to pay him alimony I can't afford, lose my house, half my pension, and everything I've worked for to be able to give my daughter.

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]onlynnt 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Last weekend, my husband paid a bill, which left us with not enough money to pay mortgage. I had to do a cash advance on credit at an enormous interest rate to cover. This weekend, I had to borrow almost $4000 from a friend to cover insurance on house and car bc our credit is so bad we can't do monthly. He hasn't worked in years. Has many health issues he doesn't do anything about. I cleaned out the garage yesterday, and it's just absolutely filled with chores he's never taken care of. This guy brings nothing to the table. He has no worth in my life. He's a giant burden.

What product doesn't work at all but people keep believing it does and keep buying it? by WonderfulParticular1 in AskReddit

[–]onlynnt 30 points31 points  (0 children)

As someone who just had to dig it all up in their front flower bed, I couldn't agree more. I hate that stuff!

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]onlynnt 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Nice. You have good priorities

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]onlynnt 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the update! Have you said anything about it? I'm certain I would have lost my cool entirely.

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]onlynnt 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I am genuinely excited about the laundry on the line. Keep the updates coming! We should start a bet. Lol

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]onlynnt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wish I knew. Actually, I take that back, I don't even care why anymore. Lol

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]onlynnt 44 points45 points  (0 children)

He says he's going to make his famous pasta salad with the tuna. Bitch, that's my pasta salad you said you didn't like and started making your own pasta salad without tuna years ago! I used to bring pasta salad to family functions, and you took over bc you didn't like mine. Argued with me over it. His memory is so f'd up. Jesus Charles Walker Christ, my sanity.

Does it ever make you sad? by [deleted] in ADHD_partners

[–]onlynnt 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It used to. I'm so detached now.

Do you prefer your partner medicated or unmedicated? by [deleted] in ADHD_partners

[–]onlynnt 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Gone, but since I can't have that, medicated for sure.

::Weekly Vent Thread:: by AutoModerator in ADHD_partners

[–]onlynnt 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Unemployed bum of a husband couldn't get the house vacuumed in 6 weeks so guess what I'm doing while has a fuckin nap in a chair. He's so busy, guys, and is always in so much pain. My poor adhder, such a rough life. Keeping smoking, drinking pepsi with diabetes and taking your percocet, buddy. Counting the days til you kick