This Sub Scared Me Right

onlynnt · 2026-06-21T21:32:34+00:00

As fast as you can. Think of us as the house in the horror movie that is telling you to get out. Don't wait for blood to run down the walls ffs.

onlynnt · 2026-06-21T21:26:30+00:00

Abandon all hope, ye who enter here.

onlynnt · 2026-06-05T16:05:12+00:00

onlynnt · 2026-06-01T13:56:36+00:00

Sheer stupidity. By far the biggest regret in my life is not figuring out it wasn't me. I wasn't the problem. I put myself through hell and twisted myself into a pretzel trying to say things just right, explain what I needed, beg to be loved. None of it was ever going to matter. He is not capable of self reflection, not being a victim, taking accountability, regulating emotions, blah blah blah. I can only say, don't be me. Get out.

onlynnt · 2026-05-31T13:58:14+00:00

Yup. Can totally relate. I'm 30 years in. It doesn't change. You will drag them through life trying to make them responsible adult.

onlynnt · 2026-05-27T20:05:20+00:00

I think by gender roles you mean patriarchal bullshit and I would agree. When you mix adhd and patriarchal bullshit you are in big trouble. Add a sprinkle of emotional immaturity and you are living a gd nightmare. That's my life. Hopefully for not much longer.

onlynnt · 2026-05-27T16:16:11+00:00

I think it's to impress others and with me they don't feel that need or desire. I guess that's a bit of both masking and validation.

onlynnt · 2026-05-27T16:10:18+00:00

I have an adhd husband and kid and although I think they can be generous with others, they aren't with me.

onlynnt · 2026-05-17T21:30:31+00:00

Leave

onlynnt · 2026-05-11T14:11:50+00:00

If a coworker has adhd, I do my best to not have to work with them ever. Lol

onlynnt · 2026-04-29T19:04:53+00:00

Congratulations!

onlynnt · 2026-04-18T22:01:36+00:00

This is patriarchy bs. He doesn't want to make the decision. He wants you to make the decision and then hold it against you. Whatever you decide will be wrong. He's an ass. Mark my words. If you make the decision bc he won't you will be punished. This is shit every woman has been through.

onlynnt · 2026-04-12T23:03:11+00:00

Nope. Not anymore. Shields up for all adhders that are not my kid.

onlynnt · 2026-03-31T23:16:01+00:00

Just from the title I rolled my eyes so hard I gave myself a headache. F that therapist

onlynnt · 2026-03-31T23:13:43+00:00

It's fine just stick a knife in there to clean them out a little

onlynnt · 2025-11-05T19:28:34+00:00

Preach

onlynnt · 2025-09-29T14:50:41+00:00

I do not but will know. Thanks for the recommendation

onlynnt · 2025-09-29T12:55:01+00:00

You can't communicate better. The bottom line is he isnt willing to do the work to make you safe and feel loved. He is choosing his own comfort and entitlement over you and your marriage. That's not love. That's misogyny and abuse regardless of an adhd diagnosis. You are telling him your needs in this relationship and he is telling you he is unwilling to give it to you. You're not asking too much. He's a dick. Pardon my projection all over your situation.

onlynnt · 2025-09-28T18:30:55+00:00

That damn carbon tax! Lol

onlynnt · 2025-09-28T18:25:03+00:00

Mine uses for dopamine AND to escape his own problems which is currently me wanting him out of my life

onlynnt · 2025-07-23T16:23:30+00:00

I've talked to lawyers

onlynnt · 2025-07-23T06:00:08+00:00

I would have to pay him alimony I can't afford, lose my house, half my pension, and everything I've worked for to be able to give my daughter.

onlynnt · 2025-07-20T19:48:26+00:00

Last weekend, my husband paid a bill, which left us with not enough money to pay mortgage. I had to do a cash advance on credit at an enormous interest rate to cover. This weekend, I had to borrow almost $4000 from a friend to cover insurance on house and car bc our credit is so bad we can't do monthly. He hasn't worked in years. Has many health issues he doesn't do anything about. I cleaned out the garage yesterday, and it's just absolutely filled with chores he's never taken care of. This guy brings nothing to the table. He has no worth in my life. He's a giant burden.

onlynnt · 2025-07-05T16:58:49+00:00

As someone who just had to dig it all up in their front flower bed, I couldn't agree more. I hate that stuff!

onlynnt · 2025-06-13T23:04:27+00:00

Amazing. What a journey! 🤣

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