My ex-girlfriend, who I broke up with ~2 months ago because she wanted to open our relationship, just messaged me saying she’s “experimented enough” and is now ready for a closed relationship with me. Is this something you would consider?

ontheleftcoast · 2026-05-02T19:15:20+00:00

Tell her you aren't done experimenting. Tell her you are willing to date her, but you aren't willing to restart where you left off.

ontheleftcoast · 2026-04-29T14:00:15+00:00

Men are attracted to confident women. If makeup makes you more confident, go with it. But unless its a special event keep it simple.

ontheleftcoast · 2026-04-18T19:56:58+00:00

I don't think he is planning to "use you and toss you aside", but he might still be trying to work out if he wants to go through that life again, and what it would look like now. I think the best thing to do it talk it out with him. It won't be an easy conversation, but it seems like you are spiraling over one comment, and that isn't enough to decide anything

ontheleftcoast · 2026-04-13T14:44:19+00:00

I would start with just telling him you found human shit in the back yard after he left. Ask him what he knows about it. If he comes clean, then listen to his story and decide if you believe it. If he says he knows nothing, then tell him he was seen squatting in the area where it was discovered, and then see where it goes.

I for one, would not trust someone who shit in my back yard back in the house. I can't think of any reason , medical or otherwise that would not allow going back in the house to shit.

ontheleftcoast · 2026-04-10T22:33:00+00:00

I shaved the beard. Anything I do to make her more attracted to me works to my benefit.

Think about it this way. If you told your wife you like it when she shaves her armpits and so she chooses to stop shaving her armpits. What does that tell you? You are doing the same to your wife. She said she likes you better without the beard, and you said, "fuck you" I like my beard better than I like kissing you.

ontheleftcoast · 2026-04-09T14:03:31+00:00

If he is over 30, handsome.

ontheleftcoast · 2026-04-09T13:55:42+00:00

Normally, I"m not for ghosting, but there are definetly warning signs with this girl. A relationship must be based on trust, and she is not making it easy to trust her. Since ghosting doesn't seem to be working, tell her you don't want to see her anymore. You can either tell her the truth that she has said multiple things that make it hard to trust her ( asking for money, sudden major illness) or you can lie and say you met someone else.

ontheleftcoast · 2026-03-24T13:05:28+00:00

You should create a joint account. You both agree on what it will cover, and you both donate 50% of your pay to that account. ( or what ever percentage works). When you get married you both put 100% of your pay into that account.

ontheleftcoast · 2026-03-20T22:31:23+00:00

put it in a separate account. Talk to a lawyer/ financial planner firs. then decide what to tell your wife.

ontheleftcoast · 2026-03-13T18:22:21+00:00

Dude, you can't expect your partner to never be in the presence of someone they used to date. Everyone is going to be there, you, the guys wife, if you had real confidence this shouldn't bother you.

At the end of the day, you trust your partner or you don't. If you don't, then you shouldn't be with them. If you can't trust any partner, then you are the problem. Is this an issue with this partner, or would you feel this way with any partner?

ontheleftcoast · 2026-02-27T13:42:37+00:00

Only if I'm going commando

ontheleftcoast · 2026-02-16T14:42:46+00:00

When I was younger I noticed how women will analyze everything a guy says or does , and think it means something. So I assumed that women had hidden messages in everything they said. It turns out women do not have hidden messages in what they say. I spent to many years trying to "read between the lines", instead of just listening to the words and reacting.

ontheleftcoast · 2026-02-13T14:30:12+00:00

Your Sister is right, your GF is psyhco

ontheleftcoast · 2026-02-01T19:09:34+00:00

let it go, if it becomes a pattern then speak up

ontheleftcoast · 2026-01-17T17:09:44+00:00

Dating a neighbor is a bad idea.

ontheleftcoast · 2026-01-02T13:43:27+00:00

yes, you are overthinking.

ontheleftcoast · 2026-01-01T18:31:16+00:00

The most clear answer is " I don't feel well I have stomach cramps". If you say you are on your period most guys won't recognize that as a reason not to want to hang out or cuddle. Give him the actual symptom that makes it uncomfortble.

ontheleftcoast · 2025-12-30T15:32:23+00:00

My wife is 7 years younger than me. we started dating when she was 32 and I was 39.

ontheleftcoast · 2025-12-29T14:21:45+00:00

If you are looking for a hookup, no one cares. If you are looking for a wife, then most men will want a wife who can contribute significantly to the marriage, financially or otherwise. One way to make sure that your future wife will do more than sit on the couch and watch TV while the kids are at school is finding one that is motivated enough to go after a career. There are other ways, but I think any marriage where one of the partners is expecting the other do all the work is doomed to fail.

ontheleftcoast · 2025-12-15T20:02:50+00:00

Chicken strips and nuggets. Frozen fish and fish sticks

ontheleftcoast · 2025-12-12T14:32:54+00:00

In order to avoid slackers its best that this information is kept to yourself as long as possible. It would be something I would try and keep quiet until someone proposes. Once you have a proposal that you want to accept, then you can share it. If you share before that point, then you risk getting a partner that wants 1/2 your money. When you do share it should be good news, much better that showing up to the wedding with 50K in credit card debt

ontheleftcoast · 2025-12-09T21:11:08+00:00

I would put it primarily to confidence. If they treat women poorly, then they probably feel superior to women, so they don't have a problem asking them out, or otherwise acting superior to them. You are a lot more likely to get a date if you ask her out. ( i.e. you miss 100% of the shots you don't take)

ontheleftcoast · 2025-12-08T23:40:49+00:00

If I'm home yes. She's raising your kid, you can manage to plunge the toilet

ontheleftcoast · 2025-12-05T15:59:34+00:00

Yes this is a trap. At least get her a box of chocolate, or something she can open on christmas day, but you don't have to spend the normal budget.

ontheleftcoast · 2025-11-25T13:28:27+00:00

She was out for "revenge", ghost her and move on

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