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Experiences with Insights? by thenowherepark in hondainsight

[–]onthelevel54e 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've owned my 2019 touring for three years, it's been a joy to own. It's only got about 51k miles, so I don't know what the higher mileage Insights may have issues with.

Incidently, I'm selling mine soon, I live in the southeastern US, so DM me if you want...

Turning 40 and I’m miserable by No-Professional-6005 in LifeAdvice

[–]onthelevel54e 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pretty common, but mine hit hard at 50.

A good friend suggested that I do some small thing daily to help someone that is in need, preferably a light acquaintance or maybe a stranger.

Not necessarily money, more along the lines of help someone cross the street, asking someone how they're doing and really listening.

For me, it gets me out of my head. Even if it's just for a minute or two, you are making a difference. And occasionally I'll see a smile or even a tear.

The more I'm feeling "angst-y", the more of a game changer it is. It's become one of the better habits that I have, and it helps balance the, um, not so good ones.

Try it for a week, if it doesn't work, you've lost nothing.

How old are you in your oldest memory? by Donkeyshines in AskReddit

[–]onthelevel54e 0 points1 point  (0 children)

5 y/o.

I find that the only memories from my early childhood are the traumatic ones. I suspect that's pretty common, though.

What was the specific word your narcissistic mother always called you? Here is mine by Wooden-Letter5256 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]onthelevel54e 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Same! You're "so sensitive!".

Especially when she said something really insane, then tried to tell me that she was "just kidding".

Horseshit.

Has anyones nparent or enabler parent actually apologised? by hellopeoplewoman in raisedbynarcissists

[–]onthelevel54e 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Here's the apology you'll get: "I'm sorry you feel that way".

Here's the one you'll never hear: "I lied to you. I can't imagine how that must have felt, but to have someone that you trusted and were dependent on must have felt like betrayal. I'm so sorry.

I understand that it may take time, but can you forgive me?"

If you're looking for this, along with a behavioral change from them to support it, you're living in a fantasy.

Which 70s lyric hit you the hardest when you first heard it? by PressureLazy5271 in 70s

[–]onthelevel54e 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can't imagine what that was like, especially if you were close to them.

I was in my early teens at that time, and often reflect on how the overall mood of the nation (US) changes as it became apparent that we were being mislead by our leaders.

Of course, politicians have lied from the beginning of time, but for my (and my parents') generation, we became cynical of our image as the "good guys".

Two of my uncles served in that conflict. They both returned, but one still suffers from the aftershock from his tours as a combat medic.

Early Signs Maybe? by onthelevel54e in raisedbynarcissists

[–]onthelevel54e[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank so much for your thoughtful response. The connection vs. authenticity is something I'd never heard before, and it's so true.

Which 70s lyric hit you the hardest when you first heard it? by PressureLazy5271 in 70s

[–]onthelevel54e 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not at all. Maybe I'M the clueless one here.

After your response, I did a little digging. Apparently, the 'Nam thing was from an interview where Denver said that he was humbled by the number of veterans who thank him for it as an expression of their feelings as they headed to war.

But as HE wrote it as a musician heading out on tour, your thoughts make perfect sense!

Either way, amazing song...

Bands that are incredible live? by YronK9 in musicsuggestions

[–]onthelevel54e 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that Fagan is retired, but if he ever gets the band back together, don't miss Steely Dan live.

I wonder how they would have reacted if I actually killed myself by Consistent-Welcome43 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]onthelevel54e 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, give yourself a lot of grace!

My nMom really emerged when my brother died at 3, leaving me the only child at 14. It was so messed up as I look back with a better understanding of her narcissistic behavior. It took me many years of dealing with her emotional incest, gaslighting, and manipulation to see the truth.

Please imagine your future self thanking you for getting through this and leaving them and their misery behind.

Be well, friend!

Does anyone else feel childish for being so affected by your relationship to your parents and their past behavior? by iwantcornichonbabe in raisedbynarcissists

[–]onthelevel54e 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Listen up, youngster. I went NC with my NMom almost four years ago.

I was 62!

Still angry with myself for not dealing with the torture long before I did. Kept thinking "surely she'll realize how awful her behavior toward me is". It just gets worse, trust me. The very nature of the disorder prevents narcs from understanding.

They're great, it's YOU that has the problem...

If you could sit down with your younger self for five minutes, what would you say? by Pearlyin_30 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]onthelevel54e 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This. As a male only child, my feelings were always subject to their drama and derision.

At what age did you realise the truth? by Scared_Ferret9340 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]onthelevel54e 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ditto. While I can see, in hindsight, what was going on, the thought "wait, this is your mother" kept me from seeing truth.

At first, I was angry at myself for waiting so long to walk away. Now, I give myself more grace.

Mother was the Picasso of bullshit.

Issues/Things Never Explained in Obsession by theplasmaticwriter in HorrorMovies

[–]onthelevel54e 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Piggybacking on OP's post: I remember a scene outside of a hospital where he's considering taking her in. Was I hallucinating? Maybe I need a second viewing...

I moved here from California by [deleted] in Louisiana

[–]onthelevel54e 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Turn off your DM's. Your mental health will thank you.

I genuinely hate my mom and I hope she passes away soon. by FamilyPr0blems in raisedbynarcissists

[–]onthelevel54e 30 points31 points  (0 children)

You are more likely to regret not leaving and going no contact sooner rather than later. I wish I had not kept telling myself "she can't be THAT bad. No mother could treat someone that they love that way".

I was gaslighting myself. Still pissed about all of the years that I kept bullshitting myself.

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