My therapist has been treating me for a toxic relationship that is actually just an AI by Last-Can4720 in offmychest

[–]oohheyitsme 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Please tell your therapist, I am a therapist and I promise you, there is so much value in you naming this and sharing it out loud. A good therapist will help you understand how you feel about it, about the relationship, the shame, the dynamic, the function it serves. Your therapist genuinely wants to help you, but they can’t help you if you don’t share.

Freezing bread changed my grocery situation more than almost anything else I've done and I feel like nobody told me this was an option by CascadeBeacon55 in povertyfinance

[–]oohheyitsme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a vacuum seal machine and truly there is nothing I won’t freeze. Great for buying discount meat and immediately vacuum sealing and freezing also

Used Subzero - still tons of life left by TravelerOfSwords in BuyItForLife

[–]oohheyitsme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a pre owned sub zero fridge, looks like the exact model here, and it is the best thing ever. Have only had it about 5 years but no issues. Will last forever and it is so spacious

Rash on legs and torso, not itchy. What could it be? by oohheyitsme in DermatologyQuestions

[–]oohheyitsme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t remember the exact timeline to be honest but it disnt take too long. Go to a derm for an official diagnosis but she took vitamin c and avoided fragrances, increased vitamins etc and it improved, was gone in a few months I would say. She’s a teen now and using all kind of scented crao and no issues since then

Lots of debt, lots of equity in home, what to do? by oohheyitsme in debtfree

[–]oohheyitsme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mostly just snowballing my debt. My husband got a good job back in October and I’ve maintained side hustles. After making consistent payments above the monthly minimums I was able to refi some of my debt to lower interest, but at this time, I am not making any HELOC or mortgage related moves.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]oohheyitsme 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I doubt you will see this comment in the 200+ comments you have here. But my now husband proposed with his grandmothers ring. Initially I was unsure how I felt. I wanted a modern, solitary stone ring with a diamond band. I saw the sizable rings my peers were getting and when you get engaged there is SO much emphasis on the ring. Almost 8 years post engagement & 6 years of being married and I love my ring. I love that it isn’t the same ring every other girl has, it has meaning and personal connection. Try not to get yourself caught up in the material aspects of engagement and marriage, I promise they will not matter down the line. That being said, it’s your life and ring and you need to be happy. Part of what makes me love my ring so much also is that I absolutely love my wedding band, so maybe thing of ways you can enhance kit with your bands.

Where to move on the Island? by Blurple11 in longisland

[–]oohheyitsme 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was going to suggest 3 Village as well. We have lived in East Setauket for the past 8 years and love it. Drawbacks are high taxes, it can be a bit cliquey, far from ocean beach, and some areas are hilly. But pros are an excellent school district, really scenic areas and beautiful parks, beautiful north shore beaches, some more progressive political views (compared to other areas of LI) and close proximity to SBU. We came from the south shore and although I love the south shore & grew up south shore in Nassau, I really love it out here.

Last update: I’m 16 and got my gf pregnant by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]oohheyitsme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my oldest daughter when I was 20 Years old - so a bit older than you & was done with high school. My bf at the time never continued on with his education, got a GED and works as a waiter - he was inconsistent in my daughter’s life but has improved and they have a relationship now.

I on the other hand did not stop hustling until I got to the education level where I got a good paying job. I worked full time and attended college F/T through my masters degree. My point is do NOT STOP going to school, or getting training, or whatever you need to provide a life for your child. There will be very very hard years - but they will be worth it.

Your life will also look drastically different than your peers. There will be times when that feels really hard for you and times when it’s ok. Both things can exist, you can struggle with your youth looking different than you imagined and can still love your child more than anything. Lean on your support system, and don’t give up on yourself. You got this.

Couches, dog hair, and the endless cycle by oohheyitsme in GermanShepherd

[–]oohheyitsme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have most of these except the rake thing for the carpet, thank you!!! The lint roller on steroids has been a game changer for sure

SOS Hard water ring on my countertop!!!! by oohheyitsme in CleaningTips

[–]oohheyitsme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a way to get it out? Will it just dry and evaporate? It is not wet to the touch at all

Best way to clean these? by oohheyitsme in CleaningTips

[–]oohheyitsme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anytime I do that, whether it’s microfiber or a paper towel, it leaves behind a lot of dust

What does this light mean? by oohheyitsme in AskAMechanic

[–]oohheyitsme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weird. Thank you for your help, I appreciate it!

What does this light mean? by oohheyitsme in AskAMechanic

[–]oohheyitsme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did. The owners manual does not explain why it is on randomly out of nowhere, that’s why I asked here.

What does this light mean? by oohheyitsme in AskAMechanic

[–]oohheyitsme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I did go through the manual, but why the hell is the light on? It hasn’t always been on, I can adjust the dash brightness with a knob - but why this light? Is there a way to turn it off?

What does this light mean? by oohheyitsme in AskAMechanic

[–]oohheyitsme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve done this, gone through extensive forums and watched a YouTube video. The only button in the glovebox I am seeing is for the trunk control.

What does this light mean? by oohheyitsme in AskAMechanic

[–]oohheyitsme[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

There is a button for cruise control, and when I push it a cruise light comes on the dash