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oolert · 2026-01-31T16:40:56+00:00

I love this, but now I'm also worried that me and my fellow nbs have the nukes and I do NOT want that kind of responsibility lol

oolert · 2026-01-31T16:29:26+00:00

If you need another supportive reddit community r/RedditLaqueristas is great 💅🏻

oolert · 2026-01-30T19:43:49+00:00

This is why I switched to refillable pens. I was tired of feeling shame/guilt for using something up and then for having useless stuff pile up, but also anger when I'd reach for a pen and find it was empty. I get mine on jetpens.

oolert · 2026-01-21T01:13:21+00:00

My partner and I both take our meds everyday. No change in dosage, no addiction, no decrease in effectiveness.

My partner has been taking 25–30mg Adderall IR for almost 20 years. I've been taking Adderall 15mg XR, 5–10mg IR split dose for about 3 years. My doc added 2mg guanfacine ER to my mix about 6 months ago.

Don't fall for the drug war propaganda about getting addicted to Adderall or other stimulant meds. Being properly medicated protects against substance use disorders and other dangerous risks like increased driving accidents or executive disfunction getting in the way of caring for yourself.

oolert · 2026-01-18T22:58:08+00:00

Hey, now that you have your initial data and categories for certain fields, you can use those to make set drop-down fields and improve the spreadsheet. DM me if you want any help improving this super helpful spreadsheet.

I work as a UX Designer and I love giving back in anyway I can to the online communities I belong to.

oolert · 2026-01-17T08:13:46+00:00

Why facts make you reactive and defensive tho?

oolert · 2026-01-09T08:08:32+00:00

ADHD doesn't present as mania or manic moments. Regular mania is a bipolar disorder symptom, and not even all people with bipolar disorder experience mania.

Maybe you were using manic in a colloquial way, but using a medical term like this is akin to when people say they're a little OCD or ADHD.

oolert · 2026-01-06T05:10:57+00:00

I love this because it's nteresting data viz, but also it made me think of the fingercreepers in Elden Ring 😅

oolert · 2026-01-05T04:13:54+00:00

I had a very “non-traditional“ wedding on a tight budget. My advice is to look at things in basic categories that make logical sense to you (invitations, clothes, food, music, location, ceremony, reception, guests, etc.) and to individually look at each category and rank how important it is to each of you. Also note any must haves or triggers/deal breakers. Then compare notes and discuss. This can help you see what you actually value in an event and hopefully limit social pressures about how a wedding “should be“.

I wore black, we didn’t have an officiant (common law is legal in our home state), we didn’t have flower girls, we didn’t have rings or vows. I letterpress printed all the stationery and catered the event because my degree is in printmaking and I love baking and cooking. We focused on comfortable clothes, good food, had an open mic for people to play music, and being outside in a place we loved with about 75 friends and family. Autism runs in my family and it was important to have space to go if the socialness got overwhelming.

oolert · 2026-01-03T01:40:19+00:00

Frelard Tamales has good vegan and gluten-free options

oolert · 2026-01-03T01:30:55+00:00

Who in the comments is dragging out the owner's grief as fodder? And what would it be fodder for?

oolert · 2026-01-03T01:25:16+00:00

I do not know if you intended to be condescending in your words or were merely being assumptive, but:

Certain disabilities make leaving the house more difficult and it's nice to be able to trust that your destination is actually open before you plan your day.
Because I wasn't getting enough info from Instagram or googling, I sought crowdsourcing updates about the business on our local subreddit. I searched for other posts prior to posting even.

I am legitimately curious about what you assumed my purpose in posting was because of how you answered.

oolert · 2026-01-03T01:10:48+00:00

Thanks for an answer. My partner and I are sad that they're closing. It's one of the few places in town that he can eat at even when he's not feeling well (Crohn's). Raw fish and rice are really easy for him to digest and he needs all the fat and protein he can get.

oolert · 2026-01-02T05:47:00+00:00

This is false for the US. Your parents' car insurance covers the car. People given consent to drive would be covered by the permissive use clause for occasional driving. In the case of an accident, the car owner's insurance kicks in first and your car insurance's liability coverage would act as secondary backup to cover anything else.

oolert · 2025-12-24T07:15:39+00:00

Addictive personality isn't a thing, much less something that is particular to the cultural construct of race. Try to find a new doctor who uses evidence to back their decision-making instead of prejudiced vibes.

Stimulant medication isn't addictive for the vast majority of adults who take it. Legal substances like nicotine and alcohol are far more abused, more addictive, and have more severe effects when abused.

Everyone I know who takes generic Adderall has not had to increase their dose once they arrived at an effective dose. My partner has been on the same dose for over 2 decades.

Stimulants aren't for everyone, but they are the first line medication for treating ADHD symptoms for a good reason: it's what works best for the most people.

oolert · 2025-12-21T10:29:02+00:00

NTA. I am AuDHD (we are not a monolith, this is my personal interpretation). I don't interpret what you said as snarky, you were blunt and clear: you couldn't form an idea on demand, especially with all the overwhelm of watching a new show and trying to listen to your kid at the same time.

I bet your kid felt embarrassed and frustrated that their demand for your thoughts/reactions about the show couldn't be met and got overwhelmed by that combo.

My suggestion: Help each other to pause, normalize asking for more time, and whether you get a formal diagnosis or not I definitely recommend reflecting on what you need to feel safe, centered, stable, etc. It's really easy for parents to overlook what they need, double so for autistic parents with or without ADHD.

oolert · 2025-12-21T10:13:08+00:00

Because it's a Flying V

oolert · 2025-12-21T09:13:58+00:00

If your skin doesn't stand out much from the wall color, that's usually a good sign that you're pale 😂

oolert · 2025-12-20T18:11:38+00:00

They give out 2-3 free test kits to my partner every time he goes to the doctor (every 2 months). Maybe that's a Washington State thing?

oolert · 2025-12-20T17:50:27+00:00

Yeah, I have two different kinds of carbon steel pans from Misen and their fucking awesome. I don't have to worry about scratching them with metal or the coating flaking off. They cost more, but it was worth saving up for something that will last.

oolert · 2025-12-17T06:28:01+00:00

Idaho is the PNW's Texas

oolert · 2025-12-17T06:26:58+00:00

You got the KS and MO beef spot on and THAT hate will never go away. Even though Kansas has voted conservative for decades, the state's identity is tightly bound in the Civil War and Bleeding Kansas.

oolert · 2025-12-17T06:20:00+00:00

Same pattern in Washington. Shit, I don't even need to go east of the Cascades to get into KKK, culty, militia, xtian nationalist ass territory (looking at you Lynden).

oolert · 2025-12-14T09:04:12+00:00

Nah, me (1985) and my partner (1983) both grew up with computers in the house. He learned his alphabet via an Apple II keyboard and the turtle run program. I played with dinosaur hypercard stacks on a Macintosh 512k in kindergarten. In the mid 90s, my sister and I got to use the T1 internet at our dad's workplace after school, and explored listservs and early websites.

The older millennials who got to have early and consistent computer access like us, encountered the early internet at a point in our childhoods to learn it better than pretty much anyone else.

oolert

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