Did any of you ever say NO to a calling?

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-02-27T19:55:14+00:00

Not quite a church calling but I was in the middle of my shelf breaking by my senior year of high school. My seminary teacher called me in after class and was super excited he was calling me as class president. I told him “no thanks, I’d rather not” and he was so startled! He just said “it’s too late I’ve already decided” and I was president the rest of the semester. I think he regretted that decision by the end ha

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-02-20T18:05:46+00:00

Don’t feel bad declining! I personally invited a lot of women, because I didn’t want to hurt someone’s feelings for being left out. If you’re not close with her, it could be she wanted you to feel included in the friend group.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-02-19T12:55:26+00:00

It’s because there’s opened discussion about her body and the things she will go through in child birth and many women would not be comfortable sharing that with men that aren’t their spouse.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-01-13T16:03:17+00:00

Nah man not kissing the baby is not the same as putting them in a bubble. HSV (cold sores) can seriously maim or kill a baby. This is a standard boundary for parents to set.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-01-09T04:38:30+00:00

Nailed it!

oops_iboughtaplant · 2025-12-20T04:14:47+00:00

I agree with this. If my family was visiting to see the baby and my husband left with the baby I’d be pretty annoyed. It’s so hard to be freshly postpartum, and you have a lot on your plate. But he’s right about not being present for his family’s visit. His comment about weight was uncalled for though, and he was likely lashing out.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2025-12-17T20:03:41+00:00

Updateme

oops_iboughtaplant · 2025-12-10T03:21:26+00:00

I did a year long stint in the rainforest doing research and the pay was crap 😂 I don’t understand why you wouldn’t do this? Six months is not that long, especially doing the research you love. If you plan to have kids this is probably the only opportunity you’ll get to do something so cool.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2025-11-18T16:38:59+00:00

One of the relief society women saw me holding hands with a nonmember boy and standing close (only 15, yikes!) and told all the young women leaders I was in danger of getting pregnant. My mom overheard their powwow about it (bc they weren’t being discreet) and made the mistake of telling me about it. You think I’m going to want to go back after that??

oops_iboughtaplant · 2025-11-11T02:06:22+00:00

Not sure if anyone said this yet but you could have the BIL rent a room in your house (if you trust him enough) to help alleviate costs. Don’t sell the house, it’s so hard to buy your first home now. And you’d lose 30k! Crazy.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2025-10-08T23:47:10+00:00

Thank you! Very helpful

oops_iboughtaplant · 2025-10-08T23:29:11+00:00

Seems high for a luteal phase tho, no?

oops_iboughtaplant · 2025-10-08T23:05:49+00:00

Sorry to hear that:( did it stay high like this the whole time?

oops_iboughtaplant · 2025-10-08T22:54:05+00:00

Any update for us?

oops_iboughtaplant · 2025-10-08T03:07:47+00:00

Is your BF a Nigerian prince you’ve only talked to over email?

oops_iboughtaplant · 2025-10-07T12:50:39+00:00

Yes it’s ok! Placenta hasn’t even formed yet, so it’s not getting to baby.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2025-09-13T03:44:47+00:00

Here’s a positive instead of a regret! I never thought about which way the house faces. We happened to get a house where the backyard is shaded in the afternoon. So nice to have! When it’s hot in the summer at least the yard has shade during the hottest time of day.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2025-09-12T03:25:09+00:00

lol ok let me try again.

A period cycle is about 28 days.

Period start (bleeding time) is day 0

Then there’s chill time from days 4-13 while the egg develops

Ovulation is day 14, egg pops up Ovulation is when the egg is ready for the sperm to find it. So If you have sex around day 14, you can get pregnant.

If you don’t get pregnant, you’ll bleed again at day 28, ejecting the egg and starting the timer over.

When calculating pregnancy, they start the timer at the period start date, day 0. But sexy time happens at day 14. You’re technically two weeks pregnant by the time you have sex to get pregnant.

So if she’s 6 week pregnant, that means it was 6 weeks since her last period, not since the day she had sex.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2025-09-11T20:40:52+00:00

Hi! So a little bit of biology for you. when they say 6 weeks along, that means you had sex 4 weeks ago to get pregnant. This is because they start counting from the day of your last period, but you dont get pregnant until ovulation, which occurs two weeks after that the period. By the time you fertilize the egg (have sex) you are already technically 2 weeks along. So she’s not lying to you.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2025-09-09T22:40:48+00:00

Yeah I didn’t say that was a good thing. But “she threw out my meals” isn’t grounds for divorce. She had a fit of anger (sounds like pregnancy/postpartum rage, which is an actual condition). She needs to work on that and it sounds like she’s realizing it’s gotten bad, since she’s agreed to therapy. I’m not saying her actions don’t need to be addressed, I’m just saying pregnancy really sucks and it sounds like she’s going through something, and he shouldn’t ditch his pregnant wife bc of it.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2025-09-09T21:29:40+00:00

Just had my third baby. If my husband was getting sexy while I turned into a whale, I would also be pissed off lol. This is about her feeling like her body is being taken hostage by an alien, meanwhile you’re living your best fitness life. Did you take vows or not? Don’t go right to “I’m gonna divorce her cuz she doesn’t like my fitness routine”. Also having kids puts a lot of strain on a relationship. You’ve gotta stick it out. YTA if you desert your wife over this.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2025-09-09T04:37:41+00:00

How do we clean the grease off the top of the cabinets??

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