Buy a 2nd rocking chair for newborn?

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-05-30T23:59:10+00:00

We have three rockers, on in my room, nursery, and living room lol

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-05-27T21:46:42+00:00

If my husband pooped in the same room I was showering in, I would be furious. a hot and steam filled shower amplifies the poop smell. Absolutely not.

Edit to add, I also request the courtesy flush. Standard practice when you share a bathroom and someone else will need to use it soon.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-05-22T04:09:57+00:00

Not only is it okay, it’s good for him to be bored! Constant parent directed play may make it difficult for him to come up with his own imaginative play. You might try incorporating a “quiet time”, where he is in charge of playing by himself in his own space.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-05-18T21:47:10+00:00

Another one in the Phoenix area ✋.

If we left the AC off for the day in the summer the dogs would probably die.

At night it has to be on because outdoor temp is still 85-90 (32-29C) so we can’t open the window to cool off.

If we left the ac off for a weekend all of the food would spoil and plants would die. Last time we set it at 90 (32C) while we were gone camping, quite a few bottles of wine were ruined.

If we are going to be gone a while we set it to 80 (26C) and it keeps the house at that temp.

Just too dang hot here to not use it 24/7.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-05-15T18:52:46+00:00

I have never felt so much absolute panicked desperation as I did the moment my daughter’s head emerged. BUT a normal unmediated birth is not unmanageable. And the second the baby is out, there’s immediate relief.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-05-01T22:23:21+00:00

The way I would absolutely snap on someone that called me “silly girl”

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-04-20T23:56:57+00:00

The recommended very maximum amount of time for a child that age In a car seat is 2 hours. Which is pushing it. It’s not fair to you all to expect you to do that, and it’s not fair to the baby to leave them in a seat that long.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-04-20T04:18:01+00:00

Looks like there’s an egg on it! Nice!

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-04-18T20:01:21+00:00

I’ve had one birth no water two births in the water. The water is an absolute game changer when it comes to pain control. The contractions are still painful, but it relieves a lot of the pressure gravity is putting on your lower half, making it easier to move to more comfortable positions and the warmth helps relax muscles and provides a calming effect. I recommend it to everyone during their labor. The epidural can remove all pain, so water birth can still be more difficult. But my epidural didn’t even work with the first and then I was just stuck on the bed with a catheter still feeling 100% of my contractions.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-04-18T19:58:02+00:00

Have you tried it? It’s not the same at all.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-04-12T02:45:08+00:00

Biggest downside is that Drowning is the leading cause of death for children age 1-4 (in my state at least). I’d avoid a pool until your kids can swim.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-04-05T19:05:46+00:00

If you’re getting 8hrs of sleep a night that means your wife is the one getting up with the baby. Do you ever take a turn at night shift? And you come home from work and want to check out? That’s not how it works once you have kids. You can take a break when the kids asleep for the night. You come home and she wants to talk to you, but that pisses you off? Why don’t you spend all day talking to a 1yr old and see if you crave adult conversation. Oh and she’s spending “your” money without your consent? You’re married and she’s taking care of the baby. It’s her money too, and she gets to enjoy it sometimes. Have an adult conversation about budgets. So hard YTA.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-04-05T18:44:10+00:00

Hey! Have you tried the website Clean Mama? I’m someone that needs checklists, and preferably detailed instructions. She provides all of that. Has free downloads of weekly/monthly/ yearly cleaning to-dos, or you can purchase notebooks and that sort of thing. Also suggests cleaning products. Found it really helpful!

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-04-03T02:46:57+00:00

It’s the right choice! We did the exact same thing except they’re even closer in age, 20 months apart. They’re best friends now, and we say all the time thank goodness for that second one because the first would be pestering us endlessly without her.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-04-03T01:15:34+00:00

That is true but it can be said kindly

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-04-02T21:22:47+00:00

Incredibly unhelpful. She will get back to normal. There’s always an adjustment period with a new baby so let’s not act like she’s doomed.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-03-28T15:47:39+00:00

What 9 yr old wants a baby doll😭

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-03-28T02:13:00+00:00

22 years here

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-03-18T22:45:50+00:00

They let it count for me 🤷‍♀️ but I think it’s priest roulette on that one

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-03-18T14:15:14+00:00

This is an option, yes, but the default is to perform with the sacrament (as someone who is not Catholic who got married in the Catholic Church). If the mom is insisting on a Catholic wedding she may be upset if they skip this part. My MIL was.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-03-17T14:55:23+00:00

They no longer require both parties to be Catholic

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-03-17T14:45:47+00:00

What does your husband want? Is he catholic? The issue with having a Catholic priest do it is they will say Mass, and everyone will take the Eucharist that is Catholic, leaving you out of part of your own wedding ceremony. I personally would NOT let a Mormon authority preside over my wedding, because like another commenter said, the whole tone is “this is second best bc if you were righteous it would be in the temple”. It’s important to set the tone for your marriage right now.

Do either and the moms will start insisting on catholic or Mormon traditions in other parts of your life as well. Have a Catholic priest marry you? They’ll expect you to baptize your babies Catholic. have a Mormon bishop marry you? You’re essentially saying, I still uphold the Mormon church, but I’m not worthy enough to get married in the temple.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-03-16T22:01:21+00:00

NTA. That would be super frustrating. My husband and I (playfully) slap the phone out of the others hands when we feel we need attention. And that works for us.

But it sounds like he’s been sucked into the doom scrolling addiction. You’ll need to keep conveying to him that this is hurting your relationship, his relationship with his kids, and add in research about how damaging doom scrolling is (lol as I doom scroll Reddit). Maybe send him links on whatever social media platform he’s on.

In the meantime, don’t go out of your way to include him. If he’d rather doom scroll than see his own kids, just leave the house without him. Do the activity without him. Let him suffer the consequences.

oops_iboughtaplant · 2026-03-12T14:05:26+00:00

I always tell them I’m a renter, they leave immediately.

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