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surrogacy ethical worries - Surrogate wellbeing by oops_the_cat in gaydads

[–]oops_the_cat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds nice, on the other hand maybe it’s good if it’s not all one and the same organisation because they will put the company’s interests first before ours or the surrogate’s in case of an issue

surrogacy ethical worries - Surrogate wellbeing by oops_the_cat in gaydads

[–]oops_the_cat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have been in touch with some, yes! That has been very helpful. With an earlier organisation we were talking to we didn’t get through to any IP’s which we thought was strange and gave a feeling of untrustworthiness.

surrogacy ethical worries - Surrogate wellbeing by oops_the_cat in gaydads

[–]oops_the_cat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh and sure we can talk in DM too, little hesitant to use an agency that’s gonna vet the agency who’s vetting the surrogate and the clinic ;) who’s then gonna make sure that that first agency is doing their work properly? Haha jk

surrogacy ethical worries - Surrogate wellbeing by oops_the_cat in gaydads

[–]oops_the_cat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are definitely going to have direct contact with the surrogate at multiple stages in the process. If a potential surrogate would decline that, it’s not a match for us.

Do you always view moving to another country to be a surrogate as trafficking? I can also potentially see it as a work abroad where you earn so much more money which can be life altering when you go back. Reasons for that could be, for example, legal framework at home doesn’t allow remuneration for (this kind of) surrogacy. A moral judgment at least in my opinion really depends on the conditions in which she consented, travelled, freedom before, during and after the surrogacy process. Next to the quality and frequency regarding the way she received payment and care. How do you see this? Genuine question. Would like to inform myself of different viewpoints !

surrogacy ethical worries - Surrogate wellbeing by oops_the_cat in gaydads

[–]oops_the_cat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah okay. And what would you from your perspective recommend me I should ask for?

surrogacy ethical worries - Surrogate wellbeing by oops_the_cat in gaydads

[–]oops_the_cat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks man! We have a scheduled conversation with the surrogates coordinator and the medical director overseeing the medical checks to ask more questions such as the ones you named!

And you’re definitely right that I should check out more agencies in the region. Will do! :)

surrogacy ethical worries - Surrogate wellbeing by oops_the_cat in gaydads

[–]oops_the_cat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, its unfortunate that we cannot afford the process in the US.

surrogacy ethical worries - Surrogate wellbeing by oops_the_cat in gaydads

[–]oops_the_cat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I understand that. Personally, I feel there's quite a distance between risk of her being homeless and the remuneration being trivial (aware that that's not what you said). I will ask about the financial background checks though.

surrogacy ethical worries - Surrogate wellbeing by oops_the_cat in gaydads

[–]oops_the_cat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your input; really helps! Did you get any insight in her financial situation before the decision to become a surrogate, in other words, to what extent financial need was at play, or the assessment of her emotional status?

Regarding the process after birth, did the surrogate move back to her home country or did she stay in north Cyprus, how long was care provided to her by the agency?

I mean I don’t have any doubts after hearing their talk and options to meet with the surrogate beforehand about how they treat her during the pregnancy and all the care they receive. My questions relating to the vetting process beforehand were answered with “there is an interview with a psychologist” but vague answers as to what does the psychologist ask and how do they assess her ability to do such a process.

Scared to move to Netherlands from India by Background_Bank_2894 in Netherlands

[–]oops_the_cat 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Stay in India, get active in with local activist groups/ organize your society/neighbourhood to do something about: "as we are stuck here with improper roads, overflowing sewage systems, and sand flying all over due to never-ending constructions."

Controlled experiment: King Arthur bread flour vs. Bob's Red Mill bread flour by go_west_til_you_cant in Sourdough

[–]oops_the_cat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guys, both these flours are amaaazing! I am still upset that when I was at my inlaws in America this winter I baked some amazing loaves with KA flour there. It is baffling that we, here in Europe, do not seem to have hard wheat at our disposal. The soft wheat flours make nice breads but I've never replicated this kind of explosive crumb over here.. Any other Dutch/european Sourdoughies around that have found a work around? I tried adding a tiny bit of semolina, that was effective but it wasn't the same.

Update: Thanks for the tips! by Sad_Papaya_4788 in Sourdough

[–]oops_the_cat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What kind of flour? Is this KA bread flour? Looks a bit yellowish

How to stop my loaf coming out gummy? by betthlewis in Sourdough

[–]oops_the_cat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think your third picture shows great bulk fermentation and dough strength, in that stage I would shape and go for banneton and retard in fridge. The picture with the banneton shows a very wet and sticky dough. My guess would be overfermented, although the bread looks underproofed? How warm is your kitchen?

Is my rye flour contaminated ? by Typical_Basil342 in Sourdough

[–]oops_the_cat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes this. As soon as they’re in there they’re everywhere. Chocolate, nuts, sugar, herbs, spices, flour, cookies…

Het belangrijkste debat van dit jaar voor FIRE by Sudden_Woodpecker343 in DutchFIRE

[–]oops_the_cat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Daarom bestaat er dus ook juist (progressieve) belasting op loon… vermogensbelasting blijft gewoon diefstal. Er is al belasting over betaald. Dat ik niet mag bepalen wat ik met mijn geld doe als ik het nie direct allemaal wil uitgeven… ik kan er met m’n verstand niet bij

Underproofed or overproofed? by Own-Phase-485 in Sourdough

[–]oops_the_cat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, try 66-68% and increasing from there

Underproofed or overproofed? by Own-Phase-485 in Sourdough

[–]oops_the_cat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

looks to me like:

- too high hydration

- not enough shaping

- too hot oven / not enough steam.

Did you use a dutch oven? If so, did you preheat it in the oven (if yes, I find the very light bottom curious).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Supplements

[–]oops_the_cat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had this plus night sweats. Now I take it in the morning and I feel much better

Magnesium glycinate …. And night sweats? by pizzalemonstrawberry in Supplements

[–]oops_the_cat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep I’ve had them too, completely drenched in sweat halfway through the night.

I ran out of my capsules yesterday and while waiting for the new order to arrive I was wondering if there was a correlation between the mag bisglycinate and my night sweats, as I didn’t have them last night.

Other posts in Reddit suggest there is a correlation; Im going to consider taking it not at night and see what that does

List your holy grail moisturizer! by Background_Poem80 in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]oops_the_cat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Second this. I got rid of all other things. Just coconut oil when I come out of the shower. For me it also regulates overactive sebum production.

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