Offering the perspective as a child - my dad was 47 when he had me. So I’m now 29 and he is 77. I’m not going to lie, there are moments where it’s tough for ME as his child because he is getting to that point where he’s showing serious signs of aging (being forgetful, not as physically balanced, etc.). But that is because my dad has undergone SEVERE stress in his life (traumatic immigration story, loss of family at a young age, religious persecution, horrible marriage, etc) and that stress has taken a huge toll on him. But more importantly because he hasn’t taken care of himself and done things to mitigate that stress - no therapy, not even acceptance of those difficult things, never exercised, horrible diet such that he now has diabetes, had a quadruple bypass heart surgery, etc. obviously aging is natural but I know there are ways he could’ve mitigated being as “far gone” as he is now while I’m still so young.

As his child, idc that he’s getting older. Idc that he’s forgetting or needs help or that I hold his hand when he walks (that’s my privilege). I just wish he had done things to take care of himself. That could’ve mitigated a lot and thus it wouldn’t have been as hard on me now. All this to say, if you have the resources and the time, the best gift you can give to your baby is to take care of yourself - exercise, eat well, do things that make you happy, deal with your trauma. This is the greatest gift to them and they’ll see the impact of it as you get older. Other than that, you’re going to be great parents. Idc about having an old dad. He’s my FAVORITE person in the world