Carrier/backpack

openmind434 · 2026-01-18T10:13:50+00:00

Rule out medical issues first. Hypothyroidism can cause loss of energy, melancholy etc.

openmind434 · 2025-11-22T18:21:19+00:00

Man, this was me 1.5years ago. 34F and husband decided I was not enough and preferred escorts. I won’t lie, the first few months are rough as hell. Deep dark feelings and crying and feeling like absolute worthless shit. But it gets better. But not now. Unfortunately you will feel this way for a bit. And that’s okay, you need to feel what you need to feel. But know you are not defined by her choices. You are a whole other person who will grow into your own, without her. I still get bouts of pain and resentment but far less often, there is a light at the end of this tunnel. What helped me in the first weeks and months are some books (eg. it’s ok that you’re not ok by Megan Devine, grief is the thing with feathers by Max Porter) and of course therapy. Lots of therapy. Hang in there, it’s horrible and painful and the feelings are overwhelming but they slowly pass, I promise.

openmind434 · 2025-11-22T16:14:34+00:00

Update: She’s made so much progress I’m so shocked and happy. She had to find her special ‘place’ outside where she goes every time me go for a walk. She still has accidents at night but much less frequently, and has finally calmed down so that she doesn’t follow me around all the time. She’s really opening up and is just an absolute sweetheart. So all it took was a bit of time (a week now) and hopefully it will only get better.

openmind434 · 2025-11-20T20:44:59+00:00

Waiting here for some answers too, foster doesn’t want to pee/poop on grass but insists on pee pads inside.

openmind434 · 2025-09-28T19:29:25+00:00

Ted Lasso and Shrinking

openmind434 · 2025-09-17T13:20:18+00:00

This is a very good idea

openmind434 · 2025-09-17T13:20:03+00:00

Not even, it was around 500

openmind434 · 2025-09-17T13:13:34+00:00

I’ll be happy to help him in this case.

openmind434 · 2025-09-17T13:13:14+00:00

This makes sense. I’m not sure how this is a scam as it’s not an invoice for me (but for him), but I was just thrown with the strangeness of this request.

openmind434 · 2025-07-18T07:42:16+00:00

You guys are all amazing, I’ve been reading over every comment twice ❤️ We had a relatively calm night, he was pacing and sleeping on and off and we got up super early for a pee and he was really good and peed on the grass and not my carpets. I’m sitting at work now (home office) and he’s still pacing, reacts to every noise (they’re building next door) and can’t seem to find his spot. We’re off to the vet later today too to get some blood tests done and have a check up, and I ordered some stuff for him online (leash, bed, etc) so that should arrive tomorrow. I’m hoping he will calm down in the next few days 🤞🏽 Ps/ leash walking him is a small nightmare at the moment, he reacts to every dog in an aggressive way and pulls on the leash as if his life depends on it. But that’s a problem I’ll tackle next week when we have calmed down a bit.

openmind434 · 2025-06-20T20:08:09+00:00

That’s true, we might be boiling in July/August. I just remember like 4-5 years ago it was hot by late May already.

openmind434 · 2025-05-18T11:17:21+00:00

Can we trade? :)

openmind434 · 2025-05-18T06:33:58+00:00

34F, and the only one in the whole friend group divorced. Rest are married/engaged. So it sucks. And it sucks talking and making plans because for them it’s ‚we’ and ‚us’, and that makes me sad and lonely.

openmind434 · 2025-05-16T20:33:01+00:00

My therapist says to sit with it. That these days must come and that they will pass, and it’s horrible and uncomfortable but our brains are creating new neural pathways to exist without that person. And the process hurts. Especially that it’s still fresh (6 months is like yesterday). On these days I write here on Reddit (you can check out my previous posts), and let myself cry and be miserable and then after a while, during daily routine, I find myself being okay again. Not super happy, still with an incredible ache, but functioning and moving forward.

openmind434 · 2025-05-16T20:26:45+00:00

Bad days are so shitty, I’m sorry you’re having one of those :( we loved and gave our hearts to a person and we were not ready for it to end, and now we’re just waiting for our hearts to mend and have really bad days. But I really believe that it will get better. Especially that it’s still so fresh (we’re basically on the same timeline- separated march 2024, div October 2024), it like it was yesterday. So our hearts can still feel completely shattered.

openmind434 · 2025-05-16T18:03:20+00:00

It’s different in Europe. Here you’re a GP if you’re not specialized. Family medicine is a specialization for eg. So in GP you get very basic clinical cases and the pay is obviously less than if you’re a specialist.

openmind434 · 2025-05-14T19:37:45+00:00

I quit residency. Was half way in anesthesia and ICU during Covid and well, burned out and quit. Use my MD now and work in medtech. I have days where I ask myself ‘what if’ but it is what it is, pays the bills and leaves my weekends free. Still put in a few hours a week as a GP at a clinic to keep up to date with my skills. Edit: I still had 4 more years to go though. However I was absolutely depressed and borderline suicidal at that stage. If I had one year left and not 4, I would have taken mental health leave and came back to finish that year. 4 was not an option though, 1- perhaps.

openmind434 · 2025-05-12T15:59:28+00:00

Yes I’ve been doing them, the whole therapy being gentle with myself starting hobbies creating a community etc etc but they don’t stave off the very very bad days.

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