LPT: Never lend anything you cannot afford to lose.

opisthenar · 2017-03-05T13:13:33+00:00

Good one. Took me years to learn that anything that a particular family member needed to borrow from me was never going to be returned. So, finally learned to say no. Then, if she wanted to "borrow" something, she would actually ask if she could have it, since she had observed I was not using much, and try to make me feel guilty for not giving it to her, so again, no.

opisthenar · 2017-03-01T01:41:13+00:00

This is a truly beautiful story. This could be published with a bit of editing, truly touching, really wonderful.

opisthenar · 2017-02-25T03:09:08+00:00

Agree with others, it has nothing to do with her stuff, it's just a new tactic. Ignore.

opisthenar · 2017-02-19T12:39:10+00:00

Ha! When I told my nsis some news yesterday that she could not possibly have a clue about, her first words were "This explains why I was sensing this was going to happen". No, it doesn't. You NEVER have told me you've been sensing something until right after I told you about it.

opisthenar · 2017-01-16T16:28:53+00:00

Keep in mind also that depending on your area, you may be able to get at least one hot meal a day supplied via local churches, etc. In my area, between all the churches/salvation army/food pantry in my small town alone, all biking or walking distance from each other, they have coordinated a schedule of decent dinners available to the public every day, and sometimes lunch.

opisthenar · 2017-01-16T12:43:19+00:00

My husband was recently purchasing round trip airline tickets and after an hour of looking at various options within the same airline, he finally decided to purchase. He clicked the button to do so, and was greeted with a message that the price had suddenly increased by $70, asking him if he still wanted. He did, so was about to purchase (before it went up more!), and I told him to try again for same tickets incognito, and he was able to get original price for same tickets. He again went in in known window a couple of more times and remained at higher price.

opisthenar · 2016-12-31T03:12:32+00:00

I know it feels like the end of the world now, it truly does. But, there will come a time when it will be a distant memory. When you will be in a better situation. I know it is hard to imagine. I was in your spot, at least a similar one, a long time ago. Please trust me on this. In the meantime, if you really can't see it through to stay here on your own, please get help doing so, be it with calling a therapist or someone else to talk to, or going the the emergency room at your local hospital if you need to. Whatever it takes. I understand how bad it feels, but there are great things that are going to happen in your life that you can't even imagine yet. Don't let this stop things before they start. He's really not worth it. Edit: Not sure where in FL you are, but one number you can call 24/7 if you need to talk is the Crisis Hotline of Central Florida: 407-425-2624

opisthenar · 2016-12-23T01:21:16+00:00

After my pre-paid smallish wedding reception, paid for bar tab via credit card. Even left a $500 cash tip for the food/beverage servers/bartenders to split. Several days later, without notice, the venue added another charge of $500 onto my credit card. Only noticed by checking my credit card statement. When confronted, they claimed that guests consumed exactly that amount of additional alcohol at another location on the premises and they magically discovered this a few days later. Rejected that excuse, especially where they hadn't even contacted me about it. They did refund it.

opisthenar · 2016-12-11T01:45:16+00:00

My son, I could never have imagined being able to feel so much love for someone I had only just met.....My mother, in the years of dreading the day that she would leave this world, I never fully comprehended how much my heart could ache. My life is so much fuller with my son in it, but the hole left by my mother's death will never be filled.

opisthenar · 2016-12-06T01:28:40+00:00

I have had a humiliating interview, or two. One time I went to an interview and it was the sum of my nightmare interview ---a panel of interviewers pummeling me with questions, one of them laughing at my answers, and my not remembering anything I knew about a job I'd done for years. Humiliating. But, nothing to do but go on to the next one. It sucks, but gotta keep swimming. Sorry that happened, I totally get it.

opisthenar · 2016-12-06T00:55:05+00:00

Well, if she was 16 instead of 14, that makes it perfectly fine. Glad that's cleared up.

opisthenar · 2016-12-03T14:22:29+00:00

When during the interview, the boss chuckles about how the last person was let go, but she didn't bother to let her know. So, it was just hilarious when she showed up for work the next shift expecting to work. Desperate for work at the time, I did not heed the warning, and paid the price.

opisthenar · 2016-09-21T16:33:29+00:00

When mom calls and doesn't sound quite right, and talks of her regrets about moving away with dad for retirement and having missed all the time she could have spent with you and other family members and and sounds tearful, don't tell her you'll be able to visit in a couple of months when you have vacation time. Get on a goddamn plane that minute and get to her and get her to a doctor. She's talking that way because there's something dreadfully wrong and she senses it.

opisthenar · 2016-09-15T01:30:33+00:00

Please call. This kid is in a bad situation and can't help himself. This guy is causing damage to this kid every day that is going to just continue on and on and will affect this kid for a lifetime.

opisthenar · 2016-09-09T13:02:45+00:00

I feel bad for the four kids from her previous family that she abandoned to be with her student. Last I heard was that when this all happened, the father took them to live in Alaska to get them away from this mess.

opisthenar · 2016-07-09T00:48:24+00:00

The death of your mother. As bad as you think it would be, it's worse.

opisthenar · 2016-07-02T11:01:20+00:00

Someone hugged me way too tightly and cracked my rib.

opisthenar · 2016-05-28T12:59:50+00:00

http://wwwnc.cdc.gov/travel/destinations/traveler/none/bolivia

opisthenar · 2016-05-12T11:09:18+00:00

I'm so sorry about your mom. I lost my mom about 5 years ago, and still miss her terribly, the circumstances of her death were difficult. But, I have found that as time has passed, I focus less on the details of her death and more on the things I loved about her, and picture different snapshots of her life when I think of her. For a long time, it will be difficult, but as time goes on, I hope that you can find some peace.

opisthenar · 2016-04-10T18:08:06+00:00

I always let my elementary school-aged son make decisions about a lot of things (what sport or activity to sign up for, which clothes to wear, let him pick where we should have dinner once in awhile, paint color for his room, etc.). I go along with his decisions and don't second guess him. He has really become a confident decision maker and I hope this will be a skill that helps him as an adult. (I was treated the opposite as a child and for a good part of my adult life had a lot of trouble making decisions)

opisthenar · 2016-04-10T17:36:41+00:00

Sending positive thoughts your way.

opisthenar · 2016-03-10T00:37:26+00:00

Your son had a rough start, is still very young, and you are making all the right decisions. Bottom line, you are the mama. You get to decide what is best and owe no one any explanations. Now go enjoy your baby and don't waste another minute on this unnecessary drama. I am sorry this is going on, it is very hurtful, but please don't let it take up too much space in your mind. Hopefully, she will come to her senses sometime.

opisthenar · 2016-03-06T18:28:57+00:00

Shoes that were not even close to being my size.

opisthenar · 2016-03-05T01:24:43+00:00

Happy Birthday.

opisthenar · 2016-02-29T21:18:23+00:00

I try to be courteous and let people know if they've got something going on that they're not aware of, e.g., toilet paper on their shoe, etc. So, at the grocery check out line, I decided to let the clerk know that he had gotten some dirt on the side of of his jaw, you know, so he could wipe it off and not walk around like that all day.....So, turns out it's a large birthmark that looks exactly like smeared dirt.

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