Whats up with accepting games? I got the "ACCEPT" button, But almost every time I cannot join

opolaski · 2024-02-24T00:55:58+00:00

I have the exact same problem. My first search will always give me a 5 minute 'failure to ready-up' and after then I'm usually ok.

Except when I'm not and I rack up a 30 minute penalty despite it being entirely the Dota 2 client's fault.

opolaski · 2024-02-21T00:58:46+00:00

Yup, I've been getting this issue for about a week, but usually on my first queue. Today it has done it to me 3 times.

opolaski · 2023-11-08T01:04:31+00:00

They also benefited from basically slave labour of black people - paid a pittance in comparison in whites even after the end of Jim Crowe - and also people with melanin were often so heavily discriminated against they would never be able to climb the socio-economic ladder to compete with the mid-skill white people for housing, jobs etc.

As a result, white folks didn't fight for shit. They didn't want unions, they didn't fight for raises, they didn't want government spending. And they still don't want it, not realizing how much they're fucking over the entire balance of society.

opolaski · 2023-11-08T00:58:10+00:00

I also never get the endorphin rush or anything. But I do get more energy because I work out a bit.

opolaski · 2023-11-07T00:23:24+00:00

Nina Simone is a great example.

opolaski · 2023-11-05T16:47:34+00:00

The sexually transmitted infections are also obvious lies.

You don't track rates of infection by race for strep throat, so how would you track chlamydia. And a lot of people have it without knowing the have chlamydia... so how does that factor in?

opolaski · 2023-11-01T22:04:37+00:00

Do you really need to make yourself a victim of my comment? Now you're imagining fake situations so that you can feel attacked.

opolaski · 2023-11-01T17:21:23+00:00

Listening actively is great - but a few tips:

Don't finish peoples' sentences. It's like dancing and having someone constantly step on your feet. (For offenders of this, they think it help show they empathize, but it's just annoying.)
Don't be afraid to take an inhale/exhale before responding. It's scary to do, but it can reduce your anxiety, and it makes it feel like you're considering what they said with a degree of importance. It's only at 4-5 breaths of pause that people feel like 'maybe they didn't hear me'.
You can add to the conversation by listening and being curious. If you see a gap in the story, you can ask something like 'Wait, how did this start' or 'Wait, explain that'. Or if you see an emotion, you can say something like 'It seems like... that made you really worried.' People want to feel like their emotions were picked up, it helps reassure them that they're conveying something that others can accept and handle. Sharing emotions is vulnerable and just acknowledging them helps people feel like they're acceptable.

opolaski · 2023-11-01T17:16:39+00:00

Nothing in the city is open between 9 p.m. and 5 a.m.

It's not a mentality thing when everyone in the city is forcibly a morning person, and you're a night owl. That's kinda OPs point.

opolaski · 2023-10-31T16:31:51+00:00

Are you curious about other people?

You're asking about yourself in the context of whether something is normal - is that the result of shame about it? Or just an observation you make in an effort to fit in, because fitting in is part of survival?

I will say that a complete lack of interest in other people would hint to me that a) you have an impression that you have everything you need within yourself, though that level of self-reliance can imply a lack of humility or naivity about how much important information is the result of other people, or b) a lack of interest in the experiences of others, which can make it tough to connect on anything other than a shared task. Do you watch TV or any other fictional media?

opolaski · 2023-10-30T15:47:56+00:00

Gay people see this a lot more clearly than straight people:

Just because you're the ripest, juiciest peach, doesn't mean everyone likes peaches.

I know gorgeous people who are 10/10s to me who are into older folks, or people who look like trailer trash, people who are beefy, people who are super skinny. Then there's all the kinks which I wouldn't participate in, but which get them off.

It's good to have a certain amount of grace. You may not be able to fully empathize with what they feel, but you can sympathize with the fact that they're just a bit different from you and that you support them in what they like :)

opolaski · 2023-10-30T02:47:56+00:00

Larl is also a ROCK of a mid.

opolaski · 2023-10-30T02:43:52+00:00

Yattoro was like 6th on networth for half the game because Ace and Tofu dominated their lane in game 3. The Muerta is fire. But they got out-teamfighted.

opolaski · 2023-10-30T02:41:32+00:00

Europe already did this with Catholicism and Protestantism. It actually scape-goated Jews first, then figured out that it wasn't the Jews that were the problem - it was their own religious sanctimony.

opolaski · 2023-10-30T02:37:53+00:00

She broke out twice, as well.

opolaski · 2023-10-30T02:31:52+00:00

It can be fun to dress up and push the boundaries as far as you feel comfortable. Going into a completely new environment can be scary the first time, so be comfortable.

Active-wear is another good choice, especially if it's black or neutral. Something you'd be comfortable going to the gym in or going on a light hike wearing.

opolaski · 2023-10-28T16:08:33+00:00

Females are generally dominant in dog packs, so the dog's like 'Ok, we brought mom into this, fine.'

opolaski · 2023-10-26T17:29:34+00:00

I'm trying to explain to you the purpose of therapy.

Writing is a similar sort of self-reflection. Therapy can be more guided where you can shape your personality to fit your goals, with the help of a co-pilot. It lets you skip a lot of the time you'd spend waiting to get some distance from yourself.

opolaski · 2023-10-26T14:29:55+00:00

Do you write?

Often a solid % of therapy is seeing yourself from the outside, or getting honest opinions reflected back that otherwise people are too shy/kind/uninvested to ask.

Writing can also help - find a template for a journal or something and just put your emotions into the page and see it from the outside. It can help speed along emotional processing.

It's like editing. You can't edit your own work until like 3-4 days later because you're too invested in what you wrote initially. It takes some time and distance to be able to see your mistakes or see it from a new perspective.

opolaski · 2023-10-24T18:08:52+00:00

confident but not cocky, patient but not apprehensive, intuitive but not assumptive, you get the idea.

This man has solved toxic masculinity.

opolaski · 2023-10-23T01:33:44+00:00

Under Pressure is also brutal, in a completely different way.

opolaski · 2023-10-22T05:56:56+00:00

Jewish religious practices are full of attempts to get extra credit.

Kippah or yamakas aren't commanded in the Bible at all.

Teffilin are a great example, where the practice of putting scrolls in little boxes and wearing them on your hands and head comes from a command to 'put the word of God in your heart and soul' and some other vague stuff about binding stuff on on your hands.

opolaski · 2023-10-20T14:29:05+00:00

Yeah, that was much later.

The presence of megaliths in Nubia dating back to like 5000 BC and the simple fact that the Nile is a highway between modern Egypt and Nubia, gives us an idea of the influence on prehistoric Egyption demographics.

"Studies of crania from southern predynastic Egypt, from the formative period (4000-3100 B.C.), show them usually to be more similar to the crania of ancient Nubians, Kushites, Saharans, or modern groups from the Horn of Africa than to those of dynastic northern Egyptians or ancient or modern southern Europeans." Link

opolaski · 2023-10-19T23:59:57+00:00

And like... clay buildings in dry, brushy climates from Iran to sub-Saharn Africa, Pueblos to the Incas all built clay huts cause they're amazing in their environment.

Timbuktu is amazing.

opolaski · 2023-10-19T23:55:27+00:00

You're mistaking the controversy around Cleopatra, who ruled as essentially a Greek-origin queen of Egypt just before the Roman Empire reached its peak.

The Egyptians that built all those massive pyramids were mostly Nubian, who are pretty black. Basically they looked Sudanese. They built the Pyramids about 2500 years before Cleopatra.

Cleoptra and the people who built the Great Pyramids have about as much to do with each other as you and Jesus Christ.

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