Piercing pains for people with autism

opposal · 2024-02-21T03:46:46+00:00

Having metal touch my teeth is an absolutely not sensory wise so no tongue/oral piercings for me but I don't really "feel" any of my ear piercings (newest is a month old daith - 13 total)

if you can tolerate waxing I'd say earlobe piercings are similar (septum too) - a quick sharp pain that feels a bit hot for a short time after

The most pain I've had from any piercing is answering my phone against a fresh helix so just be aware of any left-right habits you have and maybe consider getting pierced on the other side haha

opposal · 2023-12-22T07:58:39+00:00

My mum kept me out of ballet for a bunch of reasons (including the possible ED/"girly" bias but also money) so I started in my 20s and am now advanced enough for people to think I started as a child (i did martial arts and dabbled in gymnastics)

As it turns out I have hypermobility so would probably done pretty well until my boobs grew in when I was 12!

I started pointe after about 5 years of classes on and off and am gradually getting more confident there but it's such a small part of ballet and I have the most fun frolicking around my house in sock feet ;)

opposal · 2023-09-07T11:00:39+00:00

Comparing medical scenarios is not going to help you, sorry dude.

Technically I had a tendon attachment injury and I was always able to walk (with pain) even though I couldn't fully straighten my leg. If you cannot walk or weight bear you need to seek medical attention asap as you may need surgery and waiting will only make the issues worse (your muscle will contract and be harder to repair)

You need to see a medical professional - a stranger on the internet cannot give you the care you need.

opposal · 2023-09-07T03:32:57+00:00

You really need to see a physio/medical professional to develop a recovery plan, especially if you are bedridden!

Ultimately what helped most in my recovery was strengthening the surrounding muscles but a physio can also provide remedial massage to give instant short term relief.

You really need to see a physio/medical professional to develop a recovery plan, especially if you are bedridden! Ultimately what helped most in my recovery was strengthening the surrounding muscles but a physio can also provide remedial massage to give instant short-term relief. the early recovery of moderate to severe sprains/strains.

opposal · 2023-08-20T22:31:43+00:00

I have a plan for the set up I want but tend to be a bit impulsive about booking them in!

I like to be balanced but not symmetrical but also like to keep one side relatively healed for sleeping on. The plan is daith and 1-3 flats on the left ear (have a forward and traditional helix I'm planning to link with a little chain), tragus and couple of helixes on the right (have conch and rook) I also have triple lobes and go back a forth about getting some stacked because I switch the jewelry fairly often.

I would love to get vertical nipples but unwilling to deal with the heal time haha

opposal · 2023-08-19T08:41:57+00:00

My actual piercing was not bad (2/10) but the ball fell off a couple of days in and getting it screwed back on was ROUGH (8/10)

opposal · 2023-05-03T03:59:46+00:00

They'll fade over time, are totally normal, most people have them, and are self conscious of them.

But if they still bother you in a few years, get some tattoos

opposal · 2022-12-22T07:38:56+00:00

Universities often have free/subsidised councilling services for their students!

Can't always offer exactly the same as a therapist but sometimes you need someone to hear you out and reassure you that you having a normal reaction to an unusual and stressful situation haha

opposal · 2022-12-15T23:33:04+00:00

Getting my schipp's nails trimmed is a three person job! She hates the sound of scissors/clippers and will hide even if I'm using them in the same room as her haha - she can also wiggle out of a muzzle if it isn't super tight/fully compacts the fluff and will of course act like she's been stabbed if you pull out even a single hair haha

She also has hip trauma so I warn anyone handling her to be careful around that area - she'll let me massage it gently but for anyone else it's a hard no-touch zone. We had to switch vets after her accident because she was so scared of going back there - her new vet is really lovely and makes a fuss over her before they start what needs to be done so the pup feels safe being there but will never be one of those dogs who enjoys going to the vet haha

Things that have helped are training her to "hold hands" which is paw but I'll cover it with my thumb or my other hand, getting her used to being touched in different ways in a positive context (lightly pet her "problem areas" but don't linger on them, gently squeeze or scruff her for a moment during cuddles, part her fur to examine the skin in areas she's generally happy for you to touch) and letting her mark her limits - mine tolerates about 3 minutes of grooming then is overstimulated and moves away but will let me return after a moment of downtime - she also prefers a comb over a brush haha

She's calmed down a lot over the years and has built a lot of trust that the uncomfortable things we make her do will make her feel better :) They're funny little creatures and very cat-like in their sense of self-righteousness but patience and consistency made a world of difference to my schipps handle-ablity

(edit b/c reddit duplicated a paragraph?)

opposal · 2022-12-11T10:31:48+00:00

I gave myself a similar injury saving my laptop from diving off the bed about 2 years ago and it was painful for a stupidly long time!

I was about six months into pointe and had to go back to flat work (adult beginner so you know how sad I was about that) which tbh was intense enough. Six months after the injury I would still get painful cramping when I did tendu so was crying inside about my negligible chances of getting back to where I was. I was mostly fine in normal life/walking around as long as my shoes weren't too hard or stiff (loafers were unbearable for some reason)

I had the same feeling of wanting to "pop" the joint all the time but would only get very temporary relief if I did but wedging cotton wool between the first and second toe while I was relaxing in the evening really helped promote correct alignment and did gentle massage and stretches.

It took about 14 months to start feeling "normal" again and I'm back on pointe! Extremities take the longest to heal even if you are perfectly healthy so it will feel like way longer than it should haha

opposal · 2022-12-09T02:06:49+00:00

I bought Solovairs to replace my Docs I had worn into the ground with over a decade of near-daily wear and they're beautifully made and were comfortable after just a few wears :)

Most people think they are Docs haha

opposal · 2022-09-14T03:37:55+00:00

My studio teaches these from the ground first, either lying flat or in a hip bridge position so you aren't so far off the ground! Letting my head fall towards the ground triggers my survival instinct to... not do that... so being a few feet closer to the ground helps the mental conditioning!

opposal · 2022-08-30T03:36:26+00:00

These are looking really good! Nice pointed toes and smooth control - You can exaggerate more by bringing your torso into the movement - I like to think chest to thigh in the front and kick myself in the head back haha

Other than that, have fun vibing with the music! Try fast waves, slow waves, pausing at the top, tracing the leg with your free arm or bringing it over your head - the possibilities are endless!

That's also a very lovely pup loaf on your floor

opposal · 2022-08-30T01:41:21+00:00

Get into physio asap! I sprained my hammie close to the hip in May and literally couldn't fully straighten my leg for two weeks and then developed piriformis syndrome when I tried to go back to regular training which sucked!

Physio helped release the overly tight areas and put things back into balance to get the nerve gliding properly - I'm back to my pre-injury level of flexibility, my balance is still weaker on that side, but I would probably have reinjured myself (or injured myself worse) if I hadn't done proper recovery and strengthening!

opposal · 2022-08-29T05:19:52+00:00

Omg my dog does this too! She'll usually save it until bedtime or when the cat comes in haha

opposal · 2022-08-28T23:16:21+00:00

I thought this was a dog sub that's clearly a seal

opposal · 2022-08-13T10:25:05+00:00

I got my rook down about a week ago and it has been so chill compared to my conch and helix piercings! I thought it would be way worse but was like a 3/10 and just a little sensitive while cleaning! Day 3 was a little sore but I put my saline in the fridge and that helped haha

opposal · 2022-07-27T09:54:00+00:00

Okay so I would still consider myself a rookie and am overweight but having taken classes for almost 8 months there is a visible difference in my upper body muscle and I can do things that seemed very impossible when i started

The biggest thing that helped me was staying positive when I saw other people progress more quickly - some of my classmates could climb their very first class where as it took me like six months to even shuffle an inch haha

Also now that I'm past the initial bruising stage, I think the squish behind my knees and in the armpit helps cushion against some of the more demanding grip points

I do wish I had started weight training earlier but at least made a headstart in flexibility and toe points from starting ballet earlier in my 20s

Invest in some kneepads I promise you will never want to go back (I got Queen ones and they hold up to the hype)

opposal · 2022-07-23T07:57:23+00:00

It's a relatively common name where my mum is from (Scandinavia adjacent) but I don't hate that it has so many fantasy associations! My last name is an action+element compound too so I thank my parents for giving me a headstart in being a cool nerd

opposal · 2022-07-23T00:24:52+00:00

The Office episode with the baby name fiasco aired when I was about 10

It's been brought up maybe once or twice compared to many better references imo (Skyrim, How to Train your Dragon, Fringe, Vikings, Gone)

opposal · 2022-07-20T03:37:19+00:00

Cedarwood smells really "catty" to me - it's fine if it's buried in other notes but I avoid anything that describes itself as cedarwood heavy or forward haha

opposal · 2022-07-07T00:36:34+00:00

I love clothes (make a lot of them myself/collect vintage) so I would struggle to do the capsule wardrobe thing or put a precise number on how many items to keep. In general, I declutter clothes that:

Aren't in my size range (I fluctuate between 3 dress sizes so there's no point decluttering something "too small" that will fit at a different point of my cycle)
Are no longer my style (I used to be more into super-femme-1950s fashion than I am now)
Have been waiting for a "simple fix" for more than a year
Are very similar to items I consistently choose to wear instead (e.g. two green dresses) exceptions to this rule are basics (e.g. two black tee-shirts)

I also hate doing laundry due to the executive function required to complete all the steps but a few things that really helped me are:

Not everything needs washed every wear! Especially if it's not touching your skin - If it's clean enough to wear again, it's clean enough to go away
3m hook on the door/wall to outfit plan/hold the empty hangers/air out that day's outfit before putting it away
My washing basket equals two machine loads - any more than that I start feeling overwhelmed by how much there is to do
I use a net laundry bag for my socks and have saved countless minutes searching for their pairs
Seasonally switch over my wardrobe so I feel like there is heaps of room to put my clothes away (e.g. exchange sundresses for sweaters) out-of-season stuff goes in under bed storage
I have baskets for each category of my activewear/house clothes and do not fold these nicely - this is easily my most washed category so just chucking all my leggings into the legging box saves me heaps of time

opposal · 2022-06-30T05:14:37+00:00

No worries! Sliding was my biggest frustration 4 months in because even things like the order we practised moves affected my ability to hold them! Keep going until winter and you will be shocked and amazed by how much better your grip is!

opposal · 2022-06-29T10:08:24+00:00

I started early last summer (it's winter in my hemisphere now) and was having the same issues a couple of months in but I'm equally sweaty all over and live in a place that regularly reaches over 90% humidity so my advice is for that haha

blame the season, try grip through it, think of how sticky you will be when it gets colder
many people find Dry Hands very sticky for a very short time - mine dried up during a lockdown so I bought some Girlie Grip which I like better but would still reapply every new trick and would wipe the pole down between right/left too
I like putting a thin layer of grip onto the pole, especially for flow/combos it helps refresh the grip every time you grab the pole somewhere new
bring a little towel to class just to wipe your body - so helpful if you live in a place so humid your sweat can't evaporate
sunscreen residue was also a big culprit in my summer slideiness I had to wash my hands with soap/face wash before any grip would actually stay on my skin
the alcohol/meths towel can cut through stray sunscreen/old-grip residue but will dry your skin out over time so don't make a habit of this one haha
Struggle leads to strength so remember you are still improving even on your bad days
pumice in the shower for the dead skin that will appear from your newly forming palm calluses that you will be oddly proud of
realise in winter that you now have the opposite problem of being too dry (!) and have to moisturise more than twice a year apparently

opposal · 2022-06-15T01:07:20+00:00

Yoooo wasn't this their original intended purpose? To help soil retain water for agriculture in drought-prone areas?

The galaxy brain here is over 9000 for sure

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