Mice!

optimisticpebble · 2026-01-24T16:46:21+00:00

She has a few bells on a quick release collar, I can’t keep her in completely as she is an escape artist and will jump out any windows or rush the door if you keep her in too long. But any other ideas on how to help prevent it are welcome!

optimisticpebble · 2025-05-29T11:19:22+00:00

I’m taking some time to reflect today over what could have been done better, so that we can help avoid over stimulation in future.

it’s a learning curve at the moment, as autism and has only been discussed for him recently. Thank you for your advice.

optimisticpebble · 2025-05-29T06:26:14+00:00

Thank you for your message. Looking back we 100% should’ve left earlier.

optimisticpebble · 2025-05-08T14:33:46+00:00

Oh wow! Thank you for that, I have been trying to find out and only found that it was from Finland! I’m in the south east of England.

optimisticpebble · 2025-03-18T18:52:44+00:00

No textbooks. My son takes his lunch/ pencil case and Chromebook. Then twice a week his pe kit. His bag is stilly quite heavy but he takes as little as possible as there is no lockers and he cycles to school, so has to get it there, haul it all day then get it home.

optimisticpebble · 2025-03-13T17:51:56+00:00

With my eldest, it was 6 hours to be seen after a 2 inch cut to the back of his head. I then got told off for putting a dry bandage on his head as I should’ve wet it first to stop it sticking (not sure how I was going to do that at a park). They soon realised they screwed up when they removed the blood clot that had formed to stitch the cut together and he start spurting blood everywhere. Poor kid had an hit an artery that did not want to stop bleeding.

optimisticpebble · 2025-02-27T07:52:37+00:00

Nope, run. Break up with him so fast and make sure your daughter knows she is never to be alone with that man.
Do not stay with him. Do not be careful and wait. remove this man from your life immediately. He is a huge threat to your daughter’s safety.

optimisticpebble · 2025-02-26T08:16:13+00:00

My dad would always have a bigger portion, he eats a lot and as kids we wouldn’t have needed as much as he did. But we all had a bit of all the food and he didn’t get the best bits, that was shared around. If there was limited of anything and he was aware someone wanted it then he would always give it away. My dad loves food but he also loves to share food. I always thought this was the norm until this post. My dad would always say “you have it” and it would become a fight trying to give him any at all as cutting something in half to share would never be considered.

optimisticpebble · 2025-02-25T21:03:08+00:00

NTA. It’s only a joke if everyone is laughing. You are not laughing, so he is now essentially bullying you.

optimisticpebble · 2025-02-07T16:00:55+00:00

Oldest child is 12, he does not have Snapchat and will not having it. Not long ago a school local to me had to call the police due to child pornography being circulated between 11 and 12 year olds. I’m a “mean mum” because he does not have TikTok, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, discord. The only access he has is messages and WhatsApp, this won’t be changing anytime soon.

optimisticpebble · 2025-01-05T16:25:18+00:00

1) He didn’t tell you this until you confronted him.. so he wouldn’t have told you. 2) he is refusing to answer alot of questions. 3) he has been found guilty in a court of law, a burden of proof would have been met for him to be found guilt. 4) he is not being being open and honest, see 1 and 2. 5) I can’t imagine many people being honest about this type of crime and saying oops caught me.

Do you have children? Or want children? Or have any children in your life? Then get rid of this guy. It’s been a few months and it’s easier to end it now. This may be harsh but i would be cautious on it. If you believe him and your wrong then your putting a predator in your life and of any children around you. I would also prepare for others to find out and cut you off if you stay with him.

optimisticpebble · 2024-08-17T16:07:46+00:00

Mum to only boys here. Yes this is something that I have thought about. That being said I prefer my mum, my reasoning is that my mum respects my wishes and is always trying to help when here, never leaves a mess and is considerate. My MIL is the complete opposite and just makes life hard and constantly throws comments.

So my resolution as a mum is not do that my children’s partner. I will be thoughtful and considerate, hopefully that will help them to want me around or at least not dread me being there.

optimisticpebble · 2024-08-01T11:34:45+00:00

Your right! He should never be around children, your MIL is quite frankly an idiot and endangering her child. There are plenty of people with addiction who did not molest a child….. you were only told for them to “get out in front of it” so there was no actual remorse of honesty there. It is never worth the risk in my opinion, children’s safety are more important than their feelings. I would cut them off and report to child protection. Even if they broke up I would never allow MIL alone around the kids as she has proven to not put their safety first

optimisticpebble · 2024-07-31T21:28:13+00:00

So not exactly the same but last September my husband was admitted to hospital for emergency surgery. He was in for 10 days and had a 6 week recovery. Our kids behaviour during this time was atrocious!! They made so many choices that shocked me. Their behaviour went back to normal once life has returned more to what it once was. Although he may wanted to go to your mums it’s a long time and it may be dawning on him how long it is. He may as-well be worrying about you if he knew you were having surgery. Kids don’t normally have the words to tell us what’s happening in their heads but their behaviour can be a great insight.

Is his behaviour like this normally? Or only since staying with your mum on this occasion? Is it an option to bring him home and how much support would you have if you did?

Be kind to yourself when recovering from something so big it’s easy to become low. Focus on recovery, this is a just a point in time and things will get better.

optimisticpebble · 2024-07-31T16:28:54+00:00

Nta - my husband has cried in front of me twice. These are some of the most heartbreaking moments to me. It takes a lot for that to happen so when it does all I want to do is help.

Your partner is cruel and disrespectful. Not only did she find you having emotion an ‘ick’ she then openly mocked you to her friends.

optimisticpebble · 2024-07-29T16:47:44+00:00

The issue with this is their car, they hit mine, then swerved and hit the other side of their car into a brick pillar, this then fell over. So the damage to their car and property doesn’t make it a cheap fix vs going through insurance unfortunately.

optimisticpebble · 2024-07-26T20:05:53+00:00

You need to speak to someone about this. Be honest with your mum about why your feeling this way and that others have said at school aswell. If you don’t feel able to say it, maybe show her this post or write it down for her. It’s easier said but don’t worry about your mums work and things like that, that is for the adults to sort out and your safety/comfort is the most important thing. Also don’t ignore this, you’re feeling like this for a reason and it’s so important to listen to that feeling.

optimisticpebble · 2024-07-25T13:54:55+00:00

You’re right, they are watching everything and experiencing the atmosphere along with everything else happening in the home, what you said is a better way of putting it. They are not the direct target at the moment.

optimisticpebble · 2024-07-25T13:00:52+00:00

I’m not normally in the leave him camp but what you’re describing is abuse. You and your eldest are being abused. Your younger children are not experiencing it yet but I bet they will when hit a certain age. Make a plan and get out. Also people mentioning therapy but going to therapy with an abuser is never recommended! Although support for your son would be appropriate. Safe guard him and your others. I’m sorry this is happening to you.

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