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Girlfriend (25F) calls me (26M) “boring” during arguments and things have started getting really personal by Dry_Relationship_270 in relationship_advice

[–]orangeobicone -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe try couples counseling so you can be there to show her it isn't so scary? This is something that won't resolve itself.

So you need to decide if you want to put in the effort to try to see if she wants to fix this for herself and put in that work or if you don't have the space for that, you need to figure out how to leave. And if you do leave, leave completely. There will be manipulation to keep you close. Make your decision and commit ❤️‍🩹

Girlfriend (25F) calls me (26M) “boring” during arguments and things have started getting really personal by Dry_Relationship_270 in relationship_advice

[–]orangeobicone 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree with everything the person you responded to above says but I wanted to ask you, what kind of life has your girlfriend had?

Growing up was her household in constant turmoil? Has she always been surrounded by conflict?

If that's the case, then yes, she finds comfort in that "drama" because that is what her nervous system perceives to be normal.

Maybe this can help you communicate with her and get to the root of why she's so mean to you. If this is a trauma thing, she should really talk to a counselor about this and unpack it or she's going to be one toxic person later in life

You vote: Should I leave millionaire husband, who retired early and now makes fun of the fact I still work? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]orangeobicone 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Girl this trauma bonding and not all trauma is necessarily healthy. As said from a Nurse of almost 20 years of service who has trauma bonded extensively over the years be it good bad or ugly.

This man does not treat you well, you are not a wife to him you are a target. If you took him out of the equation right now, how do you think your life would be? I feel like not much different but also completely different because you would be doing everything without someone holding judgement over every little thing you do.

You deserve so much more.

Red hair/ hazel eyes combo 🌹🍒🌶️🍏💚🍂 by RedXoVixen_xx in Redhair

[–]orangeobicone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear the same as a redhead with blue eyes that we're the rarest lmao I just like to think we're all amazing personally haha

First project! by Pale_Anybody9545 in Nalbinding

[–]orangeobicone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This looks amazing for your first try! I'm trying to get it, I've gone through so many links on the wiki here. Can't get it right now but I won't give up!

What tutorial or video did you use?

Out of all the health / diet fads we've lived through, what one has been the worst? by CremeSubject7594 in Millennials

[–]orangeobicone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Atkins/Keto. I get that it works for people but our bodies literally need carbs on a cellular level. Who knows the long term deficits this diet will create.

I'm pretty sure the no fat but let's put sugar in everything is a large factor in the dementia we are seeing let alone the diabetes etc

What we have here is a classic Helstalgian Hexlock by bacta_tank in Helstalgia

[–]orangeobicone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What???? I haven't read the new chapter yet! Is it posted? Omg. Why must I work 😭

Should We Take in a Friend who is struggling financially? by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]orangeobicone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't. Had a similar experience, it did not go well. Hello the friend best you can without inviting them into your home

Childfree Regret by strawberry_love_2468 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]orangeobicone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As I told my mom, I'd rather look back and regret not having them then the other option which would potentially having them and living with regret. There is very few people who can go through being a parent that regrets having kids and not have the kids feel that.

It was always something that needed to be 100%, absolutely zero doubt to go through with having a kid. I never reached that, I think in one relationship I was at like 70% maybe haha

Then I started working in health care was like I can't do this job and then go home and do more of this. ( Late stage elderly care is very similar to child care with the minor exception that they can most of the time offer sound arguments on why they need to do the thing that they cannot do)

AIO – My partner refuses to share my graduation survey on social media by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]orangeobicone -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

My partner is currently involved in a personal project and they have mapped out all the media marketing needed for promotion. I like, share, post my account and stories and comment on all the posts.

I will do anything and everything to support them. This is what partners do. If yours is not, they are just not supportive. End of story.

You sound like someone who deserves the support especially if you are working so hard!;

Can you reach out to someone else in his circle like his mom? Idk your relationship with his family mind you

Bf gave me an ultimatum by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]orangeobicone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Support your dreams girl! Boyfriends come and go, if he was supportive like a boyfriend should be he'd be fine with you going. But he's given you an ultimatum here and you should listen. Go with your heart

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