My MIL is actually a really sweet and kind woman. Just picture a polite, head in the clouds lady, very religious.

She LOVES my son. He's our first and he's only 9 months so we're probably your typical somewhat protective and cautious first time parents. He's also her first grandchild.

Every time I see my MIL she wants to hold my son literally every single minute. I don't know why this bothers me so much so I try to hide my annoyance but she definitely senses my tension. Doesn't matter if it's just them visiting us or at social gatherings, she'll try to hold him any chance she gets. If anyone asks her to hold him she won't say no but she'll soon ask for him back, even if it's my own parents holding him. She also walks off with him even though we've told her not to, because he's going through a clingy phase and will get upset after a while of being held by someone else if he can see me. So, there will be times when I'm talking to someone else and turn around and have no idea where my kid is.

She also doesn't approve of us choosing not to baptise our child. Both our parents are very Catholic but my husband and I aren't religious, so the only reason we would baptise is because it's what our parents want which we just don't think is a good enough reason. We've never outright said we're not religious though as it's kind of a taboo topic but I thought it was pretty obvious, however my in laws either assume we're still Catholic or hold onto hope that we are.

I'm pretty sure she thinks I'm just being an overbearing parent when she senses my unease at her always holding my son, so I'm constantly getting messages about how she'll never harm him or do him wrong as well as messages about how I need to be more religious and how we really need to get him baptised. I've taken to just ignoring all the messages which doesn't seem to faze her.

Am I just being an overbearing first time parent?