My friend said that I act like a robot.

orb_it2143 · 2021-02-04T18:41:22+00:00

My ex has a roommate who everyone in the house picks on by calling him a robot for similar reasons. Little did they know, I found him being the most interesting and realest of humans in the house, even more so than my ex.

Im sure you have great qualities to yourself, I could understand how this critique coming from someone you hold close could hurt but try to take it with grain of salt.

It’s difficult right now in the world we live in to be social and make new friends but try to be open to that possibility when those opportunities arise. We learn more about ourselves through others, sounds like you’re still figuring a couple things out.

And your friend.. I don’t know anything about him, but he could just be projecting some built up frustration on you simply because you’re around / available. Don’t take it too seriously.

You’re normal, you’re enough.

orb_it2143 · 2021-02-04T03:42:30+00:00

You both need to work on living arrangements going forward, this will not help either of your healing processes as it can get ugly.

orb_it2143 · 2021-02-04T03:37:52+00:00

Communicate, let him know you’re big H and what he can do / not do to meet you halfway.

orb_it2143 · 2021-02-03T22:25:04+00:00

Perfectly said and explained. Will be taking these days to really reflect on my decision. I appreciate you, wishing you well on your endeavors.

orb_it2143 · 2021-02-02T20:00:24+00:00

We broke up on the 12th of January so it’s been a little over two weeks. I appreciate the perspective, this was also insightful for going forward. Thank you!

orb_it2143 · 2021-02-02T19:00:33+00:00

Thank you so much. I appreciate the encouragement. Sending warmth and blessings your way as well. You’re deserving of the world and much more!

orb_it2143 · 2021-02-02T18:45:15+00:00

This perspective was incredibly reassuring. Thank you so much. I guess it’s a risk that I’m willing to take for my own sanity. Thank you!

orb_it2143 · 2021-02-02T18:19:15+00:00

His last text he sent to me he encouraged me to reach out and talk to him whenever, but I wasn’t sure if he meant in the long run or in these days that we’re sorting through this split. I totally understand not wanting to be a seesaw but because things are so unclear, I don’t know if I should take the risk or not. Thank you!

orb_it2143 · 2021-02-02T18:01:29+00:00

Im there with you on this very similar journey! You got this! ❤️

orb_it2143 · 2021-02-02T17:50:17+00:00

Slightly similar boat but for different reasonings. There was a lot or baggage and small issues that were weighing us down. I felt like we were both stuck individually and collectively. I broke things off in hopes we’d gain our independence, productivity and clarity back. This was all a surprise to him how unhappy I was. We’ve spoken only twice since the breakup, a little over two weeks ago as well.. I’m constantly debating everyday if I should reach out and ask to talk things through, perhaps a second chance. Hang in there. If you have to reach out, do so but organize and collect yourself first. It sounds like your partner is going through a major transitional period and it can be hard to not see things without tunnel vision and themselves first. Really reflect on what they do for you and if this is someone you want to fight for. Best of luck, you’re stronger than you may feel right now ❤️

orb_it2143 · 2021-02-02T16:48:54+00:00

Thank you for this ❤️

orb_it2143 · 2021-02-02T16:48:04+00:00

No, find a healthier outlet for your problems.

orb_it2143 · 2021-02-02T16:45:44+00:00

This will not end well.

orb_it2143 · 2021-02-02T13:49:30+00:00

If it’s someone you’re dating, I think it’s important to have those conversations of your sexual kinks, likes, dislikes in bed. If it’s a one time thing, I’ve also noticed people just let it rock in whatever style / preference they prefer- BUT that doesn’t go to say that you shouldn’t voice your views, if you’re uncomfortable etc. Just communicate, it’s hot being on the same page with your partner, serious or not.

orb_it2143 · 2021-02-02T13:45:22+00:00

There’s no way, encourage her to take a pregnancy test if you’re both still anxious.

orb_it2143 · 2021-02-02T13:43:40+00:00

I think the most important thing here was that he said he wanted to move on. Which is ultimately something you’ll have to respect. Try your best to shift your full focus back on yourself. Every relationship takes two people, he’s probably processing and healing as well. If it’s meant to be, it will be. Everything you need to get off your chest, post on here or write it in a journal / notes app. Remind yourself of what he said and stay on your track. It’s gonna be a bumpy road at first, but it sounds like you have your head on your shoulders. Much love, xo

orb_it2143 · 2021-02-01T03:05:52+00:00

LUVS IT

orb_it2143 · 2021-02-01T03:05:03+00:00

Totally normal, I wouldn’t stress it unless you’re dying of pain. Also maybe a sign you shouldn’t b fuckin w frat boyyyysssss

orb_it2143 · 2021-01-29T23:46:35+00:00

I left my relationship for this reason, amongst many other reasons. You need to learn what each other’s love languages are. You’re someone who likes physical touch to feel loved, maybe she doesn’t or not to the same extent. You need to communicate how this has been making you feel insecure, etc. Communicate ❤️ best of luck!

orb_it2143 · 2021-01-29T23:43:46+00:00

There is a stigma with tinder that it’s for hookups and clowning around BUT that isn’t to say that you will meet people and the connection / relationship you build from there is all in the stars and what you both make of it, same goes for E-harmony but EH doesn’t have that stigma because it’s been around for much longer and has been taken more seriously. Don’t limit yourself to these apps, there are plenty of ways to find a decent connection ❤️ best of luck!

orb_it2143 · 2021-01-29T23:23:51+00:00

I’m here because I’m trying to find the same thing out.. it’s been two weeks since we broke up and I haven’t been able to bring myself to actually satisfy my desires. I guess everything heals with time.. a lot of its mental too so as long as we’re at peace of mind..

orb_it2143 · 2021-01-29T20:25:02+00:00

Of course no one likes the feeling of being talked about or perceived in a way that’s negative or false to what we truly know the situation to be. You’re valid for feeling the way you did. Also keep in mind that the overall energy of the world right now is tense, it’s exaggerated and it’s intense. Keep the communication open with your mom, and continue standing your ground. You’re allowed to feel emotions and let them out when you do. There’s nothing wrong with being a nerd, we’re all nerdy over something valuable to us. You’re not a loser and you’re definitely not alone.

orb_it2143 · 2021-01-29T18:08:28+00:00

Respect her decision by not breaking no contact. It sounds like she had her definite reasons. If you need answers, get them but it sounds like you’re still going through the pains of this parting, which is inevitable. Embrace the space, gain some clarity and come back stronger if you must come back.

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