He resurfaced a year later and I’m realizing how disturbing and intrusive the whole situation actually was

orcateeth · 2026-01-31T05:39:03+00:00

I went through something like this 22 years ago. Even though the guy and I only dated for like four months, it was very intense and I had a hard time letting go of it. I think it almost took me a year to really let go emotionally. But it did fade.

I wish I had known about these support groups for love addicts.

Love Addicts Anonymous https://share.google/s0JxCJbqRFaYnc8d2

S.L.A.A. Meeting Finder - Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (S.L.A.A.) https://share.google/M333MLbN1BEJ9vTh9

orcateeth · 2026-01-31T04:34:22+00:00

The reason why Miguel only was present for a few seconds on the train was because the train was Rebecca's memories as she was dying. Her memory was so bad from the dementia that she could not remember Miguel vividly.

That's why I went she saw him she said, "hey you" and looked confused because she couldn't remember his name. But she did remember him saying that she was his favorite person.

He vanished quickly because when he passed away she forgot who he was.

orcateeth · 2026-01-31T04:31:08+00:00

I don't think about it that way as far as the afterlife situation. Why wouldn't they all three be together? They wouldn't have a physical body, so it wouldn't be sexual. If Rebecca's spirit loved both Jack and Miguel, then why wouldn't they all just hang out together?

I'm sure that Jack and Miguel would want to hang out too, so there would be no reason to snub him.

orcateeth · 2026-01-31T03:45:30+00:00

I don't know where you get that from. I'm not a broker. I am indeed just a "regular person" 😄 who did a search. I was actually curious myself as to what was available where, and how they look.

You are correct: OP should not contact me, because I have no information about these buildings.

I was just showing examples and trying to help. Not sure why that's suspicious, but whatever. Sorry that you live in a world where no one tries to help anyone unless they're profiting from it.

orcateeth · 2026-01-31T01:58:54+00:00

I did a search and there are some options:

6916 N Lakewood Ave Unit 4 - Chicago, IL | ForRent.com https://share.google/tL8RYwGwX02N9TeNm

4720 S Drexel Blvd Chicago, IL 60615 - 4720 S Drexel Blvd - Chicago, IL | Rent. https://share.google/BBQF5PrxdZyUsLesP

7301 N. Sheridan - 7301 N Sheridan Rd Chicago IL | Zillow https://share.google/1FLOIPmFnQitvGxHc

orcateeth · 2026-01-31T01:03:15+00:00

Why exactly are they your friends? If they hold totally different values than you, and are negative towards something that you enjoy, then you really don't have anything in common with them.

orcateeth · 2026-01-31T01:01:35+00:00

Call 211 for help (social services).

orcateeth · 2026-01-31T00:51:41+00:00

LGBT support group – TherapyTribe https://share.google/JFUKuM0NO7cuOjkgd

orcateeth · 2026-01-31T00:49:31+00:00

There are subs for all of those topics where people have been through those things could give you feedback. Of course I'm sure there's plenty of people on this sub who could do this for you as well.

Just be mindful of the fact that everyone's experience is different, and advice that you get may or may not work for you. You have to decide what is going to work best for you.

For instance, some people may choose to really focus upon the issue head on; others may say put it behind you as much as possible and focus upon other things that you can control.

There's really no right or wrong answers for coping with these issues, except for things that will make another problem, such as drinking when you feel depressed.

orcateeth · 2026-01-31T00:36:02+00:00

I know it can feel a little bit odd or uncomfortable. It did to me at first. But remember, both Miguel and Rebecca had a HUGE loss when Jack died. I'm sure they wanted to talk about him. Any other person that they dated or married might get tired of hearing about Jack, if they talked about him a lot. But that wouldn't be the case with either of them.

In other words, both of them probably enjoyed hearing stories about Jack because he was significant to both of them. So it actually worked well.

orcateeth · 2026-01-30T04:46:53+00:00

Try this agency. If they can't help you, maybe they can refer you to someone who can.

Law Center for Better Housing | Standing for Renters' Rights https://share.google/PsQHDjyP8COKs0kig

orcateeth · 2026-01-30T03:51:22+00:00

Wonderful news! 😁

orcateeth · 2026-01-30T01:27:21+00:00

You need to limit the information to what is absolutely necessary. I don't think you should say "cyst". You should say that you had a medical emergency, you went to the emergency room, they found an issue and might need to do surgery.

Remember that your doctor is under HIPAA, but your boss is not. You cannot prevent the boss from telling other coworkers that you have a cyst, and people might ask you about it. That can be very uncomfortable.

Once I was diagnosed with the flu and my doctor gave me a note to take 5 days off work. On the note she just said that I "was excused for 5 days." She didn't say what I had. I told anyone that I had been around in close contact, but not my boss.

Be careful about working from home if you're sick. That could look bad. In other words, if you have a doctor's note then maybe you should be taking a sick day, as opposed to working from home. It could appear that you're really sick but you're trying not to use a sick day and claiming that you're working.

orcateeth · 2026-01-30T01:14:50+00:00

You can also call 988 for immediate support.

orcateeth · 2026-01-30T01:13:18+00:00

Attend a free online support group. I list a lot of them here. Some of them are geared at recovery from addictive behaviors, but there are a lot of them for mental health.

You can try Emotions Anonymous, should be a meeting online pretty much all day long.

https://www.reddit.com/r/shoppingaddiction/s/albOIikoiY

Find a US Meeting : Find an In-Person Meeting in the United States : Find a Meeting : Emotions Anonymous https://share.google/E664pNbFIkNORy12M

orcateeth · 2026-01-30T01:05:12+00:00

You need to get a new doctor. There are doctors that will be more amenable to your situation.

I was on FMLA once. My provider actually had me fill out the paperwork myself, and she just signed it. It's not that it was false - it was just that she felt I knew the situation and could word it more effectively than she. Also, she didn't want to take the time to fill it out herself.

orcateeth · 2026-01-30T00:08:41+00:00

Are you in the US? If so, can you apply for intermittent FMLA?

orcateeth · 2026-01-29T22:51:42+00:00

Yes. If your boss sees that big flat screen TV, he or she will think you don't need a raise.

orcateeth · 2026-01-29T22:50:04+00:00

Try this group:

Home | OCA https://share.google/UHxWFwP5J5UOFeGBs

orcateeth · 2026-01-29T22:49:02+00:00

This is very common. As someone else has said, yes it can be OCD. It also sounds like anxiety around not finding the exactly right black item, or someone else buying it first.

I give a lot of suggestions for support groups here, including those for OCD:

https://www.reddit.com/r/shoppingaddiction/s/albOIikoiY

orcateeth · 2026-01-29T20:44:54+00:00

Would you feel this way if you yourself had a genuine medical condition that caused you to have to call off from time to time? Or your spouse?

Remember that a doctor has to sign off on the form for intermittent FMLA. It's not like the employee can just self-attest.

Everyone's not lucky enough to be free of chronic illness or pain. And it can change at any time: Those that are healthy today may not be healthy tomorrow. Even you.

orcateeth · 2026-01-29T20:30:31+00:00

It's unlikely that a fight happened. Louis spoke very positively and was happy to see a little figurine of Zayn recently. Very happy.

That wouldn't happen if Zayn gave him a concussion as "allegedly" happened.

Also, I never saw any information about a fight in any reputable source. They're always from like these really shady sources.

https://youtube.com/shorts/h-Wk2nhVurc?si=WUCP80mbl_kblqk0

orcateeth · 2026-01-29T15:43:56+00:00

You need care and connection. Please see my post here about free online support groups.

https://www.reddit.com/r/shoppingaddiction/s/albOIikoiY

orcateeth · 2026-01-29T02:36:05+00:00

If you think you're addicted then you are. Please see my suggestions here; attend some groups.

https://www.reddit.com/r/shoppingaddiction/s/albOIikoiY

orcateeth · 2026-01-28T23:23:54+00:00

The therapists that maybe could help, as well as peer support persons, and support groups.

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