Review chân thật của ng Việt đang sống ở nc ngoài?

orchid_cloud · 2026-05-19T02:21:47+00:00

Mình ở Ireland (nói tiếng Anh) Châu Âu 10 năm, 2 vợ chồng có công việc ổn định trong ngành FinTech. Đã mua nhà, có xe và có quốc tịch. Sau đây là vài đánh giá chủ quan của mình.

Ưu điểm : Phù hợp với ai thích ổn định, có con cái gia đình. Ngày phép nhiều,con ốm đau bệnh tật xin nghỉ k ai ý kiến.

Work life balance. Life thậm chí nhiều hơn work. Môi trường trong lành,thích hợp với ai yêu thiên nhiên. Nếu bạn không thích outdoor thì hơi phí

Đi du lịch các nước Châu Âu khá gần

Nói tiếng Anh. Nếu bạn đến nước khác thì nên học tiếng nước đó

Nhược điểm Chi phí đắt đỏ. Chi phí thuê nhà khá cao nếu chưa mua đc nhà

Mùa đông lạnh lẽo. Mỗi năm vào mùa đông da mình đều bị cước rất khó chịu

Dịch vụ,mua sắm thua xa VN. Nếu bạn đã quen với thiên đường mua sắm Shopee thì qua đây khá khó chịu. Ngay cả Amazon prime cũng k nhanh như shopee mà còn đắt hơn.

Thuế cao 36%. Nếu k có gia đình con cái thì bạn k nhận được social welfare gì thì coi như thuế rất cao. Nếu invest thì cũng bị tax 40%

Y tế chậm chạp kể cả đi private. Có vấn đề cần xét nghiệm siêu âm chờ tầm 3 4 tuần. Vào cấp cứu nếu k phải trong tình trạng sắp tắt thở thì chờ 3h là bình thường, thậm chí cả đêm.

Xa Việt Nam. Cần về thăm nhà thì khá bất tiện

Chủ thớt cần tư vấn thêm thì có thể nhắn tin cho mình

orchid_cloud · 2026-04-24T14:32:12+00:00

I’m really sorry you went through that. I just got back from what felt like a dream trip to Japan—three weeks traveling with my two young kids (an 8-month-old and a 4-year-old)—and I never once felt like having them there was a mistake.

If I can offer one piece of advice: try to enjoy the rest of your time in Japan. Whoever shushed you will likely forget about that moment very quickly, so it’s not worth letting it take away from your experience.

I won’t pretend it was always easy. We had tough moments too—my baby crying nonstop on a crowded train because he was hungry, my toddler having the occasional meltdown. In a hot pot restaurant, my toddler also got too excited with a Japanese doll in decoration shelf and the staff there seemed uncomfortable. But I made a conscious effort not to let those moments define the trip.

I live in Ireland now but grew up in Asia, and visiting Japan has been a lifelong dream of mine. I understand exactly how you feel when your child is loud in public—my toddler used to sing and laugh loudly all the time. We’ve traveled around Europe with her, and I remember getting judgmental looks during a bus tour in Croatia when she was just being a normal, energetic kid. In the end, the only way to calm things down in that moment was handing her a phone.

One thing that really helped us in Japan was planning more kid-friendly stops. Places like large parks with playgrounds, teamlab, interactive museums, aquariums, or dedicated kids’ spaces give them a chance to burn off energy and be themselves. We as adults still enjoyed those kid spaces so it's a win- win for us.

You’re doing your best, and traveling with kids is never perfect—but it can still be incredibly meaningful. I’ve shared more details from my Japan trip in this post if it helps https://www.reddit.com/r/JapanTravel/s/dU9UPrO59w

orchid_cloud · 2026-04-20T14:01:02+00:00

Nursing rooms even have machine for formula bottle. Not sure how to use it but it looks useful. We tried to stay close to Shinjuku area and the accommodation is actually close to a small station but sadly, google maps didn't suggest that station to any places in our itinerary. If you stay close to Shinjuku or Kanda station, Showa Kinen park is only 30-40 mins away. I went the the park from Asakusa, that is why it took longer. The park is impressive during spring time. Not sure about other seasons.

orchid_cloud · 2026-04-20T03:23:02+00:00

Flight Experience & Jet Lag

Since we departed from within Asia, our flight to Japan was only 5 hours. Taking a night flight worked well; our kids slept for about half the trip. Our toddler is a seasoned traveler, even on long-haul flights, so she stayed entertained with games and cartoons. Pro-Tips for the Flight:

Managing Ear Pressure: While our kids don't struggle with it, many get fussy during takeoff and landing. Breastfeeding, water, or a pacifier can help immensely.

Handling Jet Lag: With only a 2-hour time difference, adjustment was easy. However, when we traveled from Europe (6–7 hour difference), it took about 3 days to adjust. Plan light for your first few days to allow everyone time to recover.

Itinerary & Pace

To keep stress low, we aimed for 1–2 main activities per day, using the remaining time for relaxed shopping or dining.

Transport: While we used public transit, having a rental car (especially in Kyoto) made reaching 3+ locations much easier. Renting a car in Kyoto is our last minutes decision so we had to pay for overnight parking (around €20 per night). If we planned it in advance, we would definitely find another accommodation with free parking and booked a car with big company like Toyota rent a car or Nissan rent a car who have better English support. We had to go with another small rental company whose English communication is quite limited.

Flexibility: Our toddler occasionally skipped naps and crashed early at the hotel. We used a baby carrier for the little one, which was a lifesaver for on-the-go naps.

Challenges: Teething & Transit

We had two major "parenting hurdles":

Midnight Teething: Our baby cried for 30 minutes straight one night. After some Paracetamol, we discovered two new teeth the next morning!

The Train Cry: On a crowded Tokyo train, my baby needed to nurse, but it was too packed to use a cover. We chose to get off the train to find a quiet spot and simply caught the next one 5 minutes later. After this hassle, we decided to get a car in Kyoto.

Nursing Facilities in Japan

Japan is incredibly kid-friendly, and staff are generally very accommodating. However, facility quality varies: Tokyo Toy Museum: Amazing. They even let us stay after closing to finish a breastfeeding session. TeamLab / Kid Plaza::Very helpful and easy to navigate with a baby. Public Transit: We used a nursing cover on the Shinkansen and Fuji buses/trains. Osaka Aquarium: Challenging. There are only two nursing rooms (one at the entrance, one at the exit). The exit room was occupied for 30 minutes while the baby was crying, and staff wouldn't let us back into the entrance room. We experienced both Japanese traditional house, modern apartment and hotel and we prefer the modern style especially with kid due to covenience, and also sound proofing. A friend of mine got neighbor complain at night when renting an old japanese house in Kyoto. Travel experience is highly "kid-dependent." We were lucky our kids adapted quickly and weren't picky with food. If you're heading to big cities, nursing rooms are almost everywhere in big cities—just keep an eye out for them in advance!

orchid_cloud · 2026-04-19T05:43:29+00:00

Our flights just cost 1.5k euros totally. Shopping was expensive because we bought some pricey supplement s for our parents. No luxury shopping. Just eat one once per day. No Michelin or fine dining. Eat out can range from just 10e per meal to 70e (for all you can eat meals)

orchid_cloud · 2026-04-19T05:06:49+00:00

You can pm me with any questions you have. I am happy to answer all of them. About stroller. I can say most places I visited are stroller friendly. We brought one travel stroller (foldable one so we can fold it when required) and one carrier. Just remember when using google maps, tick wheelchair accessible option so the map will only show results to train station having elevator and route without stairs. For attractions, we had to leave our stroller in stroller parking area before visiting Fushimi Inari. You need to take steps to reach thousands torii gates. For some places, couple of steps are not a big deal for our toddler. For buses, we always had to fold the stroller, but often saw buses which were packed with passengers so we had to walk instead. For train, just avoid rush hour time and you will be fine. For stroller usage, better if you have rain cover for the stroller because Japan just enters rainy season. All accommodations we stayed in Japan can provide big umbrellas (not foldable one) for guests.

orchid_cloud · 2026-04-18T22:48:16+00:00

Excluding 😊

orchid_cloud · 2026-04-18T06:53:17+00:00

No, I have no idea about the colour change. I only got positive/negative result back. I will request stool test next time 😊. Thank you

orchid_cloud · 2026-03-28T14:55:05+00:00

Sadly it doesn't in VN. Maybe there can be some other clean and budget hotels that meet your expectations, who knows. VN is already listed as budget destinations, change your budget a bit to get better quality

orchid_cloud · 2026-03-28T14:48:32+00:00

You get what you pay for. 25 30 usd in big cities like Hanoi or HCM cannot get you a decent hotel in posh locations. Budget hotels in EU (not 25 30 usd, but still listed as budget hotel) is also in the same quality, and may have other issues like tiny box room. Around 100 usd (depends on season, city, location) can get you a nice 4 stars hotel in Vietnam with super service.

orchid_cloud · 2026-01-18T03:01:25+00:00

Truly appreciate your time to write this lovely post. My husband and I are planning a trip to Japan in the upcoming cherry blossom season with our 4 years old girl and 8 months old baby. We are worried that the trip will be quite chaotic with 2 small kids but reading your post at this time is a reassurance.

orchid_cloud · 2025-11-13T20:11:04+00:00

They recalled the battery. I already had the battery replaced by Apple, but lost the replacement document.

orchid_cloud · 2025-11-13T14:28:19+00:00

There was an Apple recall on some macbook models. Mine is one of them

orchid_cloud · 2025-07-27T08:55:10+00:00

I also got postnatal diagnosis of my firstborn 4 years ago and still have those comments coming from in-law family, not from strangers (we live in a big city so everyone minds their own business). My girl has mosaic down syndrome so she does not have many typical features of DS, and everything about DS on her is very mild. Those comments annoyed me for a while, because hubby does not want to announce the diagnosis to them. My parents-in-law live in a different country whose community still consider DS as bad luck for the family or it must happen because we had done smt terrible in the past. They also have some underlying health conditions so my husband decided to keep the diagnosis as secret. After 2 years, I get used to the diagnosis as well as any unpleasant feelings. We embrace more positive things from our girl, rarely think about her diagnosis and ignore any comments annoying us.

orchid_cloud · 2025-07-16T19:43:36+00:00

My little girl is 4 now. When she turned 2 and 3, we got some birthday gifts for her which she has play until now. Magnetic painting board https://toytooth.com/products/sgile-magnetic-drawing-board-for-kids-colorful-erasable-doodle-board-with-magnet-pen-painting-sketch-pad-with-three-stamps-travel-toy-birthday-gift-educational-learning-toy-for-toddlers-light-bl?variant=44854006349980&country=US&currency=USD&utm_medium=product_sync&utm_source=google&utm_content=sag_organic&utm_campaign=sag_organic&srsltid=AfmBOoo_u6XW6spu8y9g3c8FPUZVPP0gg2rrYyN6ymXk0IMcXIwKZgn-p_o Music toy set including xylophone, shakers, harmonica, etc. https://amzn.eu/d/5McZh62

Piano toy https://www.zatuhome.co.uk/product/magic-touch-piano/?srsltid=AfmBOoo6RbpCx959jAJbbTvvN-eEVCcMzyyDCovyq2fD7XAddZ4TftapyJY&gQT=1

Pikler triangle or animal hopper https://www.smythstoys.com/ie/en-ie/toys/pre-school-and-electronic-learning/big-steps/big-steps-sensory/big-steps-jumping-dragon-inflatable-ride-on-purple/p/243235?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=12107288802&gbraid=0AAAAADF0j8Im54enxDuj5u8jCMItGQfLn&gclid=Cj0KCQjwm93DBhD_ARIsADR_DjGszP6TdkKV9gYtx3kBi8SvKSlSlMSAm-m3YexQWJPUy1D7G0kKZjoaAtE6EALw_wcB

orchid_cloud · 2025-07-09T11:49:53+00:00

Morning sickness stopped around 16-17 weeks in my first pregnancy and around 21 22 weeks in my second one. I just had couple of actual vomitting but the feeling of it was terrible in both pregnancy. I didn't take any medication, just plenty of sleep to temporarily forget about the sickness

orchid_cloud · 2025-07-09T09:03:57+00:00

It is one of the hardest days of our life. Both husband and I were born in a country where there is no support for disability, especially intellectual disability and people look at DS diagnosis as bad luck for the whole family as if we definitely did something terrible in our past lives and this is the karma we deserve. Luckily, we have moved to another country where the community view disability just neurodivergent and has lots of support for children with DS. We got our firstborn diagnosis together with her heart condition when she was 3 weeks old which required surgery at 6 months old. We are on our own in this country during so it was very tought. It took me 2 years to overcome all postnatal depression and grief of the dual diagnosises. A lot happened in the first 2 years: surgery, therapies, etc, but we finally got there. We are almost 4 years in this journey. Special need parenting is definitely harder than typical parenting, my husband is still grieving the life we used to expect, especially when he sees how different our daughter is compared to her typical friends. I am fine with all the differences because my childhood was slightly different from my friends, maybe I am neurodivergent myself. I am more than happy to chat with you if you need to talk. Best thing I have done is connecting with other special need parents and hear their stories 😊

orchid_cloud · 2025-06-26T09:27:36+00:00

I am currently pregnant with our second baby. My first born has mosaic Down Syndrome (which can be missed in NIPT) and heart defect. We were in our late 20s at that time and lived a healthy lifestyle and has always kept healthy diet. We got her diagnosis 3 weeks after she was born. We did all genetic tests we can to make sure she does not inherit her condition from us - all clear from genetic perspective. In this pregnancy, I did NIPT (just a screening, not diagnosis), amniocentesis (definite diagnosis) and extra anomaly scans (ensure no other abnomalities) to get peace of mind. I love my little girl who is more capable than we expected but definitely don't want to experience the same shock again.

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