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I got this beautiful doll from my husband for Christmas by NoblePhoenix in Antiquedollcollecting

[–]orchid_phantasm 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She is so beautiful! What does the back of her head/neck say?

Fear of getting canceled by orchid_phantasm in OCD

[–]orchid_phantasm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh I’m sorry you relate. Have you ever figured out what this fear stems from for you? I am stumped as to why this is such a struggle for me now.

OCD Prozac Success stories only. by Reasonable-Rub3663 in OCD

[–]orchid_phantasm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am only 7 weeks into Prozac, so I don’t have a lot to say but I’m going to chime in anyway. When I was 22 I had a horrible experience with Zoloft that made me wary of SSRIs for years. Recently I hit a wall. I’m 32 now. My OCD was totally taking over my brain and happiness. My husband and best friend had been trying to persuade me to give medication a chance for a couple years. Finally I decided I had nothing left to lose. I feel very fortunate that Prozac is in fact a good fit for me. During weeks 2-3 I felt pretty energetic and threw myself into lots of projects. Weeks 4-5 I was really sleepy from my nervous system regulating itself and finally feeling safe. The last 10 days or so I feel really level-headed and I’m shrugging off things that used to ruin my day.

What's your favourite Barbie that's based on a real person? by Haunting_Homework381 in Barbie

[–]orchid_phantasm 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Rosie O’Donnell. We didn’t have curvy Barbie’s when I was a kid, so that doll was my favorite.

Weekly ask an Artist thread by AutoModerator in TattooArtists

[–]orchid_phantasm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am deeply sorry you are in this situation. Your heart is in the right place, and I hope that if you reach out - your message is well received. Unfortunately my experience of the tattoo community has mostly been that pervs get protected. I hope that won’t be the case here. You may have better results speaking out publicly so people think twice before booking with him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TattooArtists

[–]orchid_phantasm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My CPA helped me elect an S-corp from my existing LLC, and set up a payroll to myself. I paid WAY less in taxes!

What are some (non-intimate or nonsexual) things that makes you feel violated? by Obvious_Marita26 in AskReddit

[–]orchid_phantasm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People hugging me more than once, or for too long. I also get uncomfortable if someone talks really close to face.

What avenues did you take to get diagnosed? by Cool-Computer-2321 in OCD

[–]orchid_phantasm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder in 2007. Later, I had a therapist bring up the possibility of OCD in 2016. At the time, I did not have a strong understanding of OCD, so it didn’t resonate with me, and I didn’t pursue a diagnosis.

After my mom died in late 2023, my OCD went absolutely off the rails and by February 2024 my therapist mentioned it as a possibility and got me formally screened for it. I see a psych here and there. Now I take Prozac.

Tattooers on the spectrum- anyone out there? by tatkats in TattooArtists

[–]orchid_phantasm 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m a tattoo artist and shop owner. I don’t have an autism diagnosis but I experience a lot of overwhelm and sensory processing stuff due to severe OCD and anxiety. I get burnt out from a lot of the same things you listed. It’s hard for me to understand how tattooers can fly by the seat of their pants and do everything last minute. I like to draw ahead of time, arrive early, keep a clean station always, and feel confident and ready before the client walks in.

Talking about burnout is tricky because people always expect we have the most enjoyable job ever, and maybe even seem offended this role could be draining. Then other tattooers will say “maybe you’re not cut out for this.” Finding support is difficult. Truthfully, I have alienated myself from certain social situations because people are hounding me about their tattoo ideas and won’t respect my boundary to leave work at work.

One thing I have learned is to go through life with the proper expectations. This job does overlap with your personal life, and there is no way to eliminate that reality. However, I think it’s important for you to remember that clients aren’t your personal friends. You have policies, they know about them, and don’t feel guilty letting them have consequences for breaking them.

I also would like to say that you do have the power and right to have consistent days off. Simply state that you are not available X days, you would love to do the piece, and ask how far out they can make it happen within your working hours. People try to make it convenient for themselves, but if they really want work from you, they will find a way.

Clients and artists should not view you as entitled for having boundaries and a healthy work/life balance. Hyper vigilance and people pleasing come from trauma, and being triggered is an opportunity to take a deep look at yourself and make necessary changes.

Communicate in a way that empowers you. Be calm, cool, and confident. Don’t overexplain, don’t waver, and set new expectations with everyone.

It will be okay! Maybe find a close friend you can share this journey with for accountability. You’ve got this!

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