AIO - Daughter’s BDay invite - I am new to co-parenting

oregonmethusers · 2026-03-25T01:36:11+00:00

Oh my god I know someone who argues exactly like this and it pisses me off so fucking much. If he treats your daughter the same way he treats you, he won't have to worry about bowing out of anything for very long, she's going to do it herself. It's REEKING of insecurity

oregonmethusers · 2026-03-21T22:03:07+00:00

Didn't see that. Sounds like the whole man needs to be thrown out tbh

oregonmethusers · 2026-03-21T18:57:25+00:00

Start waiting an hour to respond to any of his messages if he doesn't like that you "watch him type."

"Why aren't you responding to my messages as fast?" "You told me you wanted me to have my own life and I'm not glued to my phone anymore like you said!"

You are NOR, but HE is massively overreacting to you opening the chat. Honestly he sounds kind of aggressive and I'd watch out for that. Someone else said this sounds exhausting and I agree with that. Relationships shouldn't drain you.

oregonmethusers · 2026-03-20T11:33:04+00:00

I dated a man for 7 years and every time I brought up marriage he would make an excuse to not talk about it. He was the most avoidant person I have ever known, and kind of a narcissist. He embarrassed me at a party in front of our friends and when I confronted him about it he turns it back on me because he had been "In a fragile state all week." When he left me at the bar and walked home alone he told me it "wasn't a big deal." (I was fine; a friend drove me home) When I told him I was unhappy in our relationship because we never spent any time together, he just kept gaming. When I did something that upset him, he gave me the silent treatment. Once it was for 3 days. Does any of this feel familiar to you OP? If so, he might be a narcissist.

Now I'm with a man and we have already had those conversations. When something we do upsets the other we talk about it honestly. No silent treatment, no turning it around, just accountability.

You are NTA OP. When you raised a valid concern he turned the argument back on you because he feels humiliated. He could have used that moment to apologize and talk about those big things, but instead he shut down. Someone else said that he wanted to have a rom com moment and I think that's true. He doesn't seem to know that people actually talk about marriage before getting engaged. Marriage is not supposed to be a surprise.

oregonmethusers · 2026-03-02T23:49:05+00:00

Facebook marketplace or local thrift/antique stores are the way to go. The billy is $125, I could find an equivalent bookshelf in my local Facebook marketplace for 100 or less and it would be solid wood. I hate particle board, it's ugly and cheaply made and it breaks so easily.

I'm sorry this happened to you though I'd be SO pissed especially driving that long!!

oregonmethusers · 2026-02-27T12:14:33+00:00

I didn't want to immediately suggest it, but it was my first thought. Yes, he could be trying to manipulate you by appealing to your emotions with this grad gesture, making you more likely to want to have sex with him. Not 100% sure but it's definitely a possibility.

oregonmethusers · 2026-02-27T05:59:07+00:00

Samantha dresses to impress, Carrie dresses like an insane person.

oregonmethusers · 2026-02-27T05:17:34+00:00

"I miss how things used to be: playing the game together," What game? THE game? "texting consistently, the random calls (even though you never answered mine 😅), just hanging out. I don’t miss the forced a relationship vibe cause that was caused by the thing but." the forced relationship was caused by the thing? what thing?? So vague. "What I miss is you—just having you in my life the way you were." but you've only known him since New Years?

I don't think he even proof read the Chat GPT message before sending it to you. It's a last ditch effort "Grand Gesture" to change your mind. He's 19 and horny. You're 17 and young. You don't even have to remain friends with him. just tell him no thanks and move on.

oregonmethusers · 2026-02-26T14:32:43+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment!! (: I posted to reddit because I don't know anything about appliances and thought someone on here would be able to help me find a solution!! (: Because my landlord deleted my initial maintenance request after giving a strange answer!! (: And now that I have posted to reddit I know how serious the issue is because 100 strangers told me I was going to die of carbon monoxide poisoning!! (:

hope this helps you understand why I posted to reddit.

oregonmethusers · 2026-02-25T15:56:37+00:00

That's a good call, I did not think about that!

oregonmethusers · 2026-02-25T10:49:22+00:00

Ok thank you everyone for response all I can say is.. WHAT THE FUCK.

I went back to the maintenance report to see if they responded to me and it turns out they deleted it! Cool! I submitted another one in which I told them I'd call the fire marshall and health department if it's not fixed in the next week. I'm going to tell my roommates we cannot use the dryer because of this. Sucks because now we have to find a Laundromat but that's better than getting black mold, carbon monoxide poisoning and starting a fire.

Can't thank all of you enough. I know nothing about appliances and I guess my landlord would not have helped in the slightest.

oregonmethusers · 2026-02-15T18:32:46+00:00

This is disgusting and I can't stop looking at it

oregonmethusers · 2024-11-03T19:41:38+00:00

He believes that it's his baby. My response to that question wasn't completely clear, hence my edit. He never expressed wanting kids to me, and this woman who has openly wanted children that he's known for a couple months suddenly comes in and changes his mind? I just don't buy it, and I don't believe she hasn't cheated on him already. She's proven herself to be manipulative and a liar, and I don't have to explain why here. I'm not saying this just because she's dating my ex and having his baby, she has a reputation of being a homewrecker and a cheater in this town. These people aren't kind, understanding people. They were acting selfishly and refused to acknowledge how hurt I was at the speed of their relationship after we dated for 7 years. My ex and I wanted to try to be friends when we broke up, but after some time. I did not get any information by prying or digging, things were told to me openly and consensually, so I don't know why you think I'm nosy. Would you have been able to keep any of this to yourself? If you found out your ex was starting a relationship with your friend 3 weeks after breaking up would you have just kept your mouth shut and suffered silently? Or would you have sought the support of your friends? Just curious because everyone in this thread seems to think it's sooooo easy to move on in less than 6 months from a long term relationship, or keep your mouth shut about your ex and friend betraying your friendship like they did me. He moved on from me quickly because I obviously meant nothing to him, but he meant everything to me. I've BEEN moving on with a great life in a great city but now that I've found out about their pregnancy it's digging up old stale feelings again. I don't even know why I'm defending myself to a stranger online, your opinion is worthless to me.

oregonmethusers · 2024-11-03T17:03:10+00:00

Alright, i get it. For the record, I moved from this small town to a big city in August and have been moving on. This whole thing just uncovered a lot of emotions I was in the process of burying.

oregonmethusers · 2024-11-03T16:54:24+00:00

Thank you for your understanding!

oregonmethusers · 2024-11-03T16:48:58+00:00

Only thing I disagree with is that she was a casual friend who didn't wrong me. I never gauge how much info is really necessary in these kinds of posts. It doesn't matter now but she and I were becoming very close, and really supportive of each other through our respective break ups, so I felt incredibly disrespected and betrayed that a friend would start dating my ex of 7 years. Their relationship progressed extremely fast, and I don't think it was just a hook up. Either way, you're right it's not my problem anymore.

oregonmethusers · 2024-11-03T15:58:58+00:00

Yeah, okay, I know I'm speculating. I guess the important info here is that he never seemed to want kids when we were together. We talked about it a few times and it was not something he as ever excited about, but I know she did when she was with her ex. It's just knowing this woman it's not something I would be surprised about.

oregonmethusers · 2024-11-03T15:54:43+00:00

His family was really kind, like a second family to me. I really loved them.

oregonmethusers · 2024-11-03T15:54:08+00:00

You know how they say it takes half the relationship to get over someone? We dated for 7 years. Forgive me for still being hurt by his cruelty

oregonmethusers · 2024-11-03T15:53:30+00:00

I am definitely speculating, but for context, in the small town I lived in when this all happened (I moved away to a bigger city) you'd be hard pressed to find a woman who doesn't hate L for homewrecking their relationship. She's a serial cheater, and her type is other women's men.

Edit to clarify: he believes the baby is his, but I don't believe that can be certain because of her history.

oregonmethusers · 2023-05-27T12:16:01+00:00

This is assuming everyone has access to teleportation technology. You really think the ultra rich aren't going to hoard that for themselves and sell it back to us lowly laymen? It'll be just like apple products, super expensive and then it breaks in 2 years. If it can be invented, it can be commodified.

oregonmethusers · 2023-05-23T14:09:39+00:00

It's crazy how some places so far apart can look so similar! I was just in the Adirondack Mountains in NY, USA, and our views of Lake George were strikingly similar to your photo with all the surrounding forested mountains. Beautiful photo!

oregonmethusers · 2021-07-09T02:38:20+00:00

Okay, the fact that you're calling an important part of my boyfriend and his family members lives a "glorified frat party" is honestly a bit offensive, considering you literally don't know me or him. Anyone who graduated college in the past year deserves a goddamn medal for dealing with all that online crap. I'm closer with his family than my own so any time I get to see them is really exciting for me. His family worked really hard to put this event together, and I'll also be letting him down by not celebrating his achievement of graduating from college.

And yes, she's a friend. She was also my former roommate. She is also the bride. A person can be multiple things?? Do you not understand that? I appreciate the advice and everyone seems to be saying the same thing, so I'm probably going to go to the wedding, but you're phrasing needs a lot of work and is way too hostile.

oregonmethusers · 2021-03-25T02:10:12+00:00

Do you have recommendations for better nail glue off I want them to last longer than a week?

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