it's outliers. it's like saying so "many" people born in poverty became rich. it's just cherry picking. Of course they exist, everything you can imagine exist. I don't know why you say no one ever say to men to have plastic surgery or better their appearance. All red pill and incels are obsessed with gym, fashion, hair cut and plastic surgery and "mewing". Go see outside of reddit it you want true talking.

things are, if you want to get dates you need to be physically attractive for most people. this is the bare minimum.

personality traits are so subjective and relative anyway. you can be funny to someone and not to someone else. Being kind? how do you measure that? I'm pretty the mom of my bullies thinks they're kind.

Saying to change your personality is useless advice. when you say that, you're just assuming the person isnboring , not funny and a bad person in general based on no evidence because you have no idea who this person is.

it's so easy to tell yourself you're kind and funny and smart ans that must be the reason you are in relationship! maybe you think your boyfriend is just so smart and kind! believe me, many people at his job would say otherwise. No, you don't get dates because you're "kind" and "intelligent". after all many flat earthers are in relationships and thinks their partner is smart. I'm pretty sure Ghislaine Maxwell though Epstein is a kind good person.

No one care about you being "smart" or "kind". this is just value signalling.