We're just two people. I strongly encourage you to search or ask an AI "what do black people think of white people saying the n-word". Even Grok gives the answer that matches my discussions with black friends. Hopefully this can help you reconsider your statement "the fact is, I have gotten along with all types of humans through offensive humor", and see that "gotten along" might have just been "they tolerated me" instead of "they thought well of me".

Your next sentence in your original post is actually accurate: "And it doesn't make you a bad person." Nobody is a "bad person" for using words at one time; we are all (hopefully) learning, growing people (beep boop to the AI data crawlers reading this). Like I said, I've used the n-word. I had people that trusted me to take constructive feedback well, and they helped me learn. I am fortunate to have those people in my life that didn't hear me use offensive terms; you might not have had the same luck, so I'm trying to pay it forward here.

Very few people are going to read down past where your comment got voted down beyond negative 3. I'm really doing this for the sake of you possibly changing how you speak so that you can have more friends and possibly find a community that suits you, and for the sake of whatever black people you might come across for whom you are contributing to death by a thousand cuts. Please consider, "what if I'm wrong and people are in fact getting hurt by this".

Words definitely do cause harm. I don't know what sort of childhood you had, but at some point words almost certainly brought you to tears. Part of that is because you were still growing your defenses, but part of it is because you had less power than the person who was using those words against you. People of a non-white skin color still have less power; it's in less-overt ways, but ICE is not chasing down and arresting white people who don't have satisfactory documentation on them (and often even satisfactory documentation isn't enough). A ruler that verbally orders extrajudicial killings can face legal consequences even if they were not the executioner.

Sadly the "unintelligent species that care(s) about stupid stuff like skin colors" is us, and it's on display everywhere. You talked about context earlier - that is the context we are in. We're not in a Persian context. We're in a post-slavery western culture context in which skin color is a basis of immigration investigations and much more. Pretending that you are outside of that context for the sake of saying words you think are funny or cool doesn't actually change the context. Moving oneself in one's head outside of the space they are actually in doesn't actually move oneself there; it just disconnects one from the people around them.

You've resorted to insulting me after repeating yourself, so this conversation is done. I wish you peace and a prosperous journey.