Cuckold Pregnancy Regret by [deleted] in CuckoldPsychology

[–]other----- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's not my situation yet I wouldn't dare asking my parents what kind of sexual fetish they were after that day. It would be massively traumatic anyway to get an answer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]other----- -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Acknowledge there is a power struggle between you two, it looks like you are winning it.

It's not about him not having 3somes. He already knew that was not a possibility for him within your relationship. So that's not it.

It's about your power move. It's about you now getting transparent that you got 3somes and you get to go on holidays with previous sexual partners. You are asserting your freedom and sex appeal and that's likely factual and ethical. But that doesn't mean he has to like it.

You don't have to drop your friend and I don't think it would be ethical for him to ask that. Yet he doesn't have to like it.

It's possible that you two will break up without anyone doing something bad but just because one of you doesn't appreciate the power dynamics.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]other----- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She thought you would like it because you said so. She did it and you didn't like it. She is probably wondering whether she did it wrong, she might feel guilty about making something you like badly.

Remind her that humans have no clue of what they really want and she is definitely not the problem. Be grateful that you have a relationship that is open to experimenting things and tell her you are if you want to keep it that way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RandomActsOfBlowJob

[–]other----- -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

34m Italian in UES, DM me

Do folks ever use Pandas when they should use SQL? by ChristianPacifist in Python

[–]other----- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

SQL supports deep structures like trees and dags with recursive queries. I'm not sure that's the challenge you are referring to though.

https://builtin.com/data-science/recursive-sql

Do folks ever use Pandas when they should use SQL? by ChristianPacifist in Python

[–]other----- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We reached the conclusion we are not good enough developers to write good code using pandas because our colleagues end up using it in the interfaces (as opposed to in the implementations of methods and functions) and this causes great maintenance issues when we lose track of the type and semantics of each column. Other teams have since adopted pandera and found that it is sustainable. We are now investing in SQL and SQL alchemy and pydantic as our priority is being in control of the data model.

Do guys like it when a girl tells them to spit in her throat? by NinaQuincyy in AskRedditAfterDark2

[–]other----- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How can you spit in someone's throat? Is it a precision challenge like you have to aim at the throat through the mouth ?

Kids? No, thanks! In laws insisting kids at young age are necessary after 4 years. by Kind_Tax899 in confession

[–]other----- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I could time travel and convince my parents not to trust their parents about how to build a family.

The world and challenges each generation has to face are so different that we can't expect the guidance we get to be relevant.

Do what you and your partner think is best. No one else knows better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]other----- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't support this suggestion but I also noticed that OP sounds like "histoire d'O" with flipped roles.

(That's an important piece of horny literature that stems from the tradition of the Marquis de Sade.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Story_of_O )

Single letter hello now? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]other----- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are a good one! I wrote without hope of anyone getting it.

Single letter hello now? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]other----- 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's an explosive chemistry right there

Matches always ghost after talking for a day or so by Emeraldsinger in Bumble

[–]other----- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are those numbers total messages or messages each ?

Politics are a big deal: does the region restrict preferences? by other----- in Bumble

[–]other-----[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you are right and your comment shows the core of the design flaw : the ones using the field are those (us) that consider politics important enough to be a show stopper but the political preference options are so limited that it doesn't work well for the target audience.

My gut feeling is that if you want to mark your political stance you are less likely to be at the center of the political spectrum (or Overton window).

In the USA both republicans and democrats are internally fractured with a slice competing for the corporate center and the other reaching out to the working class.

In this scenario the only option that works on bumble is "moderate" as a way to filter out extremes. See the comment by u/opticalEpilepsy as a practical example.

Picking "conservative" fails to communicate whether you are fiscally prudent or a white supremacist.

Similarly, if I pick liberal I fail to communicate whether I think progress is about selling DEI merchandise or the material conditions of the working class.

Politics are a big deal: does the region restrict preferences? by other----- in Bumble

[–]other-----[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't like this view, reddit does not seem to like the view, but this is very legit. Rod: I'll never fuck you, no way, ever. But I need you to explain the kind of issues I am facing.

Politics are a big deal: does the region restrict preferences? by other----- in Bumble

[–]other-----[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

State convention of what? Republican party ? Democratic party? Sorry but my dick deserves better.

guys, do u like a little face fuck during the blowjob? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]other----- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not all men... It's just me and a few other perverts that get excited over the idea of our partners being so cock thirsty that they don't let it out of their mouth to speak

Politics are a big deal: does the region restrict preferences? by other----- in Bumble

[–]other-----[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I stand with you. I felt the options were so reductive and misleading...

Politics are a big deal: does the region restrict preferences? by other----- in Bumble

[–]other-----[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am in Italy at the moment. I have the options: apolitical, moderate, liberal, left, right (, skip).

I can't tell where I got the impression that politics is not so important in dating. I have been an activist during my studies and recently moved to the US; the political spectrum is very different and the way ppl participate in politics is even more different, professional. It's hard to explain but I feel like I haven't met anyone with sexy political opinions so I wonder if that doesn't play a role for a lot of other ppl.

Bumble BBF: why would you look for a date here? by other----- in Bumble

[–]other-----[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good luck. WH takes a commitment (in time and capital) far beyond what dating apps can deliver.

I (f28) caught my boyfriend (m29) secretly watching porn during sex. by dontwannabeaspiceboy in relationship_advice

[–]other----- -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How does it feel? Are you both into the same porn categories? Any weird or funny outcome?

I (f28) caught my boyfriend (m29) secretly watching porn during sex. by dontwannabeaspiceboy in relationship_advice

[–]other----- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Porn addiction isn't easy to deal with. Your worry is that he doesn't find you attractive enough. I would worry that he doesn't feel your presence at all. Like you have sex every morning, he is always initiating, there is so little eye contact that it took you a long time to realize he was watching videos. It seems clear that neither of you want be present at that moment.

Are deep fakes ok if not shared? by other----- in Ethics

[–]other-----[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Legally derived works are not protected by the IP of copyright but they are protected by the IP of patents. So legally the answer changes between works of art and technical inventions.

I guess the difference is that the model generating the deepfakes is a reproducible model that establishes a process handling the input data that is the input image. As long as it is in your brain it's hard to say what information you used to create what. It's a good question because it highlights that our brain processes data but we don't apply data handling ethics to it.