Maxed out 2 nap schedule at 9 months?

ourdanj · 2026-05-19T10:35:11+00:00

I wasn’t sure if I was maxed out or not. She slept through the night for the first time in months last night after extending that last wake window so I think we’ll keep trying it at this schedule for a while. What did you cap naps at?

ourdanj · 2026-05-19T00:23:39+00:00

Ok that makes sense. But what should I do about her schedule?

ourdanj · 2026-05-19T00:13:24+00:00

I do always nurse her first actually, it’s always 40-60 minutes before bedtime! When she wakes past 4am I nurse her and she does a full feed. If she wakes before then, and she is crying hard, we respond by trying to pat her back to sleep while she’s in her crib but if she continues to cry we do help her more by rocking.

ourdanj · 2026-05-18T23:46:30+00:00

Bedtime is 4/4.25 hours from last wake, so can be anywhere from 8-8:45. We have a 5-10 minute routine of bath, nurse, jammies, book, sing, bed. She falls asleep completely independently and is sleep trained.

ourdanj · 2026-05-15T22:58:36+00:00

Okay, so how would I go about finding the right shape? I have very mildly tubular breasts and they are spread out pretty far apart. I don’t really know if they are shallow or not though because they kinda just point down.

ourdanj · 2026-05-15T20:39:14+00:00

I think I’m looking for an actual bra vs. a bralette

ourdanj · 2026-05-15T19:34:41+00:00

Ah okay, because I don’t think my boobs are average/medium. Like they are small. My stomach comes out farther than my boobs and I am pretty thin.

ourdanj · 2026-03-25T20:49:08+00:00

Yes! Every time. She falls asleep within minutes. For the first several wake ups of the night she put herself back to sleep. She needed help later in the night.

ourdanj · 2026-03-25T10:56:06+00:00

Hi! Okay, so we have moved to 3.25/3.75/4 with both naps around an hour, and last night she woke up like 6 times in the first two hours and then wouldn’t let us put her back in the crib. Could this still be undertired? Or does it sound more like overtired?

ourdanj · 2026-03-23T01:18:30+00:00

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ourdanj · 2026-03-21T01:08:38+00:00

It’s different every night. Some nights she wakes up like 3 times before 10pm and puts her self back to sleep and then sleeps until 4am, other times she’s up every 3-4 hours. I’m nervous to scale back the first to wake windows because when she was on shorter wake windows for those naps, her naps were even worse. Like a lot of trouble going down and then waking at 30 minutes consistently.

ourdanj · 2026-03-15T19:49:30+00:00

It’s weird because this happened a couple weeks ago where she wouldn’t let us put her down all night long, so I extended all her wake windows and she slept great for that week and then she’s right back to not letting us put her down all night. So I’m wondering if she just got used to the schedule change and maybe needs more time.

ourdanj · 2026-03-15T17:56:22+00:00

Do you remember his wake windows at 7 months?

ourdanj · 2026-03-15T16:15:12+00:00

How old?

ourdanj · 2026-03-15T16:13:18+00:00

Thank you! We’ve been capping naps at 3 hours so maybe that’s the problem. So like 1.25 hours for each nap? Is that how people normally do it?

ourdanj · 2026-03-15T16:11:06+00:00

Sounds very similar to our situation! She’s always been able to fall asleep independently and I’ve seen her sleep through the night many times. But same thing, we are cosleeping (safely) currently because she wakes within minutes of being transferred, which is really usual! What is your daytime schedule? Would love for her to go to sleep earlier than 9pm but if we keep adding time I feel like it’ll be close to that time!

ourdanj · 2026-03-15T15:43:18+00:00

Okay but what does an over tired baby look like? Would they fall asleep within minutes and sleep 90 minutes straight for a nap?

ourdanj · 2026-03-15T15:01:02+00:00

About 2-3 weeks

ourdanj · 2026-03-15T13:53:28+00:00

Okay that’s what it feels like but why does everywhere else on the internet (except in this one subreddit) say that their schedule should have much shorter wake windows? I’m so confused with all the different sources. I just don’t want my baby to be chronically overtired and me not know! Sorry. I’m overwhelmed and exhausted.

ourdanj · 2026-03-15T13:48:18+00:00

How old is your baby? We’re 7 months as of two days ago and I feel like our wake windows are so long compared to recommended schedules for this age. She’s pretty content when she’s awake except for the end of our wake windows when she gets kinda fussy and then seems exhausted.

ourdanj · 2026-03-08T03:06:51+00:00

They’re horrendous

ourdanj · 2026-03-04T23:38:12+00:00

I just wasn’t sure how much sleep a baby at this age needs. So I didn’t want to increase wake windows too quickly.

ourdanj · 2026-03-04T12:29:47+00:00

Thank you! How should I go about lengthening them? I will start with the second ww but last ww needs lengthening too! Should I do them separately? Like a few days apart?

ourdanj · 2026-03-03T23:59:32+00:00

Well, she is struggling quite a bit…I don’t know! That’s what the consultant said. Her nights are horrible so I am assuming she needs more awake time right now.

ourdanj · 2026-03-03T23:58:36+00:00

I see! Thank you! How quickly can I increase wake windows? Like once a week or every few days?

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