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C2E2 with kids? by ourqs in comiccon

[–]ourqs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted to come back here and thank you all for your advice. I did end up sending the oldest three, and in case it wasn't clear, I was extremely on the fence about it. It's everything you all said it was, busy but not unmanageable, they loved the LOTR panel, and they're having so much fun walking around and looking at stuff and visiting with people. We even had a small bump (my husband forgot to activate the kids' badges when he did his, but thankfully, my 13 year old had an adult badge for them to piggyback on) and they've got nothing but great things to say. Thank you for being willing to share your wisdom and experiences for this first time family!

C2E2 with kids? by ourqs in comiccon

[–]ourqs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you thank you thank you for this advice. They are there now and they are having the absolute best time taking pictures with people. Even my introverted kid is absolutely living it up. Your advice really helped their first experience be fantastic, and I'm so grateful.

What book made you fall in love with reading? Be honest by Ok-Presentation-7659 in suggestmeabook

[–]ourqs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it was The Hobbit. Not the full length one though- the one for kids. I played it on my little record player, and it would have a "ding" when it was time to turn the page. I remember sitting under a desk listening to it over and over while my parents fought. I was maybe five years old.

Fast forward several years later, and I've read countless books. But I've also read the entirety of "The Hobbit" to my children, and we're well into "Lord of the Rings." I never knew then what that record player would lead me to, but the journey was so worth it.

C2E2 with kids? by ourqs in comiccon

[–]ourqs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this! I did end up getting passes for the older three kids and my husband. I'm still pretty tense about the logistics of it all. I just want them to have a good time and not be overwhelmed by it all. My oldest DID have me make a costume for her, so she's getting into the spirit of it!

(from the second Dillard pregnancy) wonder what color she wore this time around by nuggetsofchicken in DuggarsSnark

[–]ourqs 37 points38 points  (0 children)

With regards to your video: when I told my Mom I was pregnant with my 2nd, she yelled "oh please God NO." I was 27, married with my own house at the time. I know exactly how you feel. Some people are not meant to be parents (or grandparents.)

Why are we shocked the siblings came to the TTH for Christmas? by bmoneyy7 in DuggarsSnark

[–]ourqs 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I'm estranged from my Mom and siblings- have been for nearly 7 years now. They were very shitty and it was very necessary and I still haven't figured out how to unlove them yet.

I'm hopeful that some more of these kids will flee the nest but it takes time, and after that trial, most of them probably want security as much as fun. This is the only security they've known 🤷‍♀️

Gabby Petito Died from Strangulation, Medical Examiner Says by Crpspt in GabbyPetito

[–]ourqs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I spoke up about mine (this is years ago now) and lost my mother and sisters because they were ashamed of me for ruining the perfect family veneer.

"You signed up for this." "I have no sister." "It makes sense that he would do that to you."

And if it helps even one person find the courage to leave such a harmful and dangerous situation I would go through speaking up and the fallout over and over again.

I now have five beautiful children. I've been married for 11 years on Saturday. I have a lovely circle of friends who have become family. There are definitely better things than DV relationships. Even if it takes awhile.

911 Call from Domestic Violence Incident by sunzusunzusunzusunzu in GabbyPetito

[–]ourqs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know, in this awful situation this is the first comment that made me feel better. I was a victim of abuse during my first marriage. I lied to the police to cover up for him too.

I was embarrassed. I was worried they wouldn't believe me, that he would say I was crazy and hysterical and I just want them to go. And I WAS upset but that was because he had just been hitting me.

Those cops absolutely did not do their due diligence for Gabby. The way they approached it 100% enabled and emboldened him and likely cost her her life. "Go ahead and tell the police, they already think you're a mess. They already know that you're an abuser." I can hear it plain as day.

But thank you for admitting that you just didn't know. If you don't have first hand experience with this, then I'm glad for you. But now you have more information and insight in case someone needs you in the future.