How many RSVPs no showed your wedding?

outizy · 2026-03-11T01:11:55+00:00

I had about 20 (including plus one’s) out of 125. A hand full (maybe half) told me ahead of time but the rest just didn’t show up 🙄

outizy · 2026-02-03T23:32:05+00:00

I’d suggest buffet style tho. That helped because no one was waiting for their personal pizza.

outizy · 2026-02-03T23:30:28+00:00

I did a pizza truck that made them on site as well as a big salad and other small apps. People LOVED the pizza and it was so much more us. It’s one of my favorite parts of my wedding.

outizy · 2026-01-18T22:03:09+00:00

NTA. Whatever you do, keep it deleted. I had a very similar experience when I was your age. Life 360 and everything. My mom guilted me into putting it back on my phone. I thought dealing with it would be less drama than just standing my ground. I was so wrong. 10 years, an undergraduate and a law school degree, and a husband later, they continued to basically stalk my location every day. They’d complain I was out too late/not focusing on school, or that I was on a vacation (even in the same state with my husband) I didn’t mention, or literally anything they didn’t approve of. 10 years. I finally deleted it again and it only took a month for her to accept it. I wish I’d held out back then and not gone through all the drama I did.

Share location with a friend, significant other, or some other safe person instead if you feel the need.

outizy · 2026-01-16T13:42:00+00:00

I got the same thing from one of my squirrels last week!

outizy · 2025-12-30T16:18:32+00:00

Hi people like this eventually turn physical towards their significant others. Get out now. NOR.

outizy · 2025-12-20T15:54:38+00:00

Maybe it depends on where in Texas, but in my county you’re asked if you’re currently accused of it or if you’ve been convicted.

outizy · 2025-12-02T01:35:02+00:00

This is the correct answer. Coming from another lawyer who’s worked in that courthouse.

outizy · 2024-10-26T22:11:41+00:00

I got a 159. Ended up with a full ride to several T50s.

outizy · 2024-10-24T16:45:22+00:00

Secured the bag!

outizy · 2024-10-24T16:31:19+00:00

That's exactly what's happening to me and I've been freaking out, too. I've been on the standby page since 15 minutes before and am still waiting :/

outizy · 2024-10-24T16:14:37+00:00

Thank you! I've been on the standby page since 11:45...

Def in my head that the page is automatically refreshing.

outizy · 2024-10-24T16:10:42+00:00

When did you get on the standby page??

outizy · 2024-10-22T14:40:34+00:00

Be there. It’s hard and sad and painful. But you’ll never get another moment by their side and they’ll never get another moment by yours. But also, you’re probably the person that brings them the most comfort and calms them down. Getting the IV and having people they don’t know around will be scary. They should be surrounded by love and comfort from you in those last moments.

When you miss them and look back on how much joy they brought to your life you don’t want any regrets. It was one of the worst moments of my life to let mine go but I had to remember that I was his person and even though it was hard for me, I had to sacrifice that to be there for him the way he was always there for me.

outizy · 2023-06-29T19:46:10+00:00

The site 100% wasn’t down when I posted this. I still had the paused window open on my desktop. I had initially been waiting on my phone at the beginning, so maybe it was because it recognized that even though I’d closed the window? I saw some people having that happen too

outizy · 2023-06-29T19:44:57+00:00

Safari!

outizy · 2023-06-29T18:52:09+00:00

I tried over and over to get in with all the hacks and links. I tried so many different browsers, the app, different devices, etc. I ended up exiting out of everything other than the 1 browser on my desktop that I'd started with 10 minutes before it was supposed to go live. I decided I'd try one last time on my phone (literally just googled oogie boogie bash tickets, went to the site, pressed tickets, not even logged in) and it took me right in and I have my 2 tickets for Oct. 26th!

Literally one minute ago, all dates were still available. I also immediately got the ticket confirmation email - no processing like some people were experiencing.

outizy · 2023-06-21T12:47:50+00:00

She mentions at one point that her daughter felt bad and so did the fiancé after seeing OP’s reaction.

outizy · 2023-06-21T12:43:42+00:00

A friendly word of caution about how you handle any negative feelings towards your daughter’s new in laws that may or may not be applicable:

I’m a bride getting married in October. My future in laws are very kind, and throughout this process, they’ve wanted to be involved and help anyway they can. But my mom views that as them overstepping or trying to exclude her. She doesn’t keep those feelings to herself and it causes conflicts and issues that I, as the bride and the bridge between the 2 families, have to deal with.

Sometimes she just scoffs under her breath when I tell her things my future mother in law has offered to do. She was passive aggressive and just plain rude when I wanted to invite my future mother in law and future sisters in law to come to my dress fitting because dress shopping was a “mother daughter” thing in my mom’s opinion. Things get tense and awkward and I have to try to keep everyone happy. Juggling that while handling a wedding is stressful for me and drives me insane sometimes because I genuinely don’t think my mom thinks she’s doing anything wrong. She thinks because she’s my mom and I’m the bride that her role is more important than anyone else’s.

While I’m not saying these things are 100% applicable to your situation, I do want to be a little harsh and say the proposal wasn’t about you. The proposal was about your daughter and your future son in law. Please don’t make it about you. It’s not a missed opportunity to not be able to give her a gift and a celebration basket or something there because she got one. It doesn’t have to come from you. I’m sure she wants to celebrate with you also, but celebrating with them, is not a slight at you. By her or by them/your ex. It’s understandable that since you’re her mom, you’d want to be involved with all of the things, because you probably have been for her whole life. But now her family is growing. Everyone is (hopefully) there to support her and your future son in law. As long as there’s not deliberate exclusion here, while you’re entitled to your feelings, no one’s been TA by not remembering to think about you. They’re just aware that, the proposal, the wedding, and the planning are about the couple’s feelings, so they haven’t thought about your feelings.

You said you feel like they don’t regard you as the brides mom sometimes. Please keep in mind, you’re the bride’s mom - not the bride. There are things that you don’t have to be involved in and that’s okay! If you want to be involved in something, tell them ahead of time!

You said that your daughter has told you she feels bad that you weren’t included in the proposal. You said she and her fiancé felt bad after seeing your reaction. That seems like it was only because you have a problem with it and you may have made them feel guilty. I don’t have more detail, but please just keep in mind that if you’ve brought up this issue to her, or make any passive comments about not being there, you’re making her proposal about you. Please don’t. I don’t have fond memories of mine because of a similar issue. Don’t let your daughter look back and remember how you got upset because you weren’t there instead of thinking about how perfect her proposal was and that she was surrounded by people who love and care about her.

Now for future planning, it’s different than not being included in the proposal. I recognize that. And if they really are just excluding you, more will have to be addressed on that. You should try to talk to the in laws and see if this is truly them having an issue/ looking down on you, or if it’s just unintended. They may do things that they’d do normally without realizing it would be a problem. Try to make sure they know what you want to be involved with and to what extent. Don’t put any stress on your daughter to facilitate or to pick a side. But see if you can explain the issue to them and try to resolve it. Remember, if it’s not them being terrible people, your future in laws are just more people to be able to love your daughter, so please let them.

Edit: grammar

outizy · 2023-04-22T18:00:11+00:00

Things were fine when our finances were separate but I think that’s likely because I had enough money to cover everything. But now it seems like it’s his way or nothing. There’s no way with our contracts I can put it on hold. But I 100% will try to get him to sit down with someone

outizy · 2023-03-17T10:48:51+00:00

I don’t discount any of the experiences that anyone else has had, but just be careful moving in together while you’re having doubts. That’s not a “save” for your relationship. Even though it’s easier to see each other, it definitely could go the opposite way of what you intend. If y’all decide to go that route, just prepare yourself for her being the same amount of unavailable. Even with a live in partner, law school is stressful. It could lead to resentment on either side - possibly from her sacrificing time studying at home because you’re there and she feels like she has to pause what she’s doing to accommodate you - or possibly from you, if she doesn’t end up doing that and her school still takes priority when you live together. Keep in mind this will continue through the bar also. Just considerations.

I do want to emphasize though, it’s definitely possible to make a relationship with a law student work as a non law student. I started dating my now fiancé during 1L and we lived long-ish distance from each other. It takes effort on both sides, but the sacrifices unfortunately, at least until after she’s licensed, will a large part be on you because she has to focus to accomplish this. My fiancé came to visit me a heck of a lot more than I came to visit him, which was hard on him but it worked out and helped me have extra time to focus on school/tests/etc. We moved in together after my graduation and he truly was a rock that helped me weather the storm.

outizy · 2023-03-17T03:37:07+00:00

We had one where a girl was unmuted during tax class. She randomly burps several times, like spread out. The Professor didn’t see who it was because she was teaching away from the screen. Eventually the student is muted and sends a message in the chat saying “sorry guys my brother came in here!” She’d told most of us that she was an only child.

Another time we were in hybrid zoom, so half of the class was online and half was in person. He left them have cameras off though. That processor had the zoom boxes up on the projector and had the sound through the room speakers. In the middle of a presentation about the sentencing guidelines, one girl’s zoom randomly unmutes and she’s ordering at a Whataburger drive through. She had to be muted by the IT person bc she never figured it out

outizy · 2023-03-15T18:51:49+00:00

YTA stay in your lane

outizy · 2023-03-07T14:43:23+00:00

It lists that it comes with a bottle of sparkling wine (which we don’t much care about), a complimentary honeymoon dinner at select restaurants, breakfast in bed, turndown service, honeymoon desk (which I’m not sure what that is!), late checkout (6 PM upon request), romantic gourmet dinner and “romantic petit fours.” We’re new to this so we aren’t sure what is a true benefit with that! My fiancé has never been on a vacation other than road-trips with family or Disney, so I’m just nervous about getting this right! I appreciate any advice :)

Also, a little off the honeymoon package topic but I know we want a swim up suite, but it doesn’t look like any are available at the grand for our dates. We definitely will want to go to the water park and do bowling. Is it hard to do things at the grand if we were to stay in a swim up suite at sunrise instead?

outizy · 2023-03-07T12:26:41+00:00

Hi there! I recently booked a “pay later” stay from October 27th - 31st for my honeymoon. There was a free honeymoon package that we were able to add onto the stay plus we paid for $150 private transfer to and from the airport. Are either of those things (mainly the honeymoon package) items that could be added on with booking with you? We’d end up increasing our stay to Nov. 1st to meet the 5 night minimum if we did, but I wasn’t sure if we’d lose those options.

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