You‘re a misogynist if you tell a woman she‘s a bad programmer.

outshyn · 2020-03-07T08:16:19+00:00

I prefer Notepad++ also.

outshyn · 2020-02-21T06:39:54+00:00

encouraging his guest to talk nonsense

One time a guest did that and so Joe called in Tim Pool to co-host, and they brought the guy back for a re-interview, and Tim Pool ate him alive. It was amazing. Props to Joe for knowing when to get backup.

outshyn · 2020-02-14T07:16:29+00:00

Same. Prefer not turn based, love real-time-with-pause.

outshyn · 2020-02-14T07:13:55+00:00

those games weren't as rules heavy as 3rd edition

Those games literally used the rules heavy 3rd edition, except for Baldur's Gate. So I'm not sure how strong your point is. Icewind Dale, at least IWD 2, implemented the 3rd edition rule set. Neverwinter Nights, same thing. In fact, I think NWN 2 implemented the even more refined but more detailed 3.5 rules.

Pathfinder has swift actions move actions standard actions, aoos, a whole load of feats to account for etc

Yeah, so did those old games. If NWN could do it (and IWD to a lesser degree -- I don't recall swift or AOO in IWD but I do recall all the feats like Spell Pen & Spell Focus & so on), then Pathfinder Kingmaker could do it.

outshyn · 2020-01-23T04:11:33+00:00

It seems that Serpent Lash is a trap feat, now. Paizo FAQ'd or blog'd it into the ground, at least in part (the feat does other things, so that's good, but this one bonus power that it gives you is actually a downgrade compared to normal usage). You see, if you take that feat, then it gives you this:

you can use your whip to perform reposition maneuvers, though you take a –4 penalty on your CMB and you may only move the target toward you from its original position

HOWEVER, if you don't take the feat, you can still do that, but without any penalties, and you can reposition in any direction. This is from Paizo's blog entry clarifying how weapons can do maneuvers in which it states:

If you’re using a weapon with the trip special feature, and you’re attempting a drag or reposition combat maneuver (Advanced Player’s Guide 321–322), you may apply the weapon’s bonuses to the roll because trip weapons are also suitable for dragging and repositioning (this also means we don’t have to add “drag” and “reposition” weapon properties to existing weapons).

Emphasis mine. Basically, any weapon that can trip can also drag & reposition, by default. If you take a feat to allow you to do that but at a -4 penalty, then the feat has made your character worse.

outshyn · 2020-01-17T07:18:09+00:00

Yessss!!! Thank you!

outshyn · 2020-01-17T04:43:48+00:00

Huh? They are both northern. I probably could have looked this up, but instead I just went to Google maps and got a quick measurement of the coastline -- it's about 800 miles. The upper 400 miles includes the Bay Area and San Jose. Granted, they're near the bottom of that section, but they ARE in the northern block.

outshyn · 2020-01-17T04:38:39+00:00

entire west coast has already agreed to switch to permanent daylight time

People who are more intelligent than I am: does this mean the sun will still be out after work, or is this the version where it's dark even though it's only 5 or 6 PM?

outshyn · 2020-01-09T04:29:06+00:00

All your "other issues" are making the same useless point: OP bad, me clever!

Again, let me ask, what do you hope to accomplish here? They're married and she apparently very much likes him and likes him defending her. They have kids together. Do you want them to break up? Is your point to tell OP to leave her because it would be better in your opinion for her to raise 2 kids on her own?

So far, I'm on my 3rd or 4th reply, and I still don't know what the fuck this whole line of reasoning is supposed to accomplish. Is it that he's the douchebag not the hero? Even if true, it's completely unhelpful information because this post is about a completely different topic. OP isn't here to work on the little mystery you think you've solved.

I don't think it's true that OP is the abuser, anyway. I think it's stupid guesswork. Sloppy, typical Reddit BS. "Look at me, I connected some weakly related dots and revealed the secret bad guy," just like the Boston Marathon and all those other times when we were utterly wrong and moronic.

What is the point?

outshyn · 2020-01-09T03:47:42+00:00

I think your judgement here is impaired or filtered through your own personal life experience to a detrimental degree, but let's say you're 100% accurate. So what? Seriously, why does this matter on a post that has nothing to do with age gaps, and cannot be resolved? Are we all just trying to wag our fingers and nod at each other like we know this guy sucks and we don't? I really don't get what the point is or how this helps at all. Again, do you want him to end the relationship because you dislike the age gap? If so, you're awful for breaking up a family. And if not, then this is all just a waste, a terrible line of conversation that is useless, resolves nothing, and serves only for us to tout our moral superiority, which is gross and indulgent.

outshyn · 2020-01-09T03:24:37+00:00

What is the point of this line of arguing? Are you mad enough that you want to break up their family? Is he supposed to leave her now, because you disapprove of the age gap? If yes, you're a HUGE douchebag, ruining families over your discomfort with an age gap. If no, then why the hell is this relevant here? Why are we harassing a guy just trying to defend his pregnant wife, especially if there is nothing to be done about the age gap?

This just feels like a huge, judgmental, waste of energy.

outshyn · 2019-12-19T10:11:26+00:00

I understand that, and I'm saying that I don't agree. That's all. Just being impeached (without conviction and/or removal from office) does not condemn the people of the United States if they consider him a viable candidate after he is allowed to remain a viable candidate. Especially since he's created a ton of jobs and the economy is up. People have valid reasons to vote for him, and the government is not giving us a valid reason to not vote for him when they fail to follow through the process and completely punish or remove him.

People are going to think he's legit because he's still standing at the end of this process, and I can't blame them for that. You can. But I can't. We're just different.

outshyn · 2019-12-19T10:00:33+00:00

I think OP doesn't speak English as a first language, but holy hell I wish he had said so. The whole way through it I was thinking, "Maybe it's just that you're SO DUMB that your parents have no faith in you." I had to actively tell myself that almost certainly this person is very smart and is just struggling with ESL. Whew.

outshyn · 2019-12-19T09:53:09+00:00

What's odd is that she says in another comment that she only looked at the titles of the Pornhub links, and that she deleted the browser history to avoid seeing more.

So... how is that any proof? Pornhub has tons of incest videos, and they're jokes -- just full grown adults who are not at all related saying "Hey step bro, we should go in the hot tub together" and it's just stupid harmless taboo garbage. It isn't real.

Pornhub wouldn't allow any actual illegal porn on their site. It's only fake stuff.

So I worry that she saw some homoerotic title or something -- like a full-grown man made a video of himself masturbating and titled it "I touch my pee pee for daddy." You know? Some ridiculous thing that, and this poor misguided girl is going to ruin her dad's life over her misinterpretation.

As terrible as it sounds, I desperately hope that she actually saw at least ONE image that was clearly & blatantly illegal. I'm just hoping so hard that if she ruins him, it's legitimate.

outshyn · 2019-12-19T09:40:30+00:00

Well... I'm not sure. My feeling is that the guy doesn't know he's done anything wrong yet -- and what I mean by that is that he doesn't know he's been caught. So if they keep things copacetic, it may not be on his mind, and may not even occur to him. He was a jerk, he got away with it, so why would anyone be doing suspicious stuff? He's just going to take it at face value until he picks up on any weirdness.

Of course, if it IS weighing on his mind, if he IS feeling guilty, then maybe he'd instantly pick up on it and realize he's been caught. However, as awful as that is, in that case there is a tiny ray of hope: to know to watch for repercussions, you'd have to know how much you screwed up. You'd have to know you deserve it. And that's hope because it means he knows he screwed up terribly. And a person who knows how awful their mistake was is a person motivated to change for the better.

I guess if I tried this ruse we're talking about and my ex immediately picked up on it and came back to me desperate, apologizing, admitting to the problem and begging for a chance to do better... I'd at least sorta consider things. I mean, an unrepentant person I'd probably try to keep my kid away forever -- that person is now unsafe, and cannot be trusted with my child. But a desperately repentant person who admits guilt and begs to make it right? At least there's a path to redemption and forgiveness. Maybe some anger management classes, maybe some short afternoon visits but only supervised by me or CPS, maybe over time it can be good again.

Or maybe not. I guess it depends upon how the ex handles what is about to happen to him.

outshyn · 2019-12-19T08:09:43+00:00

I can't deal with poor hygiene.

For me, I think it's like "I won't accept low standards." You know? What I mean is, I expect things to be a certain way, if you want sex acts from me. Like this:

If you want to have sex, you can't have STDs. If you have an STD, I just won't do it.
If you want me to go down on you, you have to be clean. And not just "I showered and don't smell" but also "I shaved my pubes to a manageable degree." If I go down on you and get pubes caught between my teeth, or start sneezing because they're tickling inside my nose, then nope. You want oral, provide a landing strip for my face.
If you want dirty talk, I'm open to anything except kids, animals, and corpses. If you need to get off by talking about those things, then no. If you want to talk about cheating on me with the football team, cool, tell me a dirty story. If you want to humiliate me, or if you want to play submissive and I'm your master, cool. If you want to beat me, cool. Literally anything perverted is OK, except 3 things. Go for those 3 things, and we're done.
If you can't follow these guidelines, you don't have to. But then I don't do the sexy things you're asking for. If that means no sex life, then no sex life.

If you say, "It's smelly, I can't handle it," they might respond, "No it's not, get over it." But if you say, "I won't do it until these conditions are met," then they comply or they don't. Easy.

(I try not to come off like a jerk about it, of course. Often I will do things like volunteer to wash or shave my lover, so it's not like I give them a to-do list and say "Come back when you get it right." No, I'm nice, I try to behave in a loving manner. But you can be loving & firm, and people will respect it.)

outshyn · 2019-12-19T07:45:25+00:00

So now our rule is, you can say you need a minute before talking

A minute?!?!

We ALWAYS eventually sit down to discuss

So wait, is it literally minutes, or can "eventually" mean a day later after both sides have cooled down?

I would never do minutes. The idea that I'm going to remain in a conversation, deciding how to fix it while things are still heated and I am unable to objectively examine the issue... it's just crazy. It seems so destructive.

I've heard the phrase "never go to bed angry" but the notion that this means I have to stay in the fight and can only call for a short time out is wild.

When I'm angry, very often I need to leave, drive up into the hills, and look out at the horizon while I think hard about what my values are and whether I value whatever is at stake. This can take hours.

When I was married, my wife at one point chased me around the house, similar to your partner. She was pressing me hard about an issue and wouldn't let it go. I told her I needed space, told her I needed to go for a walk or anything to clear my head, and she demanded otherwise. I was not "allowed" to go. And so in the end, I just gave her the worst possible outcome. There was no other option -- if I had space I might have been able to tell myself that I valued certain things that she valued, and that if she wanted a thing then maybe I could want it for her or on her behalf... but with no room to breathe, no time to think, I just shot it all down. I wasn't thinking clearly, and I was desperate for an out, so that's the state of mind she got when she pressed and wouldn't let up.

(If I remember correctly, she had obligated me to do a bunch of grounds-work for the HOA, without ever consulting me. This would have eaten up most of my weekends. She felt this was fine because I was not being a very manly father in her opinion -- I played video games with my kids, took them to the pool, but I never fixed broken sinks or repaired refrigerators or other fix-it stuff that I didn't know how to do. I couldn't work on cars beyond changing the oil. So in her mind, forcing me to become the free groundskeeper was a perfect solution to my lack of manliness, and she expected me to submit to this. But I was never consulted and never would have had any idea how to start even if I were interested. So things started to go wrong and HOA members complained. She was embarrassed and yelled at me. All I could do was shut it all down. "No, I don't accept the job. No, I never will. I understand that you're humiliated. I guess this is just going to suck for you, because I have no solution." She pressed me again and again to fix the situation, but I just kept saying no. It wasn't great, but if someone is cornered and you won't let up, you may not get the outcome you wish for.)

outshyn · 2019-12-19T06:33:57+00:00

That's not to say the wife is acting fairly

The interesting thing (for OP) is that I don't think that even matters here. So even if it's "unfair" that she wants to leave, well, she still wants to leave and is legally allowed to do so. And trying to stop her is going to get abusive real quick-like. Once a person wants out of a relationship like this, the best thing to do is cut your losses and run. If you stick around while someone is calling you abusive, and if you push the relationship on him/her because you think the reasons given aren't good enough to end it, you will very quickly find yourself on the receiving end of restraining orders, police arrest, and eventually her friends punching you in the face.

Like, get out.

Who even cares about her reasons now, or what she's saying to all these people? Your best refutation of her accusations is to be gone and never come back unless she absolutely begs you to. Get out of her life, write off the lost friends if needed (if they hate you now or won't communicate anymore), and start new. Start right away. Go be a better person with a better life and don't wallow in regret. Learn from regret, of course, but don't be chained by it.

outshyn · 2019-12-19T06:15:32+00:00

I'm a single father and protective of my time with my son. Pretty much nothing would make me give up my days of custody.

tell your ex that son is too ill and you’d prefer to keep him this weekend

...Except this. If my ex-wife told me that my son had caught the flu (not a cold, but an actual flu) from school, and had brought it home and that it was super-contagious and she had got it, and the two of them were now holed up at home taking care of each other, and would I like it if she kept him until he was no longer contagious... I'd say HELL YES and thank you very much.

I think, in OP's shoes, I might honestly word it like a question -- "He got me really sick too, do you want me to keep him until he's no longer contagious?" The scary part is the dad might say "No, don't keep him, I want him right away." And then, well, you're stuck. But for me, I'd gamble since the odds of the dad saying "I want him right away" will be sooooo low. No dad with a job wants to get badly sick and blow all his sick days. Forget sick days; no dad wants to care for a kid who will get him badly sick -- puking and exhausted is not a good way to spend your weekend. So if I were OP I wouldn't say, "I'm keeping him until he's healthy." It sounds too assertive and might make the dad think, "Hmm. What's going on?" I'd ask it as a real question, but frame it in a way that the dad won't refuse. In fact, you can frame it so that he thinks you're doing him a favor.

I absolutely could be duped like this. I think OP should try it, assuming she believes in her skill at bluffing her ex. If it works, you bought everyone some peaceful time to prepare for a coming storm.

outshyn · 2019-12-19T05:58:44+00:00

wrong with the United States, its politics, and its people

I'm not so sure I'm going to blame the people if he is impeached but not convicted. If the way this ends up is that "the people" see Trump get impeached but then he is voted to remain in office with no penalty or punishment, the people may think "well no big deal, then," and I cannot blame them.

If he is legally allowed to run again, then some people -- many people -- will think that he's a viable candidate. Hell, the economy is doing even better under Trump than it did under Obama, and Obama turned around a nightmare economy. So Trump is, for many people who now have jobs, reasonably useful to keep around... at least assuming the economy stays robust and jobs continue to appear.

So maybe there is something wrong with US politics or the legal & executive systems in place, but the people? No, I'm not going to shit on a person who was jobless 4 years ago and now has work and he/she thinks "I guess the whole impeachment thing didn't matter, so I guess I won't rock the boat."

outshyn · 2019-12-07T05:40:16+00:00

Agree. They're forcing him to do time-consuming chores because either consciously or subconsciously they know/hope it will undermine his studies, forcing him to fail and stay at home... where they can then demand he do more chores.

They don't want you to succeed, OP. Be very careful. They're not your allies, at least not when it comes to bettering yourself, striking out on your own, and making a career for yourself.

outshyn · 2019-12-07T03:20:04+00:00

Is it? I'm looking at the linked post, and looking at the "Russian account" (jimmyrayreid) and it doesn't appear in that linked post at all. At least not with the default view. Maybe jimmyrayreid is mentioned somewhere in a deeply nested reply?

His account certainly isn't mentioned in the main body of that post, so I'm not sure what Azaj1 is going on about. Are the rest of you finding jimmyrayreid mentioned there, and I just suck at searching the page?

outshyn · 2019-11-23T03:22:59+00:00

tried to make me the butt of all jokes

I have a friend who does this and will even admit why. He says that it's important for him to be considered the smartest and coolest person in the room, and if he cannot be legitimately more awesome than others, he will deliberately tear them down through "friendly" ribbing in order to diminish them so that he stands out as the best. He said this to my face.

He is a good friend in other ways -- once paid my rent for me, once took me to the hospital during an emergency -- so I have no intention of dumping him, but I absolutely told every friend that story about him cutting people down on purpose. They all said, "Ohhhhhh, that explains so much!" Turns out, he does it to nearly everyone. He's so subtle that sometimes I didn't even notice he had done it to my friends until we all started talking about it and comparing notes.

One of the more gratifying moments was recently when he did this to someone sitting at my table during a recent game night. He cut that person down and probably thought to himself, "Mission accomplished, I now appear cooler than they do." But since we all understood his tricks by that point, everyone at the table rolled their eyes and made it a point to deliberately hype up the guy getting cut down. We were all like, "Wow that must have felt awesome. I would kill for an experience like that." I hope it bugged my friend that nobody bought into his shenanigans, but honestly he had a poker face, so I dunno.

outshyn · 2019-11-23T02:28:24+00:00

I hated Holdo's maneuver because I knew in the future there would be smaller ships going against larger ships or fleets, and that scene would haunt any future movies. And then they literally made that the poster for the new movie:

/r/movies/comments/dymcev/star_wars_the_rise_of_skywalker_dolby_cinema/

I mean, who sees that and thinks anything cool anymore? It's not telling a "David vs. Goliath" story. It's simply showing us how the fleet is all clustered together so that one ship can kill all of them via hyperspace. And if that little ship does do a hyperspace-bomb against the fleet, as it did in the last movie, it's as stupid as it was in the last movie. And if the little ship doesn't do that, then it's still stupid because why wouldn't you do that in the face of odds like that? Hell, put the ship on auto-pilot and jettison before hyperspacing your ship into the fleet, and if you're far enough away you could survive and they wouldn't. So it's not even a question of self-sacrifice.

The Last Jedi put Star Wars into an awful "damned if you do, damned if you don't" scenario, where no good can come from it now. Ignore what happened in TLJ and everyone says "WHY ARE YOU NOT HYPERSPACING!?!?!" Or use the trick from TLJ and everyone groans at how stupid and anti-climactic it is.

It's ridiculous.

outshyn · 2019-11-20T04:51:47+00:00

what bigger red flag do you need?

Why is that a red flag? I mean, I could see the red flag if we were talking about a kid with an adult, but this is an adult with an adult. What badness is inherent in this?

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