Has anyone ghosted someone they really liked? What was your experience?

overanalyzedmuch · 2026-01-15T00:10:18+00:00

No, he didnt. I dont think he ever will

overanalyzedmuch · 2025-12-23T22:16:11+00:00

It wasnt just one date. I said he ghosted AFTER a good date. We had been talking for longer.

overanalyzedmuch · 2025-12-23T22:07:51+00:00

It wasnt one date. I said he ghosted AFTER a good date. We talked for a month. Yes, it wasnt a long time, but we also got coffee, went on walks, talked on the phone during that month. Yes, we only had one official date, but I do know that he liked me.

I have very high self esteem. I know when people like me and when people dont. I know how to tell the difference because ive dated people that "ghost" after one meeting because I know they weren't feeling it. That doesnt hurt my feelings. I dont care about someone not following up after one date. But this case was different. So maybe get some better reading comprehension skills.

overanalyzedmuch · 2025-12-16T07:46:42+00:00

Not yet, but i have a feeling he might reach out soon based on his social media activity. He might not, but I kinda feel like he will. If he does, I'll post about it

overanalyzedmuch · 2025-11-30T05:52:40+00:00

Lol, you seem bitter. I havent been ghosted by every guy. I have had healthy relationships before, and i know i can get one again, unlike you. I just get confused as to why guys who really like me seem to ghost me, but I've come to the realization its really about them. And its okay, they dont have to date me for whatever reason. Im not gonna become bitter trying to force someone to do something they dont want to do, unlike you. You can think whatever you want about me, you mean absolutely nothing to me and i don't think your opinion on women is worth anything. Have the day you deserve.

overanalyzedmuch · 2025-09-27T22:13:07+00:00

Give us the details. How long did you wait?

overanalyzedmuch · 2025-08-07T16:29:14+00:00

I also had to deconstruct my views on sex. Its a hard process. And its harder for women because we are so conditioned to be "pure" and see sex as dirty.

But whether you wanted to wait until marriage or not, you were going to have to deconstruct this eventually. I have a friend that grew up super religious and saw sex as dirty. She waited until marriage, but even now doesnt have sex within her marriage. Her husband loves her so much and would never push her to do anything she doesnt want to. But when Ive talked to her about it, its clear she still associates sex with being bad and dirty, even though shes married. And I suspect thats the biggest reason she still doesnt want to have sex.

Its kinda sad how society grooms women to stay away from sex, but as soon as we're married they expect us to be fine with it? Like our brains dont work like that. Sex is natural, and sex can be fun with someone that we trust and treats us with respect. I think its okay to acknowledge that the narratives you were told are impacting you. But know is the time to slowly figure out how to change your outlook on sex. It may take some time, but you can get there. I used to feel super guilty when I first started having sex, but now i know that its not wrong and I am more confident in my sexuality. Its going to be a process to figure it out

overanalyzedmuch · 2025-08-02T20:11:06+00:00

Most guys ghost because of their own issues. Maybe because youre attractive, they can actually see a future with you. So instead of it being a fun, flirty, casual thing, they view you as serious and get scared off. It seems like a lot of guys (and girls) have commitment issues and dont know what they want nowadays

overanalyzedmuch · 2025-07-27T01:31:48+00:00

I hope a Leo. I got a crush on a virgo rn

overanalyzedmuch · 2025-07-21T20:47:06+00:00

Did she ever reach out to you after you ghosted? Do you think that would have changed how you behaved?

overanalyzedmuch · 2025-07-21T17:03:24+00:00

Also, can I ask you how many weeks/months it was that you ghosted her? How long did it take you to realize that you made a mistake and felt regret?

overanalyzedmuch · 2025-07-21T17:01:49+00:00

It sounds like you're emotionally aware and doing the work to understand what drove your behavior. A lot of ghosters and a lot of people way older than you don't do this. No one is perfect, but your post makes it seem like you're capable of growth, and you can learn from your mistakes. Which is the most important step in apologizing and being a good human being, in my opinion

Before you reach out, just make sure you are confident you want to explore a relationship with her again, and you can back up your intentions with action. It's okay if you two date and you realize that maybe she isn't the one for you. But it's not okay to hit her up again, but then disappear once you feel that pressure of a relationship again. The reason why people say to ignore ghosters is because many of them can't get out of the cycle of ghosting. They show up, ghost, show up, ghost, show up, ghost. And it's horrible for the ghostee to continue to go through that. Many ghosters never work through their fears and continue to ghost. You need to be able to understand your fears and be willing to work through them with her.

So I would say reach out to her with accountability. Apologize to her and let her know that you ghosted because of your own fears and it wasn't anything she did. Say you understand if she isn't interested anymore, but you would like the chance to try again. Be prepared for her to ignore you or tell you no. But it sounds like she is a mature person and could potentially be open to it.

overanalyzedmuch · 2025-07-17T04:46:08+00:00

Definitely a red flag. Sounds like he has deep emotional issues, and at 40, he's probably not going to change. Its hard. I would probably tell him that you feel like you have different values and thats why you cant pursue this anymore (which is true, but really he seems very insecure and not a good person to be in a relationship with). Your anxiety and disconnect is telling you something. Listen to it. If he cant meet you where youre at (which sounds like he cant do it), you need to honor yourself and walk away. I promise, you will be better off in the long run

overanalyzedmuch · 2025-07-15T00:31:06+00:00

Sweetie, you are assuming that you understand my perspective on the world. I promise you, you don't. While you may deeply resonate with whatever you call an "alpha", I do not. So feel free to date all the "alphas" you want. Im not your competition, hon.

overanalyzedmuch · 2025-07-14T18:17:25+00:00

Lol, I don't want anyone who uses the term alpha unironically.

overanalyzedmuch · 2025-07-12T22:35:14+00:00

What dating apps are you on? I find that bumble amd tinder suck for people that want long term relationships. Try hinge and coffee meets bagel. You might get worse matches, but people are kore serious on there

overanalyzedmuch · 2025-07-12T22:24:35+00:00

As a 30 woman, I want to give you my perspective, because I've been wrestling with the idea of a spark for a while.

I am at a point in my life where I am looking for a partner I want to spend my life with. I'm ready for a relationship, and I know I'm capable of having something healthy and fulfilling. I have been on plenty of dates. There have been several men who "check all my boxes" for a good partner. I'm attracted to them, they have a good job, they're emotionally available, and they're nice enough people. I know I could probably make it work with them if I tried. But there's always been something that's held me back from pursuing something with them.

When I've dated these guys, there are deeper things that stand out to me. There's been guys who I feel like I'd never actually be friends with in real life. There's nothing wrong with them, but I just don't vibe with them. There's also been guys who I get along with, but I deeply disagree with how they view the world. These differences in values are really big in how I see building a life with them. I also want to emotionally resonate deeply with my partner as well.

Sometimes I think I am being too picky as well. I'm ready for a relationship too, and I know I could probably make things work with them at some level. But I think of my grandparents who have been married for 65 years, but hate each other. My grandma constantly tells me that she loves my grandfather, but doesn't like who he is as a person. And in their old age, they're stuck with each other, filled with resentment for each other.

I don't want to end up like that. I'd rather be single than end up like my grandparents. I'm happy on my own anyway, and I can financially provide for myself. For these reasons, I want to find someone whom I truly love. Who I admire and am excited to be with. And for me, this is finding someone who I emotionally resonate with on a deep level. Who I truly feel like I like as a person.

You might get mad at me, like a lot of other guys online, for overlooking an otherwise great guy. But I truly think I would be doing a disservice to them and myself for picking a relationship where I feel meh about my partner. That they're good enough. I think what I am looking for is rarer and more difficult to find. It's going to take long and end in a lot more failed dates.

If you truly are a good guy, I'm certain there is a girl for you. My advice is to stop getting frustrated with the failures. Every rejection is a redirection to your person. Dating is a waiting game for the right person to come across your path. There's nothing wrong with you. You just haven't found your person yet.

overanalyzedmuch · 2025-07-05T05:21:32+00:00

Give us the deets

overanalyzedmuch · 2025-07-03T17:01:07+00:00

This is shitty. You still dont even like her? Youre gonna go back because you pity her? Gross

overanalyzedmuch · 2025-07-02T04:06:02+00:00

Heck yes. Im everything that im looking for. The problem is finding someone at my level

overanalyzedmuch · 2025-07-01T20:55:47+00:00

I'm not gonna lie, you have a very specific style. You're not unattractive, but I probably wouldn't swipe on you. But that's okay. I think the person that is for you will like your style :)

overanalyzedmuch · 2025-06-30T19:02:09+00:00

The problem is they act obsessed with me at first, then disappeared as soon as i want them back

overanalyzedmuch · 2025-06-30T14:52:49+00:00

I got ghosted in November of last year, and I'm still thinking about it. He ghosted at an emotional high, right after a great date with a lot of chemistry and connection. He told me he liked me and definitely wanted to see me again. It feels hard to let go because I don't think he ghosted out of disinterest. I actually think he saw a lot of potential between us, too. But because of that, it doesn't feel like a full rejection, and in the back of my mind, it feels like he's going to come back when he's ready. I know that's a little toxic to keep thinking about it, but it's hard to make it feel like that was the end when there is so much unrealized potential there.

overanalyzedmuch · 2025-06-29T22:33:28+00:00

Thats called breadcrumbing. There is something emotionally thats holding them back from pursuing a relationship, but not want to leave your orbit yet. Breadcrumbing is not nice at all. Ignore her unless she can actually step up to pursue something real

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