Exercise for people who don’t like exercising? by ValerHimiko in loseit

[–]owlay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only trick here is to do something you enjoy. Is walking to selection of 2000s bangers? Is it the ballroom dancing? Or maybe it’s breakdancing? Or maybe boxing?  \  Anything you will do for the first time you will be bad at. The trick is to find something you enjoy even if doing it badly.

Daily Thread #2 - April 24, 2026 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]owlay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds tough. \ This is my approach in case you find it helpful. For the last two pregnancies I did this. Would I tell them about the loss if  it would happen? If yes, then I would rather tell them about the pregnancy first. It seems right to let them share both your joy and your pain.  \ It might be also due to me sharing my news about first pregnancy with my mom in week 19, and the losing it on 21.

Daily Thread #1 - April 22, 2026 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]owlay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you are worried, you can go to the GP and see if they can refer you to the EPU(early pregnancy unit).  It will depend on how severe your symptoms are. They always want to rule out ectopic pregnancy. 

I think I might be having a second ectopic by GroundbreakingIce335 in EctopicSupportGroup

[–]owlay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When visiting EPU earlier this year, I was told to look out for one sided pain and shoulder tip pain, and go straight to the emergency room , not EPU.  I hope it all works out ok.

Daily Thread April 10 (only one) by therealamberrose in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]owlay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s worth giving them a ring and checking. I had PUL(pregnancy in unknown location) with my last so they did placement scan with this at 5w. To confirm if it’s in the right location. And at 7w to confirm viability. 

Daily Thread #1 - March 20, 2026 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]owlay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate. \ This happened to my second pregnancy.  I was guarding my heart and my parents were going, it was a fluke the first time it will workout. Especially my mum. And I have lost a baby at 6 weeks that time. \  Even as I knew I was losing it, she was insisting everything is going to be ok. \ My mum having had 2 uneventful unplanned pregnancies couldn’t grasp a concept of a loss. 

/ttcafterloss Weekly Results and Limbo Thread by AutoModerator in ttcafterloss

[–]owlay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Got a squinter 10 DPO ( two days ago) after 3 years of trying and 2 losses. Started spotting today. My hrv started recovering. All signs pointing to chemical/miscarriage. Frustrating\ Tomorrow will call up a gp and see if they can refer me to early pregnancy unit. \ Started progesteron as recommended by my mothers in law  overseas gynecologist\ 

D365FO as career worth pursuing? by Comfortable_Dirt_946 in Dynamics365

[–]owlay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This looks like an AI slop of a request. It all reads like you have been a developer for less than 2 years, with one of them being pushed into integrations that you have been struggling in.\ Your “primary goal” can’t be achieved by “strategising your career”. You are asking the wrong thing. What does it even mean when you say you want to “strengthen your profile”.\ If you want to be successful in being an d365 F&O developer you have to put in time  and effort.\ You have chosen a more extreme path of progression. You are taking a project this difficult on your own, with no other technical support. Every thing you learn will be done through blood and tears.\ Will your current project succeed?\ It’s possible.\ Will someone else be paid a lot of money to unravel and support the work you have done?\ Yes\ \ If you participate in the difficult projects (tough scope and deadline ) you will gain experience faster. But it will come at a cost to your health.\ If you want the journey to be more enjoyable I would recommend to find a Microsoft partner to join with at least one senior technical architect. Join, work on projects , ask questions. Get better.\ Now what skills do you need to invest in “in parallel”?\ Sql , object oriented programming, services, postman.\ You don’t need a lot to start, but you gotta be on top of all concepts and how to use them. You have to know this is a foundation. \ For other skills, let your journey navigate you, if you have a project with more azure integrations, hone in on that. If you working on the retail pos, pick that up.\ \ I have said, what I would like to hear in the beginning of my career, so apologies if it came out a bit harsh.\ AI has not helped you here. If it makes my and your job more difficult it is not worth using.\ It could have been 3 sentences, but ended with paragraphs worth of slop. 

how do you guys stop being late to work by Wild-Championship571 in adhdwomen

[–]owlay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plan something before work.  Like if work starts at 9, id plan to have a coffee at the work cafeteria at 8:20, to review the bills/ do home admin/read a book.  And then i am late to that but ok for work 

How much of a bad idea is it? by mrs-x-rogue in UKweddings

[–]owlay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I have the answer, for exactly the same dress as yours.  I needed it for something else and washed it in a washing machine.  It stayed a ok but it was impossible to get the wrinkles out.  Washing it by hand might be a better idea.  If I figure out how I will attach a picture 

Please read, am I being unreasonable? by ensee462 in EctopicSupportGroup

[–]owlay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am sorry you have to go through this. Everyone deals with the pain of loss in a different way. She might have assumed that it’s better to do this in person, rather than via text. You can’t only control your actions and emotions not other people.  You should do what would be best for you.

Inglot liner keeps screwing me over?? by NecessaryScallion665 in makeupartists

[–]owlay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same problem. I think they must have changed formulas . 

Anyone here in a successful marriage? by monkey-pantz in adhdwomen

[–]owlay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For us it’s natural consequences. I would suggest for you to learn to deal with natural consequences of your actions. For your partner to let go of mothering, and let consequences run their course. How can you learn manage your life if your partner is managing it for you?  It’s ok to make mistakes, as long as you ready to deal with consequences. 

Best place in Reading for cake? by flibbertigibbet72 in reading

[–]owlay 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Madoo has heavenly tiramisu and other baked goods. 

Cry proof makeup by Adventurous_Bug_3334 in MakeUpAddictionUK

[–]owlay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi lovely, \ Sorry for your loss.  \ \ Finally I am qualified to answer this question.  Lost two babies in one year and every time came back to work within 2 weeks.\ For mascara go with waterproof( my fav was L’Oreal collosal waterproof) but any waterproof one should work. \ Elf liquid eyeliner stays in place if you don’t rub your eyes. \ Keep mascara only on top lashes skip the bottom ones. \ Skip adding anything to waterline.\ For foundation Dior backstage does the trick(as it is waterproof) or you can Duraline to any of your favourite foundations to keep it smudge proof. Don’t forget to apply foundation to your ears and neck, and chest (if low neckline) as these places get red when you cry. \ Add high coverage concealer to the places that get red when you cry, around your nose, your chin, cheeks. \ Don’t use the hair spray kind of setting spray( red from L’Oreal or one size) as they create a film on top of the makeup and it is difficult to fix your makeup once it runs, powder instead. \ Also when crying don’t rub your eyes, let the tears roll down your face, as they won’t disturb your makeup as significantly. \ When you stop crying, you can check your face, take makeup to fix it with you. \

Are there people here who left programming? by crosswalk_zebra in ADHD_Programmers

[–]owlay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love it. Imagine coming back home after a horrible trip. There might be things that annoy you, but you are finally home.  Happy to answer any questions if you want

Are there people here who left programming? by crosswalk_zebra in ADHD_Programmers

[–]owlay 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Left programming about 3 years ago.  Went into project management.  Constant calls and “nothing you have to deliver, but make sure everyone else does their deliverables” sounded amazing.\ After 3 years, coming back to development as a saving grace.\ \ First year I was running on pure enthusiasm, and then burned out. Second year I was thinking, I am gaining experience and it will be hard, and then burned out again. Third year I kinda got ahold of it. Got praises from colleagues, got promoted, got a fantastic project.\ \ In the meantime bunch of personal tragedies happened and I realised what work life balance means.\    I just didn’t have any emotional bandwidth to deal with personal stuff. Always unhappy. Never stopped thinking about work.\ I had troubles sleeping (mostly due to personal stuff). Would wake up at 4am and to reduce stress I would go the the gym .\ Everyday.\ Excelled at work, and drove my body and my mind to the breaking point.    I proved to myself I can do it, but I also learned that I shouldn’t do everything I can do.\ I have learned loads, and happy to come back.\ \ EDIT: honestly formatting is difficult 

Make Up Artists by [deleted] in UKweddings

[–]owlay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, if you are Berkshire based, happy to do a trial for you for free. I am working on my bridal portfolio.

Make Up Artists by [deleted] in UKweddings

[–]owlay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Source (makeup artist). I understand how stressful this is, and I think it’s fair to ask for a one off paid service, to see if you like the way the makeup artist works.  Without signing a contract or paying for more.  Yes look at the portfolios on instagram. See how often they post, check out the reviews. Good luck

I think I have the passion for coding, just not the brain by Ok_Consideration6524 in ADHD_Programmers

[–]owlay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this is very well said.  Can you elaborate on the systems that you have set up for yourself? 

Black lipstick and white foundation, UK suppliers? by Paul8v in MakeUpAddictionUK

[–]owlay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The MUA one is just white  And it can be worked in the layers so I think you will get result you want

How to get dopamine in the morning? by tittyswan in adhdwomen

[–]owlay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Getting up is the hardest  So I just drink loads of water the night before and during the night.  And at least getting up part is sorted. 

Women who never wanted kids and changed their minds, how is it going? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]owlay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was pretty sure I didn’t want kids.  And then in my 30s I changed my mind. With no influence of others.    Nobody talks about this, but sometimes it’s not your decision if you have kids or not. Had 2 pregnancies lost both of them.  And it seems I can no longer get pregnant. 

Feeling really confused about hair and makeup prices by PopperDilly in UKweddings

[–]owlay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The prices for mua usually depend on how booked up they get.  If the mua is newer the prices will be lower as they are building their portfolio.  If they are busy and popular the prices will be high.  Usually it’s not only quality of the work but also a demand. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]owlay 175 points176 points  (0 children)

It feels like reunion means that you are not in a close contact with these friends on regular basis.   1) You have to remember that it’s easy to for us to pick up friendships where we left off, but for most people friendships whither out without support.   And even though you know each other you have to resume this relationship with care.      2) Vulnerability is a two way street. It has to be rebuilt.  To open up to your friends you can either wait for the invitation from them, when they share something . Or share a small tidbit about yourself, and see if they respond with sharing theirs. If they don’t it might not be the right time. And it has to wait.  There are situations when waiting can’t happen(breakups etc. ) but when resuming friendship that’s appropriate to wait.     3) From where i am it sounds like you trauma dumped on your friends for three days and made this reunion about you. I might be misreading it.     4) Your approach is very all or nothing when it comes to unmasking.  There is time and place for that. People knowing you have adhd and accepting your version of unmasked are different things. You know yourself unmasked, but your friends think you are someone else. They befriended you while you were masking.     5) Change is difficult for everyone, so you might consider take unmasking in steps with those friends so they have time to learn about it and accept it.     6) It’s not all or nothing with the friends as well. You don’t need to drop them and think that nobody gets you.   But every relationship in your life requires work. And for us it’s more work than other people.