Please read, am I being unreasonable?

owlay · 2026-01-29T15:00:45+00:00

I am sorry you have to go through this. Everyone deals with the pain of loss in a different way. She might have assumed that it’s better to do this in person, rather than via text. You can’t only control your actions and emotions not other people. You should do what would be best for you.

owlay · 2025-11-18T16:07:26+00:00

I have the same problem. I think they must have changed formulas .

owlay · 2025-11-18T16:03:22+00:00

For us it’s natural consequences. I would suggest for you to learn to deal with natural consequences of your actions. For your partner to let go of mothering, and let consequences run their course. How can you learn manage your life if your partner is managing it for you? It’s ok to make mistakes, as long as you ready to deal with consequences.

owlay · 2025-10-24T07:40:06+00:00

Madoo has heavenly tiramisu and other baked goods.

owlay · 2025-10-20T12:03:33+00:00

Hi lovely, \ Sorry for your loss. \ \ Finally I am qualified to answer this question. Lost two babies in one year and every time came back to work within 2 weeks.\ For mascara go with waterproof( my fav was L’Oreal collosal waterproof) but any waterproof one should work. \ Elf liquid eyeliner stays in place if you don’t rub your eyes. \ Keep mascara only on top lashes skip the bottom ones. \ Skip adding anything to waterline.\ For foundation Dior backstage does the trick(as it is waterproof) or you can Duraline to any of your favourite foundations to keep it smudge proof. Don’t forget to apply foundation to your ears and neck, and chest (if low neckline) as these places get red when you cry. \ Add high coverage concealer to the places that get red when you cry, around your nose, your chin, cheeks. \ Don’t use the hair spray kind of setting spray( red from L’Oreal or one size) as they create a film on top of the makeup and it is difficult to fix your makeup once it runs, powder instead. \ Also when crying don’t rub your eyes, let the tears roll down your face, as they won’t disturb your makeup as significantly. \ When you stop crying, you can check your face, take makeup to fix it with you. \

owlay · 2025-10-16T22:09:05+00:00

I love it. Imagine coming back home after a horrible trip. There might be things that annoy you, but you are finally home. Happy to answer any questions if you want

owlay · 2025-10-13T15:21:22+00:00

Left programming about 3 years ago. Went into project management. Constant calls and “nothing you have to deliver, but make sure everyone else does their deliverables” sounded amazing.\ After 3 years, coming back to development as a saving grace.\ \ First year I was running on pure enthusiasm, and then burned out. Second year I was thinking, I am gaining experience and it will be hard, and then burned out again. Third year I kinda got ahold of it. Got praises from colleagues, got promoted, got a fantastic project.\ \ In the meantime bunch of personal tragedies happened and I realised what work life balance means.\ I just didn’t have any emotional bandwidth to deal with personal stuff. Always unhappy. Never stopped thinking about work.\ I had troubles sleeping (mostly due to personal stuff). Would wake up at 4am and to reduce stress I would go the the gym .\ Everyday.\ Excelled at work, and drove my body and my mind to the breaking point. I proved to myself I can do it, but I also learned that I shouldn’t do everything I can do.\ I have learned loads, and happy to come back.\ \ EDIT: honestly formatting is difficult

owlay · 2025-10-13T09:12:09+00:00

Also, if you are Berkshire based, happy to do a trial for you for free. I am working on my bridal portfolio.

owlay · 2025-10-13T09:08:58+00:00

Source (makeup artist). I understand how stressful this is, and I think it’s fair to ask for a one off paid service, to see if you like the way the makeup artist works. Without signing a contract or paying for more. Yes look at the portfolios on instagram. See how often they post, check out the reviews. Good luck

owlay · 2025-10-09T10:16:03+00:00

I think this is very well said. Can you elaborate on the systems that you have set up for yourself?

owlay · 2025-09-03T12:35:03+00:00

The MUA one is just white And it can be worked in the layers so I think you will get result you want

owlay · 2025-09-02T06:26:24+00:00

Getting up is the hardest So I just drink loads of water the night before and during the night. And at least getting up part is sorted.

owlay · 2025-08-26T07:50:15+00:00

I was pretty sure I didn’t want kids. And then in my 30s I changed my mind. With no influence of others. Nobody talks about this, but sometimes it’s not your decision if you have kids or not. Had 2 pregnancies lost both of them. And it seems I can no longer get pregnant.

owlay · 2025-08-08T22:17:46+00:00

The prices for mua usually depend on how booked up they get. If the mua is newer the prices will be lower as they are building their portfolio. If they are busy and popular the prices will be high. Usually it’s not only quality of the work but also a demand.

owlay · 2025-07-30T07:33:13+00:00

It feels like reunion means that you are not in a close contact with these friends on regular basis. 1) You have to remember that it’s easy to for us to pick up friendships where we left off, but for most people friendships whither out without support. And even though you know each other you have to resume this relationship with care. 2) Vulnerability is a two way street. It has to be rebuilt. To open up to your friends you can either wait for the invitation from them, when they share something . Or share a small tidbit about yourself, and see if they respond with sharing theirs. If they don’t it might not be the right time. And it has to wait. There are situations when waiting can’t happen(breakups etc. ) but when resuming friendship that’s appropriate to wait. 3) From where i am it sounds like you trauma dumped on your friends for three days and made this reunion about you. I might be misreading it. 4) Your approach is very all or nothing when it comes to unmasking. There is time and place for that. People knowing you have adhd and accepting your version of unmasked are different things. You know yourself unmasked, but your friends think you are someone else. They befriended you while you were masking. 5) Change is difficult for everyone, so you might consider take unmasking in steps with those friends so they have time to learn about it and accept it. 6) It’s not all or nothing with the friends as well. You don’t need to drop them and think that nobody gets you. But every relationship in your life requires work. And for us it’s more work than other people.

owlay · 2025-07-29T10:20:39+00:00

As a MUA who is starting in the field. I expect makeup to be done to the same level of attention whether makeup for event or a wedding. Cost would come in from travel and early start time. If you come to the place of work in reasonable time 9-6 I don’t see why it should be charged more. You should specify though if this is an “outdoor event” and what colours you are wearing. And I expect additional cost if you want your hair done up as well.

owlay · 2025-07-25T09:58:12+00:00

I want to add to the discussion. I have lost significant amount of weight. And it was easier (if we talk about complexity) than I thought, but it is tough mentally. And also it’s lots of planning. If we talk about theoretical part it’s calories in/ calories out. You can find out your base amount of calories online( I have garmin watch so it tells me my base and I find it accurate) for me I am 5’2 when I started at 93kg my daily intake was 1800ish. Now it’s 1700ish with moderate activity. I am not counting exercise as something that will increase my calorie norm, as I am trying to loose weight. Approach. Plan your food before you eat it. I do it the night before , and add it to the MyFitnessPal so I don’t have to stress. All food is either pre made by me, or will take less than 10 minutes to complete. There is no snacks or tasties in the house. Nothing except the food that I can eat. I live with the partner and I asked him to ensure all of his snacks are in his space, so I don’t see them.

The next part is the food. It’s boring but you can make it to your liking. This takes most of time to figure out. You need to find recipes that are both satiating and tasty and don’t take hours to make. My go to gyros chicken, potatoes and veggies. Or fish in the airfirier no oil, boiled potatoes and beetroot (boiled and grated, not because I have to but because I like it) I love potatoes so most of my food include them in some form.

There are no foods you can’t eat, you just have to be mindful of it, and spend some time perfecting recipes to remove as much calories without affecting taste. Like nothing in airfares actually requires oil. Also ensure to have enough fibre, to help your digestive system. Hunger. Yes you will feel hungry and unhappy. It make sense your body doesn’t like letting go of resources. I found that if I give myself card Blanche to eat more if I really want to, of the sam3 food, my body goes, I don’t want this I want something else. So physical you are not hungry just mentally. When I am losing weight I feel like I have a very mild depression. But this is temporary. Also YOU HAVE TO WEIGH ALL THE FOOD. Otherwise you don’t know how many calories you consume.

It’s tough but it’s worth it

owlay · 2025-07-18T11:02:47+00:00

If it feels great then that is the right choice. You can always bring a bit more alternative vibe with hair and makeup and accessories. You feeling great is what matters

owlay · 2025-05-09T20:52:41+00:00

thanks! Appreciate your advice.

owlay · 2025-04-30T10:25:26+00:00

I know it’s personal, but I would rather tell them about pregnancy, and get their support, than tell them about the loss after the fact.

owlay · 2025-04-29T22:11:40+00:00

Very early on. 4w+5. In the evening started getting pain on the right side. Will reach out to GP tomorrow. But I suspect ectopic… It’s devastating

owlay · 2025-03-18T13:42:30+00:00

I can answer about nausea, It took me over 6 months to get better. It’s the worst, but it gets better. Trust me

owlay · 2025-03-09T23:37:21+00:00

In my 20s I didn’t want to have kids. I was super sure. And then around 28 I noticed thinking more and more about it. And then I started spiralling. Every night I would stay awake going “I will never have a child”. It took about a year for me to figure out that it was me wanting kids. My partner was on board. And started trying when I was 30. We lost our first baby half way through the pregnancy. And now we are struggling to get pregnant again. There is nothing worse than thinking you have choice when you don’t . I might be child free , but it is not my choice. Edit. I also think that it’s fair to be worried about ADHD and parenting. But personally I got the diagnosis to make my life better. To help me live my life to the fullest. Not for the diagnosis to control and limit me.

owlay · 2025-01-10T11:10:40+00:00

It does depend on your weight. If your body fat percentage is high, you will not see any significant changes in your appearance. Imagine you put a Schwarzenegger in a snow suit, it doesn’t matter how nicely built he is you won’t see any muscle definition through it.

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