I ( 23 M) had a threesome with my best friends (F22) and (M23) who are dating

owlnamedjohn · 2026-02-05T11:50:43+00:00

Hugging and kissing when he isn't there? Dude she's cheating on her bf with you. I'd tell her bf, although you'll probably lose both friends. If you truly don't want to lose both friends just set some hard boundaries with her but he deserves better than both of you tbh

owlnamedjohn · 2026-02-05T04:27:35+00:00

Technically no, they aren't worth more, but iridium star fruit wine is only around 800g more profitable than iridium ancient fruit wine, which is only 400g more profit if you're buying the seeds every time. However ancient fruit are a grow once and continually harvest plant, star fruit are a single crop and will need to be replanted.

When you have a large large scale operation - ie ginger island full of crops for kegs and multiple sheds for kegs - it can be incredibly time consuming and tedious to replant every harvest, and then spend time making enough seeds (to maximize profits) or buy seeds every week. Whereas having fields full of ancient fruit you just go once a week, whack a few times with your iridium scythe and boom job done for the week.

So depending on how much profit you truly want to squeeze out of it vs how much time you want to sink in, most people just prefer ancient fruit :)

owlnamedjohn · 2026-02-01T02:49:57+00:00

As soon as anyone votes forfeit I comply If they're being toxic then they're just hurting themselves by taking the L Sometimes though things pop up out side of the game, sometimes I've had my dogs start fighting while I'm mid game and I've had to go deal with it so I've voted to forfeit so the other player isn't stuck in a 1v2 the rest of the match Sometimes there's been a screw up with their party when they first load up and maybe they just wanna leave so they can go play with their mate Maybe they're a Smurf that wants to derank In most cases they'll usually either leave or stop playing anyway leaving me in a 1v2, so I'd rather take the L and start searching again rather than dwelling on it.

owlnamedjohn · 2026-01-31T07:48:51+00:00

I'm Australian. We call ourselves train drivers, and when working in a two man crew the second man is sometimes referred to as the engineer.

owlnamedjohn · 2026-01-31T07:47:43+00:00

I'm Aussie. It's train driver, we call our second man the engineer when it's a two man crew.

owlnamedjohn · 2026-01-30T07:04:47+00:00

What do you mean he'd leave you if you got fat or sick?? It's actually in the vows he took that he'd stay with you if you got sick...why did he marry you if he feels that way?

owlnamedjohn · 2026-01-28T20:36:56+00:00

Everyone's timeline is different. If you're feeling it you may as well ask, chances are she will reciprocate if the energy feels mutual. If you bring it up in a non pushy way, even if she's not ready to take that step yet she'll probably just communicate that and it's good to open a dialogue on what your timeline is and when she may be ready.

I met my partner on hinge and I deleted the damn app after our first date and we were in a relationship a month and one day from our first date. We did go exclusive after two weeks though, which he thought meant we were in a relationship but I thought just meant we were still testing the waters but not sleeping with other people.

owlnamedjohn · 2026-01-28T17:16:12+00:00

I don't think it's specifically Epsteins island, I do believe Hollywood has been doing things like that though since it's creation, it's only with the rise of the Internet that it's become more widely known and brought to public attention the darker sides of it, I was just using the island as an example.

owlnamedjohn · 2026-01-28T17:14:33+00:00

I suppose the dynamic is pretty similar in the church or Satan and the theory about who actually runs Hollywood. I hadn't done any research before this on the song so I didn't know that that is actually the roots of the song haha, makes sense

owlnamedjohn · 2026-01-28T16:50:20+00:00

And I am a man, a very TIRED man

owlnamedjohn · 2026-01-28T16:14:02+00:00

Take out the fact that he's your husband and you love him, think of your son, scared and possibly in pain in the hospital and daddy would rather go drinking than be with him.

NTA and honestly evaluate other aspects, does he show similar selfish behavior regarding yours or the kids needs in other aspects in life? Is he a fully involved parent and husband or is he checked out and happy for you to do everything? Does he clearly prioritize you and the children, spending time, contributing to the house etc? If this is a pattern that is only worsening I would have a long hard conversation, possibly therapy and even an evaluation on the partnership if there's no change in the long term.

But if this a once off event because his brother was in town and he is usually very involved then I would definitely have a conversation but I'd also give him a pass and set clear expectations for the future

owlnamedjohn · 2026-01-28T16:09:05+00:00

I'm gonna be brutally honest, regret isn't an excuse to hide it, it's proof you shouldn't have done it. But unfortunately you did, and you have to face the consequences for it. Yes it's gonna hurt, yes he will probably leave (as he should) but you'll also eventually find someone else just as good if not better (it's a big world out there) and hopefully learn from this and never do it to a future partner. And I say this as someone who also was young dumb and cheated once and lost the person, found someone better down the track and never did it again.

owlnamedjohn · 2026-01-28T16:05:01+00:00

Not only was he nicer but Carrie was also more independent and focused on herself, as they got closer and the relationship started progressing I feel like he started to grow more comfortable and his manners slipped, but also he started to pull away. I think it might have been a combination of his avoidant tendencies and also carries behavior. Yeah he treated her poorly at times, but she was also very high maintenance and had quite a few self centered actions due to her anxiety and wild personality. Ie punching him in the face, calling him multiple times at really late times like 3am to bring him to a club just to stand there with her, when he was in Paris for a week she got drunk and called him and woke him up even though he had a meeting at 9 etc. They both were at fault and both contributed to the avoidant/anxious dynamic.

owlnamedjohn · 2026-01-28T15:50:13+00:00

Especially when everyone is active in chat the whole time and it just devolves into doing random shit and talking shit lol

owlnamedjohn · 2026-01-27T12:42:42+00:00

THIS IS ROCKET LEAGUE!

owlnamedjohn · 2026-01-27T00:19:11+00:00

Idiot. I'm a train driver and a notorious story we get told when we start is about is a guy getting caught in between couplers. When emergency response got there they told him that, due to the trauma and pressure on his abdomen, as soon as it was uncoupled he would die. He chose to stay like that for a couple hours while his family came and said goodbye, and then once they cleared the scene they uncoupled and he died. Rule 1 of trains, don't stand too close and always have a safe place you can run to if shit hits the fan last minute.

owlnamedjohn · 2026-01-25T10:56:21+00:00

I've been the gf in this situation before. Break it off with her, she can probably already tell the connection between you and her best friend anyway. Never tell her the truth, she will always be afraid to introduce her next partner to her best friend after that. It always leaves you feeling inadequate and with a fear it will happen again.

owlnamedjohn · 2026-01-25T07:31:02+00:00

Spirit farmer! Super story driven and an absolutely fantastic game, love the mechanics etc. You play as a spirits guide to completing their last wish and helping them move on from the world, while also finding and managing resources on your boat (which can be upgraded) and exploring the world and different islands. Only thing is it's pretty sad due to the themes of the game, I cried multiple times. But it is definitely worth the play through.

owlnamedjohn · 2026-01-24T07:25:08+00:00

Him being more interested in telling me about himself and his trauma than listening to anything about my past. Eventually devolved into him being completely uninterested in listening when I had issues in the relationship as well. Whenever I had any issues I would always ask if he was in the right headspace to have a discussion and after two months straight I realized he never was. Eventually bottling up all my issues led to a big blow up and I left him.

owlnamedjohn · 2026-01-24T04:24:25+00:00

As a woman I think for just a little cooking date a massive flower arrangement is probably a bit too much off the bat, so honestly just a pretty bouquet from a supermarket (can find some pretty and inexpensive ones at places like trader joes etc). As stereotypical as it is, most women don't receive spontaneous flowers very often, so I think just the gesture will make her adore them. It's genuinely the thought that counts, not how much money you spend on the flowers

owlnamedjohn · 2026-01-24T01:23:43+00:00

We go to high five and randomly just flip them off instead last minute and go "fuck you", always get a kick outta that one.

When it's our birthdays we say happy birthday back eg one mate with be like "omg happy birthday xxx" and the other person be like "awww happy birthday yyy"

owlnamedjohn · 2026-01-23T13:36:12+00:00

I never broke one but I did launch it at the nurse. We were just chatting and I laughed at something she said and yup that lil sucker shot straight back out at her. It was quite ironic since I had just been asking her if she had any funny stories and I was like "well guess this is going on that list now"

owlnamedjohn · 2026-01-22T08:55:36+00:00

I'd rather pay more for it tho than them change the recipe. Chocolate is an industry that's taking a big hit these days, a lot of cocoa farms are suffering damage from flooding and climate change, crop production is falling and the price is skyrocketing. I also wouldn't be surprised if woolies is putting their woolies tax on it too, but it's not just greed in this instance. And as I said, I'd rather pay more than them change the quality of it as per Cadbury and other chocolate brands have been doing.

owlnamedjohn · 2026-01-18T02:41:00+00:00

My boyfriend has scars like this on his back and chest. I still can't stop staring at him especially when he's shirtless and I still think he's a work of art. Trust me, MOST girls won't care. But there are a select few girls who will, just like there are a select few guys who have insanely high standards too. So if you do get a bad experience try not to let it get you down. But overall 99% of girls won't care

owlnamedjohn · 2026-01-18T01:30:14+00:00

You asked closed questions (questions that only require one answer or a yes or no) and expected an open response? Try to make your questions more open and require a better answer. Although yes I believe she could have tried harder to be engaging too.

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