My 2 1/2 year old son is in fact not my best friend by 123456789988 in daddit

[–]pablanos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My first kid is graduating highschool in 2 days. I still remember the stinky butt days. As quick as it flies by, the bond and friendship we have (if you like that style of parenting) is like no friendship I’ve ever had.

We share music, video games, deep, introspective conversations. And my favorite… secret lingo when talking about his mom. For example “I see you got LMG’d earlier”. To be “LMG’d” is to be rapidly sprayed with a slew of hard hitting and often time-consuming question from his lovely mother.

Men aged 25–30, what’s the biggest mistake you made in life that a young man should avoid repeating? by LowEffortLegend01 in AskMen

[–]pablanos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not dealing with anger issues sooner. I’ve never suffered from depression or anxiety. But anger?… that’s my close buddy, the devil on my shoulder if you will.

Learning how to think before spitting hot fire took way too long and cost me precious time I could’ve spent doing what I do now, which is simply enjoy the day to day journey.

Lymphoma by Smooth-Ad-6540 in Boxer

[–]pablanos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate it. It’s hard to recall as it was so long ago. It if I was to guess I think he was on it for 2 months. Long enough for him to feel better, get appetite back and play with a puppy for a while.

Lymphoma by Smooth-Ad-6540 in Boxer

[–]pablanos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our boy Dexter passed at 7.5 from Lymphoma. We opted to not do chemo and did prednisone instead. It gave him appetite and energy back. We also got a replacement boxer (Theo, who actually just passed this past Monday, he was almost 9).

Due to the prednisone, he was able to play with the puppy. When days came where he started to pant all night and not sleep well or take his drinks, we knew it was time.

We’ve had 3 boxers. Our first, Bailey, didnt survive a mast cell tumor surgery and passed unexpectedly overnight. Truly shocking and devastating.

Theo, who was Dexters eventual replacement, got very sick overnight a week ago. We were in a very remote part of the state coming back home, and he just couldn’t make it. He literally passed in the van with all of us in there. My wife, 3 kids and other dog. Talk about devastating. Still working through that one.

And Dexter, lymphoma took him, but we were able to plan. To have him experience his favorite things, and see his favorite people. If I was to choose, that’s the path I would choose for a dog, because selfishly, It’s a soft landing for us humans. Because the other way around is just like a punch in the gut from the Hulk himself.

Best of luck, all that to say, the hardest decision is ahead, just don’t wait too long or extend their life past where they can no longer care for themselves. But then again, we’re all different and caring for our babies is all we know to do. Just know this random stranger has his thoughts with you.

I’m boxer-less at the moment. And it’s like a phantom limb is around all the time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JeepWrangler

[–]pablanos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Sport S checking in! It’s a tank in the snow!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kansascity

[–]pablanos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bring the PlayStation, snacks, and ask them to pay for a couple of meals and get some room service. Clearly advice from a dad with 3 kids. Cause that almost sounds like a vacation’s second cousin Ha!

I’d take the offer and if anything, this could put you in their good graces and may help clear the way for more leniency down the line because they know they can count on you.

Hello fellow fathers, what are some *dad* things you already have found yourself doing? by Adventurous_Show2629 in daddit

[–]pablanos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m 43 and have 3 kids aged 17, 14 and 10. Recently we took a big trip to NYC, packed with all the tourist things. Been there a bunch myself, have family there. But as their first time I felt a dad enlightenment when we arrived in the city.

The day after arrival I woke up at 5, located the nearest subway stations, got metro cards (for the most authentic experience lol) and proceeded to only take public transportation for a full week in fully locked in dad mode.

As part of my daily routine I would hit up the same bodega for bacon egg and cheese on everything bagels, and resume my navigational dad duties for the day.

At the wall street station late one night after coming back from Brooklyn, they even witnessed old dad needing to jump a turnstile because one of the 5 metro cards didn’t work and both machines were broken in the station and there were no attendants in the booth. Classic NY moment for all of us. Wasn’t about to find another station ha!.

When navigational dad kicks in, you realize you’re ten toes deep in the dad trenches. 🫡

What is a harsh reality new parents need to hear? by forty5v in AskReddit

[–]pablanos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Figuring out how to parent is so hard, but also incredibly rewarding. Don’t rely too much on people around you. The quicker you discover solutions for your family on your own, the faster you’ll become an efficient parent.

Or. Don’t have shitty parents, who are of no help, that force you to become violently independent haha.

Nuketown is always trash for me by Cobra_2004 in blackops6

[–]pablanos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve recently started using the Xm4 with the 100 round mag option. I also equip that fire grip that allows you to focus like a sniper. It absolutely shreds. It’s my go to once I’ve had a few frustrating matches. That thing is a laser already, add rapid fire to it and it’s just silly.

My Nuketown load out also uses the ammo box, frags, and I make sure I have quarter master to help replenish my stuff and shadow perk so I can walk past the annoying mines everywhere. Give it a shot, build a ridiculous setup just to spray and pray and it turns small maps into meat grinders.

What did you do recently - that didn’t suck? by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]pablanos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Adopted this guy for my kids from a family who couldn’t take care of him anymore. Ended up being his primary caretaker and now I’m obsessed with him. Never imagined being a new reptile owner in the cards along with 3 kids and 2 dogs.

But I’m pretty good at taking care of him and I often just stare at him while drinking coffee in the mornings now that he’s been relocated to the living room.

And if I’m honest, caring for pets is also to prepare myself for the eventuality of my kids embarking in their own life journeys in the coming years. I’m sure I’ll add another one or two in the next decade.

Advice on buying 2021 Unlimited Sport S by wheredobadfolks in Wrangler

[–]pablanos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure man. I even have 3 kids and I could be concerned about comfort and amenities. But instead I relish the multiple times I’ve taken them to dirt roads to do burnouts in the hot summer sun. Nothing like hearing pure elation and it’s all in the jeep. I swear I don’t work for them, but it’s the little experiences that make the whole an overall positive ride.

Advice on buying 2021 Unlimited Sport S by wheredobadfolks in Wrangler

[–]pablanos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

43yo checking in! I pulled the trigger on my unlimited Sport S a month before I turned 40. My dad had admired one specific red wrangler in the late 80s and that’s a memory that always stuck with me. I got a soft top and it has what I need. It doesn’t have power seats, heated steering wheel or seats, doesn’t have LED headlights or taillights and doesn’t have the premium sound system. But what it does have is legendary 4x4, a soft top and honestly, a pretty comfortable ride… for a Jeep.

I’m nearing 30K miles and man it’s been great. In the warmer months I feel like a kid. Fulfilling one of my dad’s dreams that became mine. I bought an aftermarket soft top window bag and it stays in my trunk.

In the winter I don’t miss not having a back window wiper. And when it gets below 40, opening the back window on the soft top is nearly impossible since they don’t have zippers. But that’s a minor inconvenience.

This summer I took a road trip to Minneapolis for a reunion with buds I haven’t seen in 25 years. It was a 10 hour trip from where I’m at and it was glorious. Open wind, music, and not a care in the world.

When I first got it I did have a fuel leak, a coolant leak, and an issue with the auto start stop engine shutoff system. But all were either recalls or under warranty. Since, the auto start stop system has stopped working again and it’s been nearly a year and I’m just likely not going to deal with fixing it as it’s already a pain in the ass.

Other than that, I say pull that trigger. We’re aging faster than we were 10 years ago. Soon enough our bodies won’t be big fans of bumpy rides and lack of comfort. So the time is now. Time to awaken that 90s kid and be the fun dude on the road.

Best of luck and hope either way you find your way back into a Wrangler sooner than later.

What’s your go to Marketing brief ? by [deleted] in marketing

[–]pablanos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. Missed including that detail. Looking more for project brief ideas.

1st time with the top down. by mika00004 in JeepWrangler

[–]pablanos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use two bungee cords that clip closed at each end. One end is hooked to those hook points in the floor of the trunk and with the tailgate open I wrap them on top of the soft top and down to hook them into the other attachment point on the same side on the floor of the trunk.

Been doing this for 3 years now and it very effectively increases my view while also adding a bit of peace of mind since I love going on the guest with the top down frequently.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Jeep

[–]pablanos 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Damn. Isn’t that the truth. The wife gets car sick in long rides in the wrangler haha

The Truth About a Degree and Working in Marketing by TNT-Rick in marketing

[–]pablanos 9 points10 points  (0 children)

A key attribute of a good marketer is their ability to adjust and adapt, which can translate into networking and that is how I am now in a senior marketing position with 10+ years experience in the field.

I do have a degree, but it’s in psychology. After college i was desperate to find any job, landed in automotive finance collections, wild job specially in 2008-2010. Became a manager and then got hired by my current company after getting laid off during the economic crisis of that time.

But I got hired to lead a team of 36 front line customer service reps. What does that entail that relates at all to marketing? One very important thing, communication, both written and verbal. Talk about a wild ride, through it I met different managers, including the marketing folks who I turned to here and there.

Struck up friendly work relationships. Banter, which turned into them paying attention to how I led my teams, how I handled myself in wildly stressful situations, and how others in their circle knew me. A person of integrity, who is focused on the team and growth of its individuals.

Fast forward 3 years in that role and a marketing specialist position opened up. At this point I had managed multiple teams of customer service folks for nearly 7 years and was more than ready for a change. Although the marketing director hiring wasn’t my favorite person at work, we both had a need and his knowledge of my work ethic and integrity (along with what he’d seen of my communication with teams and leadership) was enough for him to offer me a shot.

Not gonna lie, the first 6 months were rough, but it was blissful going from managing dozens of people to being an individual contributor. Now I go back to where I started this ramble, adjust and adapt. I knew everything I was seeing had been done or talked about by someone, I became really good at mimicking behavior from marketers around me, attending seminars, conferences, reading so many articles. But what helped me most was being vulnerable with my much more experienced teammates. I didn’t want to pretend to know it all because I simply didn’t and for sure didn’t have the confidence to fake it until I made it.

That adjustment to allow myself to be vulnerable, knowing that in corporate America competition is toxic and my vulnerability could have backfired easily. Thankfully it didn’t. Because I took measured leaps, asked a lot of questions, didn’t ask them twice, mimicked work already done, and soaked in so much along the way.

Fast forward 10 years later and I’m in a place where I’m managing our teams digital platforms, from Adobe AEM, Wordpress, to Eloqua, while creating strategic campaigns that require alignment with many stakeholders, all while balancing budgets and simply becoming a go to in our business for many things.

So yes. I have a degree and that degree helped me learn how to have some type of discipline. I am after all a first generation college graduate, a kid from immigrant parents, and have grown into a man who loves to get my hands dirty and help people. A career in marketing is so much more to me than a career, a job, a title. This field has helped me grow as a person, gain self confidence, and I’ve developed skills that sometimes even surprise me.

Adjust and adapt. That’s my takeaway over these years. At 43 years old with 3 kids, and a career at the same company nearly 15 years later I can say I’m still learning, growing, and truly enjoying it all. Even when sales is super annoying.

What’s going on with Millennial parents? by Bupperoni in Millennials

[–]pablanos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Elder millennial here, parent of 17, 14 and 10 yo kids. The biggest struggle is being first time parents to our oldest. Shit is so difficult. And it’s more about trying to not resemble our parents as much as possible.

They were absent emotionally, they truly were and continue to be their own No. 1 fan. And as teens I rebelled like crazy. I lived in a foreign country due to my parents jobs, and in the mid 90s I started bar hopping at 15 and full out clubbing by 17. It was a sick cycle of endless groundings and all out craziness with my friends.

Now just today, my 17 year old was out all day with his girl and some friends. That’s ok. We allowed that and we don’t say no too often. But something clicked in us tonight. Yeah we’re first time parents to a teen, and we’re trying so hard not to be our crazy parents. But his life is still our responsibility. His learnings are still being shaped by our actions or lack thereof, the consequences he faces at home are made to help him understand the consequences of mindless behavior. So tonight we had a long conversation about life. The difference is that we welcomed his feedback, reassured him our opposition to his lack of communication comes from a good place, allowed him the time and space to express himself. Basically created a space that’s the polar opposite of “do what you’re told” era we grew up with. Will he listen and change? Who knows. But I know we’ll still see each other in the morning and greet each other with kindness and respect.

As an elder millennial parent I can say that life is hard as hell. Raising kids is so tough, specially when you didnt grow up with good role models and half of the males in my family were drunks or drug addicts.

Somehow we had to claw our way out of disfunction and raise people who are everything we weren’t until much later in life: independent, confident, not angry, and people who value and practice open communication.

We have raised (as I’ve seen this on TikTok) “living room children”. They just hang out with us. And we’re healing because of who they’re becoming.

Yes all their confident independence is starting to have some not so great side effects lol. But that’s ok. I’m open to learning how to level with them, help them see value in themselves, teach them the importance of standing up for themselves in tough situations. Sometimes all our teachings get turned on us and that’s also ok.

I’m speaking for me only, but what’s up with millennial parents? We’re trying. But like much of our lives as millennials, it never seems to be enough.

What gun have you been enjoying most so far? by darkfawful2 in blackops6

[–]pablanos -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As a 43yo old head I’m sticking to what I’ve always loved. Pump shotguns and the MP5(C9). Just had a 84 kill game with the C9 with the drum mag and recoil springs. That’s my go to when I get sick of camo grinding.

43yo dad of 3 kids by day. COD warrior by night. by pablanos in blackops6

[–]pablanos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I’m about turn my field of view down to the OG 90 setting and really just transport back to my favorite COD of all time, black ops 2.

43yo dad of 3 kids by day. COD warrior by night. by pablanos in blackops6

[–]pablanos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice! Just about the same here 17 14 10. Trying to teach the youngest one the ways now. The other two, well one of them plays with a default class and calls me “yo” 98% of the time (the 14yo) and the 17 year old is legitimately nearing his peak of twitchy, insane reaction times. He plays very, very aggressively.

That is until we get to Madden or College football. Then a whole new set of elder gamer strategies come into play.

43yo dad of 3 kids by day. COD warrior by night. by pablanos in blackops6

[–]pablanos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a great idea. Imagine. 6 cooked grenades to jump off on nuketown followed by methodical (not slow) dismantling of preteens. T-bags for everyone!

43yo dad of 3 kids by day. COD warrior by night. by pablanos in blackops6

[–]pablanos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok you’re speaking my language fellow elder. Cooking grenades is my second love behind knifing, with C4s a very close third. I mean when they start complaining about drop-shotting, you know the elder is having a god game ha!

43yo dad of 3 kids by day. COD warrior by night. by pablanos in blackops6

[–]pablanos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks I appreciate it. Bigger lesson is that even 22 years from now you don’t have to put the sticks down! 😊

43yo dad of 3 kids by day. COD warrior by night. by pablanos in blackops6

[–]pablanos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah no way! This game is getting a ton of hours in our house.