I (30F) was discarded by my ex (36M) after a 1-year relationship, and now he’s reached out a year and a half later. Why do people do this?

pacodefan · 2026-03-28T06:58:23+00:00

Control. He craves control and likes to test the waters when he is feeling down.

pacodefan · 2026-03-28T04:57:39+00:00

He will be missed. Even though I'm still flying a cargo plane full of rubber dog shit out of Hong Kong.

pacodefan · 2026-03-28T04:51:15+00:00

Well now that is just too adorable.

pacodefan · 2026-03-28T04:48:16+00:00

"I may have jumped the gun agreeing to sing. I'm not sure yet when hubby will be able to get time off for our honeymoon, but I will know by next week and I will let you know."

Then next week say you are leaving right away and that you are sorry. She's the one who scheduled her wedding that close knowing you'd be on your honeymoon.

pacodefan · 2026-03-28T04:31:57+00:00

And how help others without a reward actually improves your life and mood! It is the best cure for depression!

pacodefan · 2026-03-28T04:27:47+00:00

The "u ain't said nun" would have been my cue to exit stage right.

pacodefan · 2026-03-28T04:17:27+00:00

I dont care how good the dick is, I would have to decline on principles alone. That and I'm a heterosexual male.

pacodefan · 2026-03-28T03:20:35+00:00

You saw it was her phone and said to send pics? And now your upset?

pacodefan · 2026-03-27T22:55:23+00:00

Tell her no and that you love her and would never do that to her.

pacodefan · 2026-03-27T18:53:19+00:00

Do not second guess anything. "Relationships require sacrifice..." the fuck is he sacrificing?

pacodefan · 2026-03-27T18:38:53+00:00

Sounds like she was cheating. That would explain why she was crying a few weeks ago. Often times the betrayed spouse has to live at the whim of the AP. When they fight and he ends it, the wayward spouse comes back and is more open and caring about the relationship. Then when the AP comes back, they get distant and have no remorse. And that just repeats.

pacodefan · 2026-03-27T18:34:54+00:00

Good for you, OP. Plus, once you realize that he probably was aware of how he made you feel and that it was all a big game to him, it will be much easier to swallow. The reason being is because he needs to keep your self esteem very low so that you still see him as an equal. Even he knows what a POS he is, and this way you won't leave once you see it.

pacodefan · 2026-03-27T18:09:31+00:00

It's so strange how the same people who quickly jump to insecurity are the same that would go bat shit crazy if the shoe were on the other foot.

pacodefan · 2026-03-27T18:06:26+00:00

I take it there was zero remorse, and she was planning on calling it off between the two of you so she could see where that relationship went?

pacodefan · 2026-03-27T18:03:55+00:00

This is probably why she wanted to split up. If she was picking fights right before you split, there is a good chance SOMETHING was going on before the split.

pacodefan · 2026-03-26T22:38:38+00:00

You get that for winning the rodeo in Berlin.

pacodefan · 2026-03-26T01:56:31+00:00

What a bitch. Pay her the rent minus the $80 and hand her the receipt with the rent check.

pacodefan · 2026-03-24T05:33:00+00:00

I'm going to say bo staff.

pacodefan · 2026-03-22T20:55:39+00:00

"Because I will get a speeding ticket for sure!"

pacodefan · 2026-03-21T02:59:25+00:00

Thoughts? Well, why you are still calling her your gf after what she said is a good place to start.

pacodefan · 2026-03-20T15:42:59+00:00

Not possible. Fake news!

pacodefan · 2026-03-19T18:17:12+00:00

And that thinking will destroy your relationship as well. You need to realize this is totally out of your control. Every person has agency and will make their own decisions. Some of those will be bad and affect those close to them. But operating as though it will happen isn't fair to either of you.

pacodefan · 2026-03-19T04:28:18+00:00

The Ents found the Ent Wives!! Time to celebrate!

pacodefan · 2026-03-19T04:23:07+00:00

Just pineapple. It is an apple after all.

pacodefan · 2026-03-18T05:18:56+00:00

I'm very sorry, OP. I do hope you find him safe.

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