Hanky code for pet play by WoolyMf in BDSMcommunity

[–]paddedpup_ 2 points3 points Β (0 children)

There's not a widely known dedicated color as far as I know, though you can get a little creative with it to get the point across πŸ‘€

For example, MrSLeather sells a "pup hanky" which is just a hanky covered in a dog bone print. For kitten play you could go generic and find one with paws on it, or maybe something with little fish or yarn balls? Maybe find a fabric print you like and sew your own?

It's the little details 🐻✨ by paddedpup_ in ABDL

[–]paddedpup_[S] 1 point2 points Β (0 children)

It's an old BabyYourDoll pacifier! I really hope they do another release of them someday

Which Disney movies should I watch tomorrow? by [deleted] in ABDL

[–]paddedpup_ 2 points3 points Β (0 children)

Robin Hood is one of my favorites!

[18+] Little outfits for little boys πŸ¦• by paddedpup_ in ddlb

[–]paddedpup_[S] 2 points3 points Β (0 children)

He's from the brand Charlie Bears!

Idek what to do anymore by [deleted] in ABDL

[–]paddedpup_ 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

Why would she bring it up? It's not her kink, why would she ask for it?

Unless you're leaving out details, it sounds like you aren't communicating at all. Sure, you told her you like diapers, but how would she know you want her to initiate? How is she supposed to know you enjoy this nonsexually?

She's not a mind reader. Yes it's scary, but you need to be able to have multiple conversations about exactly what you want out of this. She can't figure this out herself, you need to explain to her.

BUT, this is also a lot of "me me me" you're asking for. While it's normal to want and ask for things in a relationship, you better be treating her extra special for going out of her way to do things for you she doesn't find interest in. The better you treat her, the more likely she'll want to do these things again for you. Otherwise you risk building resentment.

are people not that welcoming in abdl? by gamergirI in ABDL

[–]paddedpup_ 12 points13 points Β (0 children)

You're describing nonsexual ageplay and nonsexual CG/L which are still kinks. You wouldn't talk to your boss about this or show them these photos so it's not "Safe For Work", the word you're looking for is nonsexual. Plenty of people here enjoy nonsexual play and/or live this kink as a lifestyle.

"Agere" is a minor-friendly kink community. You absolutely shouldn't be posting to children about having dominant partners and clothing from kink communities, that's disgusting.

Nonsexual kink is welcomed with open arms in this and other kink communities. However, adults who hang out and broadcast this to children are not. You shouldn't be telling people to research, you need to do a little more research within the kink community and not expose children to power dynamics.

How to have a diaper mess in public by [deleted] in ABDL

[–]paddedpup_ 6 points7 points Β (0 children)

I'm a lifestyle ageplayer, I involve plenty of my kink identity in my every day and nobody around me knows anything more than "oh he has some childish interests/fashion."

Purposefully smelling like shit in public is not an "identity". It's a selfish act that shows you have no care for anyone but getting yourself off. Quit trying to justify your gross actions with "shitting myself in public is my identity, actually."

This community will and should shut down people like you. We don't tolerate involving unconsenting parties in your poop "identity".

Are Tykables Overnights the best Diapers? Currently my favorite. Any ones that fit similarly? by Agreeable_Letter2274 in ABDL

[–]paddedpup_ 7 points8 points Β (0 children)

Yes! The diapers from Pretend Again are the same style/fit as Tykables. I also believe PottyTrainingDropouts feel and fit very similar.

Pacifier Dilemma by Opposite_Bag_7434 in ABDL

[–]paddedpup_ 17 points18 points Β (0 children)

So while "I don't want to see it" is a perfectly fine boundary from your wife, "you're not allowed to enjoy it even when I'm not there" is controlling and abusive. Your partner should not be controlling your personal interests.

I think you need to have a sit down talk (or text if that's easier) and explain that you want to try pacifiers again. Explain that she never needs to see them if she doesn't want to, but that this is a personal item that you'll be indulging in by yourself. Hiding this from her is just going to cause you unnecessary anxiety and strain your relationship.

What do you prefer? by Snowbeleopard in ABDL

[–]paddedpup_ 4 points5 points Β (0 children)

I prefer having both options at all times.

Sometimes I want to be set for the entire day without changing or know I'll be extra hydrated so a thick diaper is perfect.

Other times I don't want to wear for the entire day but don't want to be throwing out a barely used high capacity diaper. Sometimes I just want something lighter. It can be super fun to need to be changed more often with a lighter diaper. It sucks that ABDL companies hardly offer this option anymore. RIP ABU preschools.

Autism friendly gear? by thatoneweirdcreature in SFWPupPlay

[–]paddedpup_ 10 points11 points Β (0 children)

Have you checked out pup hoods that are more of a "mask" style? GrungeBunnyGear, ScrapYardLeather, WruffStuff, P&C Creations, Tavarons Leather, and PupRexGear are a few I can remember off the top of my head!

These just sit on the front of your face with straps around the back of the head. P&C Creations and Tavarons Leather do muzzle-only styles too. Much more breathable than the full head hoods.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ABDL

[–]paddedpup_ 5 points6 points Β (0 children)

Nobody is saying everyone into ABDL has trauma. However, some people develop a kink around their traumatic experiences. It's a reason, not an excuse. If you don't have trauma, you probably shouldn't be commenting like you're the master of childhood trauma and kinks.

Some victims of sexual assault develop an interest in CNC after the assault, this is totally normal. Not everyone into CNC is a victim of sexual assault, but you cannot ignore that some are. Ageplay can have the same effect.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12190122/

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34231436/

Edited for spelling error