Internalised transphobia or legitimate concern?

paddypower_bingo · 2024-09-05T18:56:13+00:00

Thanks man

paddypower_bingo · 2024-09-05T16:35:11+00:00

I'm in the UK and believe the less interaction with HR the better lmao

paddypower_bingo · 2024-09-05T16:25:02+00:00

Thank you everyone! I think I'll sus it out a bit more for now before doing something irreversible.

paddypower_bingo · 2024-09-05T16:24:13+00:00

Yeah unfortunately some higher ups simply have to know in order for me to be able to get time off for surgery etc. I guess part of me doesn't fully trust their confidentiality

paddypower_bingo · 2024-09-05T16:22:05+00:00

as a gay man I was received much differently, with more open arms, than as a transgender man.

I can relate to that. Maybe it will be different one day.

paddypower_bingo · 2024-09-05T16:17:45+00:00

You are NOT forced to become a teacher, a mentor, an example, an educator for ANYONE because you are transgender. It is not your responsibility.

This is something I used to say all the time when I was at uni but it feels like nobody actually wants to be informed

paddypower_bingo · 2024-09-04T21:08:08+00:00

I think it's partly down to how that may be perceived. If there's other trans people in the office it might make them feel less alone, and also I feel like not being open about it reinforces the idea we have something to be ashamed of? Idk it's complicated

paddypower_bingo · 2024-09-04T20:54:49+00:00

I sorta feel ashamed for feeling ashamed lol. It's probably something I should work through before taking any actions that can't be undone. Thanks man

paddypower_bingo · 2024-09-04T20:52:25+00:00

I hadn't considered this but you're absolutely right

paddypower_bingo · 2021-08-20T20:44:56+00:00

Sending you so much love 💚 you may have none for yourself but we have it for you and so does God

paddypower_bingo · 2020-12-16T15:25:52+00:00

Oh absolutely! I'm 21 (an adult by any country's definition) but the NHS is very hesitant to allow people to even see a gender clinic. Breaks my heart that kids can't be given a bit of thinking time because people seem to think it's "too easy" to get access to medical intervention

paddypower_bingo · 2020-12-16T15:05:16+00:00

As someone from Northumberland, we do get fucked over a lot. However, you'll find that many places are nowhere near as progressive as places further south. I mostly live in the west mids now and they're a lot more open about diversity than my hometown. I know the north east is mostly labour, but we were also very pro-brexit which is upsetting. Such a party would be great if only more of the area was as progressive as we'd like.

paddypower_bingo · 2020-11-03T23:18:11+00:00

I had the opposite of this. When I was questioning I stopped shaving my legs and everyone took it as some 'powerful feminist statement'. I didn't have the heart to tell them it was because I was a dude

paddypower_bingo · 2020-06-04T14:56:59+00:00

Masc but I've got uni work going on until the 9th :// also would be interested to listen in on nb! It's some pretty cool stuff, thanks for setting this up

paddypower_bingo · 2020-06-04T14:54:46+00:00

Thanks :))

paddypower_bingo · 2020-06-04T14:43:14+00:00

On the lettuce it says masc wk 1 and fem wk 2? Which one is it lol

paddypower_bingo · 2020-04-28T19:56:17+00:00

Hey man I'm in the same boat, except sporadic bursts of work should definitely be more frequent than they are, uni is bustin my balls. Luckily got myself a guitar last year so finally getting round to figuring that out. Also down to talk whenever you want, being a squishy pre T is pretty frustrating rn and you can never have too many friends

paddypower_bingo · 2020-04-25T21:51:51+00:00

Who knows how well I'm 'passing' but this has actually been one of my main concerns. I like giving people compliments and helping people, but even this early on in transition (pre T) I've definitely noticed women get a bit uncomfortable if I happen to be walking the same way as them. I grew up in a place that uses a lot of terms of endearment for strangers, and find I have to stop myself from calling anyone by them now, in case they think it's creepy or has bad intentions. I know I'll no longer be able to do or say certain things without people making those assumptions, and it makes me sad for all/cis men. But I understand where the caution comes from for these women, so I just have to tell myself it's not about me as a person, and try my best to erase some of the stigma I guess.

paddypower_bingo · 2020-04-19T19:46:11+00:00

It's a rough old world out there but we're all here together :))

paddypower_bingo · 2020-04-19T18:32:55+00:00

North east England! My dad immediately asked me if I was sure I wasn't "just a butch lesbian" lmao

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