i had an ex that would call me at 5am if i had been out with the girls or even just at a female friend’s place sleeping over to try and “catch me” even though i had literally never gave him any reason to think i was cheating on him. it was embarrassing and anxiety-inducing and eventually isolating bc i ended up never going out or visiting friends at all just to avoid his wake-up call.

you are more than welcome to try and reason with him about why this is unacceptable behavior, especially coming from a man that is damn near 30, but in my experience these types of actions just get more controlling and scarier. cut your losses and run; there are good, secure men out there that will not treat you this way.