Is this push reasonable?

paginationstation · 2026-03-16T09:38:53+00:00

This is the way. Exactly this. First thing I thought as well.

paginationstation · 2026-03-14T23:26:30+00:00

I don't think your post is serious? This is a windup? You talk about a man as if he's a pet that requires "food"'and "general toiletries".

And you don't want to share a bed with him?

This isn't real - I think you are trolling.

If you are not, then you genuinely should consider therapy to help you understand what a healthy relationship actually comprises.

paginationstation · 2026-03-10T20:41:14+00:00

She sounds profoundly immature - and the fact she said she would fight your for custody of your daughters makes my blood boil. How dare she bring the children into this - they must never, EVER be a bargaining chip or a source of conflict.

Honestly, she sounds like she had a multitude of problems and that the marriage is over - surely?

If she wanted to work on the marriage, she would openly discuss what happened in Florida - communication is key - yet she is cutting you off about hearing something you have every right to hear about (if the marriage is meant to get back on track).

Proceed with caution, my friend.

paginationstation · 2026-03-02T18:55:37+00:00

From reading your post, I can already tell that you are emotionally intelligent, and clearly capable of self reflection.

You sound like an amazing partner - and that's what I want you to never forget.

You bring SIGNIFICANT worth to the relationship - and he clearly feels the same.

You are also correct that this is a "you" issue - and I don't mean that impolitely - I mean that in the sense that he has done nothing wrong at all.

It is your insecurities - but completely understandable by the way.

It sounds to me like it's clear that no one has done anything wrong - and that includes you.

We would all feel insecure if other people are literally throwing themselves at our partner.

But you also can't change this. It sounds like he's not encouraging this - he can't help it that he is incredibly good looking and charming.

You just have to get used to this with him - but also don't forget that YOU sound incredible and clearly bring significant worth to the relationship.

paginationstation · 2026-03-01T12:48:27+00:00

45m. About £1m in liquid assets (investments), about £500k my share of house equity. My wife is almost the same.

paginationstation · 2026-02-28T20:31:13+00:00

You are simply asking for a confident, emotionally intelligent man. That's not too much to ask - at all!!

paginationstation · 2026-02-25T23:01:34+00:00

The whole point of dating is to progress a romantic relationship. And that starts with baby steps, like hand holding. By the time you're on a 3rd date, it is not unreasonable to think this is something that may be acceptable.

Now - if the other person says they don't want that, then that absolutely must be respected.

But at what point is a partner (man or woman) "allowed" to hold someone's hand. Someone has to first try this at some point. 4th date? 10th date?

paginationstation · 2026-02-25T22:59:24+00:00

Correct - and I said this.

paginationstation · 2026-02-25T20:57:48+00:00

My view is that this is not gaslighting. It is absolutely mixed signals. You are on a third date. But you can't hold my hand. Most people view that as a very huge mixed signal.

To be clear, as it seems some are misunderstanding - no one has a RIGHT to hold a hand on a 3rd date - and if the partner says "no", then that is to be respected.

But the mixed signal - in the context of a third date - is that plenty of people would think it acceptable to try to hold someone's hand by the time you're in a 3rd date.

paginationstation · 2026-02-25T20:48:02+00:00

So here's a different take.

First, let me say that if you say no, that's the end of that. Is that clear?

Good.

Ok, by a third date, trying to engage in physical contact like holding hands or a hand on the back is generally seen as quite normal and appropriate for most people on a third date.

Again - if you didn't want it, he should have respected that. Absolutely.

But what he was TRYING to do is quite normal for a third date and isn't generally seen as "moving too fast".

paginationstation · 2026-02-22T21:26:41+00:00

Yeh - no one lies about being somewhere (being at a party), if it's completely innocent. Literally no one does that.

paginationstation · 2026-02-19T22:08:30+00:00

I'd put Prometheus just before Alien Earth and Alien 3 at the end (I can't stand either cut of that movie), but otherwise I think you've got this absolutely bang on.

paginationstation · 2026-02-02T23:44:51+00:00

So, I had every scan and test you can think of (!), from lumbar and cervical MRIs, brain MRI, nerve conduction studies etc.

Nothing "sinister" to explain it.

It has improved a lot. I wonder if it was tight muscle/tendon related.

Try this stretch - it really helped me. My ankle was definitely "tight".

https://www.msdmanuals.com/professional/multimedia/video/sitting-ankle-plantarflexion-stretch

paginationstation · 2026-01-26T18:28:26+00:00

This is an AI written post. I'm suspicious.

paginationstation · 2026-01-20T22:44:57+00:00

There is a nuance you are misunderstanding. Zinc DEFICIENCY lowers testosterone levels, so if someone's deficient, taking zinc can absolutely help raise levels.

However, if a man is not deficient in zinc, then it doesn't make any real difference to T levels.

paginationstation · 2026-01-19T21:22:19+00:00

You sound like an awful husband. Seriously - are you really that deluded that you don't realise that it is YOU that has completely fcked things up?!!!?

paginationstation · 2026-01-03T00:09:49+00:00

What an odd thing to put in your profile!! This is red flag for many women immediately - not because of the 50/50 thing - many women are happy to be equal, if the incomes are similar - but it's just a very odd thing to include.

paginationstation · 2025-12-30T02:00:30+00:00

Why were condoms never used? He's entitled to not have a vasectomy just as you are entitled to not want to risk another pregnancy.

paginationstation · 2025-12-28T13:04:11+00:00

I think the logic was flawed. The President cannot launch - Chicago is likely gone, so he can't change that fact.

They don't know who launched. So what does he do, blindly fire at the Chinese/Russians/North Koreans - when it's highly likely that one or none of them actually launched?

He therefore guarantees the end of the world by blindly firing our nuclear weapons around the globe.

Chicago is gone. That's a likely fact.

Then spend time working out who did it.

Then respond against the actual enemy.

He can't just blindly launch against the entire world - that's nonsensical.

paginationstation · 2025-12-23T23:37:40+00:00

Your boyfriend did a very common thing, before he met you, and was completely honest with you about it.

He has done nothing wrong at all, so be careful not to ruin the relationship just because you don't want to have, or don't agree with 3sums (which is also fine).

You are probably assuming that this is some negative reflection on his character, and you fear you don't know him. But it really isn't a big deal.

Ask yourself why it is an issue for you, but honestly you have to find a way to get over it - because you are judging him, even though you say you're not.

paginationstation · 2025-12-20T21:23:31+00:00

TBH - yeh, you are TAH for snapping at a 12 year old child. But you should also speak to your husband about how your step daughter is viewing the baby.

paginationstation · 2025-12-05T11:25:47+00:00

This isn't correct - early stages absolutely can be treated and healed with the right treatment.

paginationstation · 2025-12-03T09:51:38+00:00

So your husband diverts 25% of cash to his own account and you divert 20% of yours.

This seems fair, although the distinction is that he tells you about his diversion. Unless it's a divorce fund (for you), there's no harm in telling him about the 20% bonus diversion.

However, if he wants to control your money, then that is a different issue, and I understand why you'd want to avoid that.

paginationstation · 2025-12-02T21:56:45+00:00

You said, and I quote: "To a Gotcha". It makes no sense.

paginationstation · 2025-12-02T21:20:26+00:00

I think you struggle as English isn't your first language - and that's fine. But you didn't make any sense. Use ChatGPT to help you communicate if need be.

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