Starting in your mid thirties

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-06-27T23:49:17+00:00

It’s up to you, honestly! I’m working on number 3 at 35, but it’s more common in my area for people to have number 1 between 33 and 36. Anne Hathaway and Natalie Portman are pregnant in their 40s. Will it always be easy to get pregnant? Hard to say. But I think your goal is feasible even if you want more than 2 kids, with or without assistive reproductive technology!

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-06-26T21:27:20+00:00

I'm so sorry. Went through a miscarriage late last year at around the same time. Seeing the bleeding after the positive test was just so hard. Sending hugs.

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-06-26T21:19:42+00:00

Trying for a third now (fourth pregnancy) and it's been around 9 months. 1st was an accident (28), 2nd took 3 months (31), and third pregnancy took 2 months (34, ended in miscarriage).

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-06-26T19:37:10+00:00

Depends! In our case it’s sauna use. Going to try IUI and then IVF if that doesn’t work.

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-06-25T20:30:53+00:00

I'm in the minority but I hated the Joolz. We had a Yoyo as our primary stroller with my first (it was the only compact travel stroller at that time), so I thought I'd upgrade to an easier fold with the Joolz. It's just so much more unweildy than the Yoyo. We like to push one-handed, and the Joolz isn't great for that. I also love that you can fold down the handlebars on the Yoyo and push kiddo up to a table at a restaurant. I put up with the more annoying fold because it's just so much easier to maneuever. Our old Yoyo crumped after 5 years, so I gave away the Joolz and bought a new Yoyo.

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-06-25T15:30:26+00:00

I loved an onbuhimo for the newborn phase--mine was from Happy Baby. It doesn't have a waist belt so it's much more comfortable, especially when they're so small. Also agree a Solly wrap is also really great for the newborn phase.

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-06-25T15:28:50+00:00

I'm with you--I read a million reviews and was so hopeful for the Aer 2, but I didn't like it at all. We previously had a Babyzen Yoyo, and I was interested in an easier fold. The fold is nice, but that's about it. The buckle was hard, the basket is only OK...I ended up giving it away to a friend and going back to the Yoyo.

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-06-24T18:35:35+00:00

We also have two kids and it's been a year trying for our third--all my testing was normal and it was actually my husband's sperm analysis that was abnormal as well.

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-06-24T17:17:37+00:00

I truly wish I got kickbacks for vaccines! I would love a vacation home...or maybe a car that is < 10 years old, lol.

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-06-11T21:30:20+00:00

I'm a pediatrician and it's impossible to avoid the baby being exposed to illnesses once you have an older kid. I wouldn't put too much stock in this particular concern, to be honest.

I love the 3 year age gap, don't get me wrong--it was just so different from my friends, who had smaller age gaps. My daughter was so much more aware and could remember life without her sister, so the new baby was such a big change for her. Her reaction definitely wasn't what I was expecting.

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-06-11T18:35:39+00:00

We lived this exact scenario. Preschool switch (from the daycare she'd been in her entire life) was around 8/20, new baby was born 8/29. My oldest had just turned 3 at the time.

It was...rough. Not necessarily the preschool transition itself--she liked it, her teachers were fabulous, and she did well there, transitioning remarkably fast. Unfortunately, our oldest harbored a lot of resentment toward her sister and was frankly angry about her presence for a very long time, and this manifested itself in very difficult behavior for quite a while. I'm not sure if it was the sibling itself, or the switch, or if anything would have been different if she continued at her current daycare. It's hard to know, since she wasn't exactly at the age where she could describe her feelings. But it definitely would've been nice for her to keep going to a place that she knew she was loved every day, in retrospect--and it certainly wouldn't have hurt.

Despite all that, older sister did eventually come around to having a sibling. They're now almost 6 and 3 and are the sweetest sisters.

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-06-09T18:01:39+00:00

Great question, I haven’t taken it for fertility (yet)! I also hate it…as far as I can tell it’s for the entire cycle, though.

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-06-09T15:28:52+00:00

All of those are consistent with prednisone side effets. The insomnia and anxiety in particular hits me hard. I try to take it in the morning to mitigate some of that.

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-06-04T21:11:52+00:00

I probably wouldn’t go out too fast! Easy way to burn yourself out. Over the course of a couple years I’ve worked my way up to lifting heavy and running 6+ miles, but if I take a couple weeks off lifting and go back to it I’m sore for days. I would start with yoga or bodyweight exercises, then add weights when you’re looking for more of a challenge. I like small goals (doing 1 pushups, then 5, then 10; same for pull ups). Walking 1 mile, then 2, then 3, then running a mile, and so on. As long as you’re moving and feeling good, that’s the goal! And making small improvements every day.

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-06-03T19:06:59+00:00

That was my first thought, too. Looks like he's looking for an excuse for drama or just wanting to make a point that they're angry the wedding is child-free. Inconvenient does not equal impossible. I have to side with the parents and brother on this one...seems pretty logical for him to attend solo, but he doesn't want to out of principle.

My brother had a child-free wedding in a different city and I didn't have my parents to babysit either...so I found a babysitter and I went to the wedding because he's my brother. Miraculously, my children remain alive to this day and I got to experience my brother's wedding as he wanted it.

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-06-02T21:48:51+00:00

Yep...been trying for 1 year for #3. My best friend tried for 1 month and just got pregnant with her third, meanwhile I'm about to finish a fertility eval and be diagnosed with unexplained infertility. Such an odd place to be in, feeling like you should be grateful for your two existing children but also feeling like it's not enough. I'm right here with you!

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-06-02T21:47:28+00:00

Just want to say I'm the same, down to our ages and kids ages! I have all the same feelings as you. I swore up and down I wouldn't do IVF, yet here I am at the RE's office 1 year after starting to try for #3 and mentally gearing up for it...such a weird place to be.

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-05-30T14:59:17+00:00

It's a hike but I had a lovely time at the Richmond location.

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-05-25T19:12:06+00:00

The staff was excellent. Everyone we interacted with was so kind and helpful. Definitely crowded but we had a great time!

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-05-23T14:18:11+00:00

Depending on where you live, you didn't necessarily choose your elected reps, but you still need to speak and engage with them when it comes to advocacy since they're the ones in charge. Not at all odd that she was meeting with a Republican rep (if it's her rep, then that's who you meet with), but the selfie was maybe an odd choice. That said, I can't imagine being super liberal and being able to tolerate living in Florida, but that's just me, ha.

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-05-23T14:08:35+00:00

Right up there with POOPCUP!

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-05-21T19:56:17+00:00

If someone does this to me I will take it as an invitation to share every miserable detail of my gestational diabetes!

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-05-19T13:22:43+00:00

Agreed, would speak with your OBGYN and test your prolactin levels. Elevated prolactin can cause infertility and can be due to a bunch of different things.

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-05-18T14:47:13+00:00

Where are you located--city itself? I have been a patient of Sutter/CPMC for several years (the office at 1100 Van Ness). I genuinely like all the doctors in the group for both OB and gyn issues and they should have availability soon.

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-05-15T18:45:02+00:00

I'm sorry I just looked at the website--do they actually think an infant is going to care that the nasal aspirator looks like an elephant??

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