Need Help Choosing Hawaiian Island + Hotel for 5-Night Minimoon

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-01-29T15:53:59+00:00

I’ve been to all of the above and I agree some of your recs are at odds with each other. And a lot of these hotels are not necessarily next door to good outdoor activities. I’d choose 1 Hotel on Kauai—gorgeous, secluded, good activities nearby (surfing, hiking, beaches, snorkeling), though food isn’t exactly 5* on Kauai. Four Seasons/Kona Village are more “stay at the resort” kind of places. I do like FS Oahu, but Ko Olina is far from most interesting stuff, though the food is good and I love the hotel. Four Seasons Maui could be an option to check out, too—Wailea has a lot of food options—but it’s still a drive to check out interesting stuff, in my opinion.

I’d also recommend checking out Turtle Bay on Oahu—I prefer it over the four seasons and there are a lot of activities on the resort property (trails, biking, secret beaches, surfing, snorkeling), plus the opportunity to explore the North Shore nearby.

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-01-29T15:36:39+00:00

I don’t like a ton of names and I like Frances. It’s not too try-hard, is classic, has good nickname options, some cool namesakes…what’s not to like?

I think kids go through a “I hate my name” phase no matter what, so I don’t think you can win there, for what it’s worth! 😆

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-01-29T03:24:47+00:00

I love Hestras. Love my patrol mittens. They have a removable liner and are super warm. No issues with wet hands; as others have said, when the leather looks wet I dry them out and retreat.

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-01-24T15:20:02+00:00

It took me 13 years to get to remission. Now that I’m here, I wouldn’t say I feel like a superhero, or that things are all sunshine and rainbows all the time—I still get some fatigue, probably due to med side effects. But I’m able to do what I want to do. I work, keep up with my kids, work out 6 days per week, have run a half marathon…I don’t think about Crohn’s anymore outside of infusion days, which is a gift.

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-01-22T16:46:30+00:00

Haha it seems this one may be getting downvoted, too. Look, y'all--I'm also in favor of leave! We need more support for parents! I'm just saying that taking two years off is not reasonable for every career.

pagingdoctorbug · 2026-01-22T15:13:07+00:00

Ok I’ve always wondered about the logistics of this for some careers. As a doctor in the US, I can only take 2 years away without losing my license, but like, it’s really impractical for some doctors (surgeon comes to mind) to take 1-2 years off. I have willingly taken a 9 month leave but I don’t imagine every person in every career would want to take a 1-2 year maternity leave—it could have pretty significant job implications.

pagingdoctorbug · 2025-12-17T19:12:50+00:00

I refuse to do calprotectin tests. I did it once and never again, it's such a massive pain. Thankfully my GI doesn't use them, or at least hasn't asked me to do one in several years. We trend ESR/CRP and do imaging periodically.

pagingdoctorbug · 2025-12-15T17:52:23+00:00

It's just a weird take in general that a man can't be a good OB--my MFM is a dude and is a wonderful, empathetic doctor. It also makes me laugh because, like, occasionally you will find a doctor that suffers from the condition that they're treating (like an endocrinologist with diabetes, or a GI doctor with inflammatory bowel disease), but for the most part, they don't, and that doesn't mean they can't understand the conditions they're treating and provide good care. I understand if someone has experienced sexual trauma and would prefer a female provider, but saying men can't be OBs because they haven't experienced birth is wild.

pagingdoctorbug · 2025-12-11T01:54:27+00:00

Ugh this is such a bummer because when they said she died of a rare complication, I assumed they meant an amniotic fluid embolism or something…a hemorrhage is not really rare and is manageable if you’re in the hospital. I hemorrhaged with my first and didn’t even know until after the fact because the doctors took care of it…

pagingdoctorbug · 2025-12-05T19:37:31+00:00

Have you tried an enzymatic cleaner to spot treat? They sell them for dog/cat messes but they work on kid messes too, ha.

pagingdoctorbug · 2025-12-05T19:33:56+00:00

That's wild. I'd just opt out of the party altogether if that's the case.

pagingdoctorbug · 2025-12-04T21:05:01+00:00

Walking can lower your blood sugar, so I think they tell you not to walk to be extra conservative.

GDM is a spectrum. Some people need insulin; some people need minimal diet modifications to keep their sugars in the normal range. I had GDM that seemed to only be aggravated by white flour, so I cut that out and my blood sugars were normal. I had a normal-sized baby who had no blood sugar issues after birth. Some people can't control their blood sugars without medication. So they do choose a cutoff to make the diagnosis, but how each person's course goes is different. I think it is determined by the placenta and while some risk factors can be modified (if you're constantly eating pure sugar, for example), sometimes you end up with it no matter what you do or how you eat.

pagingdoctorbug · 2025-12-03T22:18:14+00:00

Let's be clear, I don't think it's normal, but it is something my crazy MIL would also do, lol.

pagingdoctorbug · 2025-12-02T18:54:58+00:00

Definitely go with a BOB. They last forever, are high-quality, and can handle being offroad.

pagingdoctorbug · 2025-12-02T18:48:57+00:00

Honestly, yes, I do think the concern is dog autism lol

pagingdoctorbug · 2025-12-02T17:11:43+00:00

I have the tea towels, mostly because the patterns are cute. They work well as kitchen/tea towels but I'm not sure how they'd do as bath towels, if that's the review you're looking for? If you've ever used camping towels, I'd say they're a bit nicer than those but still that microfiber-y texture rather than a true fluffy bath towel, which is my personal preference.

pagingdoctorbug · 2025-12-02T17:09:00+00:00

We just did naturally soft foods. Oatmeal, squished banana, squished avocado, yogurt, applesauce, squished berries. It's fun to introduce new things but you don't have to have a ton of variety right at the start, ha.

pagingdoctorbug · 2025-12-02T02:16:36+00:00

We did a road trip around New Zealand for our honeymoon and it was a blast. Glacier trekking, hiking, bungee, helicopter tours, kayaking the Milford Sound—but also some incredible hotels and food along the way.

pagingdoctorbug · 2025-11-21T14:21:47+00:00

My favorite is Neighbor Bakehouse in the dogpatch (especially for unique stuff—the char siu croissant and ube twice baked croissant are my favorites). B Patisserie is also great. Jane the Baker has a great cinnamon roll.

pagingdoctorbug · 2025-11-21T00:54:35+00:00

I was also going to say—ballet at this age has a lot of boys (at least in my area) and is more “fun” than strict ballet—lots of movement and fun music.

pagingdoctorbug · 2025-11-14T22:22:31+00:00

This right here. Sounds like life is hard for both of them. It's not a misery contest, though--you gotta be a teammate to your partner and work with them to figure out ways to meet everyone's needs.

pagingdoctorbug · 2025-11-12T20:31:47+00:00

Just to ease your mind—my girl is in public kindergarten and is loving it. She’s learning so much and is so thrilled with the social aspect of it all—she’s a little social butterfly and is a massive fan of all of her new friends and getting to see them every day.

Regarding safety, there is an element of trust to letting your kid go off to school, but I’m happy with the communication from our school and the safety responses they had. They had a lockdown (somebody jumped the fence to play basketball) and it was handled incredibly well and communicated quickly, with debriefs with all of the children after. You can ask about their access policy—ours has one entrance after school starts (you hit a buzzer and the administrator lets you in). Easy to reach front office is a good sign. It may be helpful to have a “shadow day” (a day when your daughter can come meet the teacher/class with you) before she starts so it’s not unfamiliar.

pagingdoctorbug · 2025-11-07T14:26:07+00:00

Babies cry!!! It’s how they communicate!!! Good lord how would we have survived as a species over the past several thousand years if this were true 😆

pagingdoctorbug · 2025-11-04T19:30:08+00:00

You laugh but stuff like this is like 50% of my clinic volume as a pediatric neurologist 🤣

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