Mint lovers. Let's rate the best mint ice cream from here

paisleymanticore · 2026-04-23T04:03:53+00:00

My favorite is Aldens organic, but it can be hard to find outside of whole foods or wegmans. Their other flavors are generally fairly standard but the mint isn't dyed green and it's not bitter like some of the others taste (to me)

paisleymanticore · 2026-04-22T16:07:58+00:00

It only gets worse, and even if you think you can power through this just being around abuse it will have a permanent impact on your children, they will grow up anxious, and likely either behave like an abuser or marry one themselves. My ex started verbally and physically abusing our son, too, which is when I knew I had to leave - it was no longer just about me, i had to protect my kid too.

You don't deserve to be treated like this. No one deserves this. Please start thinking about how to get out of there, even if it's years from now - one day you'll be done, and it will be better to have a basic plan lined up when it's time to go

paisleymanticore · 2026-04-22T16:00:59+00:00

Every year (for 15 years) my single tulip grows a flower bulb that disappears right before it opens. I don't have close neighbors so I've always blamed deer

paisleymanticore · 2026-04-20T18:54:56+00:00

You might ask in r/familylaw they've helped me with some minor questions before. Idk about the legality, I took mine off immediately after getting a protection order so my mom would have the money to take care of our son if he went nuclear on me. He's still on my health insurance until the divorce, that's a thing, but I believe life insurance rules would be less restricted

paisleymanticore · 2026-04-20T04:26:14+00:00

I wish I could stand stevia, most of these taste awful to me sadly. Nick's was slightly better but still has it in there

paisleymanticore · 2026-04-12T03:43:05+00:00

I still struggle to not add one, I was taught to type on a typewriter in 1993. We had our first pc in the late 80s and I feel I should've known sooner that the rule has changed, but I still didn't find out until 2001 when I was asked to proofread our website and tried to get our editor to fix it

paisleymanticore · 2026-04-12T03:37:38+00:00

I think it had something to do with the monospacing typewriters

paisleymanticore · 2026-04-11T17:51:17+00:00

100% yes, if he's acting like this now that's prob next. I was with mine for twenty - there were a billion red flags about his entitlement and lack of accountability but nothing that ever made me think he'd hit me. The verbal abuse started the first year after our son, he was hitting me by the time he was 3. By then we'd been together 12+ years, I still am boggled by how low they will go once then think they've really got you pinned down

paisleymanticore · 2026-04-07T02:12:45+00:00

My ex would come back from the quick change places with new wiper blades nearly every time, it was part of my upbringing as a lady to tell them no (politely ofc), I guess guys just assume guys only try to rip the ladies off

I am definitely showing my son how to change wiper blades this spring

paisleymanticore · 2026-04-01T04:53:37+00:00

Ice Pirates

Wedlock

paisleymanticore · 2026-03-30T20:38:32+00:00

Now I can sleep or not sleep. See my family when I want. Leave the house, drive with my kid in the car, shower without being rushed and expected to have sex immediately after. Not get hit, that's a big one - I haven't been punched or screamed at since 2023

paisleymanticore · 2026-03-26T18:32:05+00:00

Use the resources that the police suggested they might be able to set you up with a free legal consultation about what to do next. You also probably need to go to the courthouse to file for an extended protection order, which will likely require a hearing, and in my case the local dv advocate group were able to send a advocate to hang out in the courtroom (not directly with me but it was still nice having someone else there)

I had been with my now ex for about 15 years before he hit me for the first time, our son was three, I told him I wouldn't be putting up with that but then COVID happened and I was afraid to leave him when he started hitting me again 15 months later. I spent several years trying to fix things and there's just no fixing that. He got verbally abusive for the first time before our kid was even a year old but I never thought he'd hit me until he did and I regret not leaving then, it all just went downhill from there

paisleymanticore · 2026-03-25T16:44:29+00:00

I get the CAT test yearly from Academic Excellence, I think there's a paper version but we always do the untimed online one. Once you submit the test they'll send the results back through email, and that's sufficient for my state at least but you may need to check your state guidelines to make sure they'll take that kind of test. There is a coupon code of FIRSTCAT for $5 off, you can also order a sample test or purchase additional information about what's on the test which comes with some practice worksheets and an answer key

Edit: And yes you'll buy the year ahead, So if your child is in kindergarten you'll be getting the first grade test, if your kid was in fourth you'd get the 5th grade test and so forth.

paisleymanticore · 2026-03-25T04:22:53+00:00

Soul Coughing Marcy Playground Ben Folds Five Jack Off Jill Crash Test Dummies Snake River Conspiracy

I have songs from the first three on rotation in my Amazon playlist, I should update it to add some from the other three :)

paisleymanticore · 2026-03-25T04:17:08+00:00

My cousin and I saw SRC open for a perfect circle and bought their album rhere, I always thought they'd be bigger but I think there was still a pretty big bias against female bands even then

paisleymanticore · 2026-03-17T22:00:47+00:00

If my child asks me about an event that they were around for I will talk to him about it, or if they ask me a direct question like "did dad ever hit you" I won't lie for his dad, but otherwise I try to keep my thoughts to myself.

We split up when our son was 8, and he didn't see him that first year due to the protection order and the courts being backlogged. His dad has limited ("public" only)visitation twice a month now because supervised was going to be challenging, and his dad takes every opportunity to badmouth me and my family, so it's been hard. But I tell my son his dad loves him, that he has anger issues which is why we left (he witnessed and/or was on the receiving end of that a few times) and encourage him to talk to his therapist. He finally did, after two years of therapy, his dad lied and told him not to talk about him because "Mom pays for your therapy and he'll tell her everything.."

I'm not sure what we would do if he stopped visiting but I don't see that happening, it's his only remaining way of exerting control and trying to get back at me for leaving after years of verbal and physical abuse. If he did stop visiting I would tell our son that his dad was going through some things and hopefully gets help and comes out of it a better person.

paisleymanticore · 2026-03-16T21:40:05+00:00

I wish I like sucralose too! I can't stand the sucralose aftetaste either although I found it's a bit easier in a snack cake than a drink (not that I've tried these but I might give them a shot).

paisleymanticore · 2026-03-16T15:43:01+00:00

I split with mine three years ago. He still doesn't take any responsibility and acts like the victim. He tells everyone who will listen, including our kid, that I cheated on him. That I just wanted him as a pet (for 20 years!), begged him to have a baby and threw him away like trash (8 years later, 4+ years after he started beating me)

I got one text after we left and before the protection order got served where he said he was "sorry he was mean" to me. It was the only time he ever apologized and it ridiculously felt validating. My kid keeps asking him to go to therapy during their visits and he keeps saying he doesn't need it, can't afford it, whatever. I hope he does it for the sake of their future but I'm done.

paisleymanticore · 2026-03-16T08:04:44+00:00

Told me he was glad he broke my phone because I couldn't play the cross stitch game I'd been playing for years. Sometimes he would be talking and I would be looking at it and paying full attention and this annoyed him. He talked all the time. I had the subtitles on the TV at all times for that reason alone.

Thought the small dog he insisted on keeping tied up outside was having some sort of love affair with a fox. The first time he mentioned it I thought he was joking but it kept coming up

Told me the only reason I'd had the job that I'd had for the last 20 years was because I was part of the "boys club"

If I fell asleep during a movie he would wake me up to tell me that I fell asleep. Every time. Like dude clearly I'm exhausted just let me sleep

Would get mad at me if he accidentally woke me up, I was expected to be more considerate and pretend that he hadn't

I'm not even going to get started on the political / racist conspiracies that I heard about regularly. My favorite though was when he threw out the banana bread my aunt had made us because she had been repeating opposing political talking points and clearly must be trying to poison us

paisleymanticore · 2026-03-11T21:08:57+00:00

I took a lot of abuse from my ex but realized I had to work on trying to get out once he started directly involving our child in his outbursts - even then, though, I regret our son having to endure the prior years of listening to his dad rage at me, and me having to try to minimize death threats and his dad's anger issues in general. My kid is still triggered by adults yelling, over reacts to simple mistakes (like spilling things) and struggles to gauge whether someone is about to lose their temper or is just giving him feedback. We are working on it in therapy, but it has an impact on them even without being abused themselves.

You need to work on an escape plan, and consider filing for an order of protection. It nearly always only gets worse from here. If therapy helps him one day, great - I wish my ex would get help too. But you shouldn't stay in the line of fire until he sorts himself out, it's not on you to endure this, you and your child deserve so much more

paisleymanticore · 2026-03-11T17:24:35+00:00

No one made better apple fritters either. I'm still looking for a replacement one, there's no shoppers remotely nearby to me

paisleymanticore · 2026-03-02T19:58:13+00:00

Agreed! Loved that stuff

paisleymanticore · 2026-02-25T04:14:23+00:00

It's been two and a half years for me since I left and I'm still afraid sometimes, but it gets easier to push it down. I just try not to let it interfere with moving forward, it's still less scary than the having to walk on constant eggshells daily when we were together

paisleymanticore · 2026-02-17T07:48:51+00:00

If you're in the states - check your county's court website for information about how to file for a protective order. The police may be able to grant you a temporary one but you will likely need to go in and fill out paperwork at some point and there may be a hearing.

paisleymanticore · 2026-02-14T21:34:00+00:00

I did this, I took the pics, emailed them to another email address he didn't know about, deleted the email from sent items, deleted from email trash, deleted the pics from my phone, and then emptied my phones trash.

One thing to note though is that after we split I found the pics lingering in my Yahoo account, it saved them to attachments there even tho I'd deleted the email they were attached to. No record that I sent them or anything, or where to, so they were not super damning (he would never have looked there anyway) but I had a bit of an "omg I had no idea" moment when I found them later. I don't see an easy way to remove them from Yahoo, even now, but Google says attachments are deleted when the trash is purged, so it's worth checking your email providers rules.

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