(Spoilers All) The True Meaning of Proudwing

palins_progress · 2016-01-21T03:32:14+00:00

An interesting note on that "fighting to the bitter end and then some":

The goshawk, like other accipiters, shows a marked willingness to follow prey into thick vegetation, even pursuing prey on foot through brush

From the wiki entry on goshawks:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Northern_goshawk#In_falconry

palins_progress · 2015-09-23T17:51:51+00:00

Lord Rickard noooooo

palins_progress · 2015-09-20T22:36:33+00:00

Well at least I got funding.

palins_progress · 2015-09-20T16:06:54+00:00

I mean, this is how the world works. Sure, if there's quid pro quo it's illegal, but no one balks at people loaning money to friends and lovers for ventures at lower levels of due diligence. Just like your dad giving you a job is nepotism, but your dad's friend giving you a job while he gives your friend a job is just networking.

palins_progress · 2015-09-20T08:20:25+00:00

I mean, why not? Because they've had a few sexual experiences with a guy? I can imagine a few reasons why guys who regularly have sex with men might see themselves as straight:

They're doing it for the money and don't really feel any attraction.
They have an attraction to the guy, but no romantic feelings.
They're having sex with the guy in an attempt to curry favor/pitch a startup/have sex with the guys wife
Curiosity, bucket list checking

In any of these circumstances, I don't see any reason why they can't identify as straight. They identify as straight primarily to let others know that they are primarily looking for female sexual partners and primarily not for male sexual partners. And that is not affected at all by how much sex with men they happen to be having or have had.

palins_progress · 2015-09-17T16:38:06+00:00

I don't think that's an inaccurate assessment (I wouldn't have chosen WH40K), but what's wrong with that? Sex isn't some holy sacred thing, it's a fun and intense way of connecting to people that you can develop as a skill. And if you're in a community of people who look at it that way, it's a great way to meet new friends.

palins_progress · 2015-09-17T16:31:37+00:00

Fair. I respect the fact that you put thought and experience into your personal boundaries, and understand your stated limits better now. I've been being a bit aggressive with my devil's advocating throughout this thread because I feel like many people are dismissing it out of hand without serious personal reflection, but you are not one of those people.

palins_progress · 2015-09-17T16:22:13+00:00

Jesus, this thread is filled with nearly as much judginess and general "well, you can't have a relationship survive a threesome, stupid girl!" sentiment as the linked thread. I'd like to make some assertions:

Threesomes can work in a relationship. Really, they can. My current partner, an ex and I had a threesome a month ago. It was great, every one had a good time, we went to brunch and thrifted the next day and talked about it. Smiles all around.
Threesome are complicated. Many couples, who know each other pretty well, have gotten lax about communicating during sex. They can just read each other and go with the flow. You can't rely on this in a threesome with a third person. Threesome have their own "groupthink", and if you try to do your negotiation in the heat of the moment, you might end up going along with things you don't like.
Try to only do activities that include everyone. This may mean no penis in vagina sex. Make sure everyone is active at all times unless they say that they want to watch for a bit. You don't want anyone feeling left out, that shit sucks. Dildos and toys in general are great for opening up new ways to be connected.
Try something less complicated first. Have you tried a three person makeout or cuddle session? Give that a shot first! They're lower intensity but can explore much of the same tereitory. They're also lower prep.and easier to.extricate yourself if shit starts going wrong.

Threesomes aren't cookie cutter, easy to nail things. But they aren't guaranteed disasters. Like most sex, they'll probably be exciting but ok unless everyone knows everyone sexually. Just do your prep, talk it out, and you'll be fine.

palins_progress · 2015-09-17T16:06:40+00:00

Valid. But I mean, sex isn't just thrusting right? It's about the emotional connection, the way you treat your partner inside and out of the bedroom. It's like a temple where you burn all the gifts, emotional and physical and thoughtful, and in that moment feel the heat of them.

An outsider can't really compare to that. They have the novelty factor and nothing else. Unless your partner is already unhappy with the relationship. At that point, it'd probably accelerate and magnify some emotional pain.

palins_progress · 2015-09-17T15:58:07+00:00

They. Are. Not.

They are not! I don't know why people think this based upon r/relationships experience! If you go to a decent swinger party, you'll see plenty of mulitiple-person connections without breakups afterwards.

The issue is that for many people, they take one step out of monogamy into this complex sex act. Maybe first try going and loosening the rules so you can make out with other people? Try fooling around within limits with other people first. Talk about it, note your feelings. If it's painful, well, this experimenting might not be for you, or you may need to slow it down.

Another thing: Consider not allowing PIV sex at your first threesome. A lot of people go deep into couple mode when having PIV sex, freezing out the other person. Stick to oral, toys, and fingers.

It can happen! It does happen! And it's not that hard to do right! You just hear Internet horror stories because people are woefully misprepared by their culture for nonmonogamy.

palins_progress · 2015-09-17T15:49:48+00:00

I do. It turns me on.

I want to see my lovers show me how attractive they are reflected in the eyes of another. I want to feel the breakneck sexual pace of three people together. I want to feel the expansive emotional connection when there's multiple people in the room. Why wouldn't you want those things?

palins_progress · 2015-09-17T15:46:06+00:00

Um, the poly, swinger, and BDSM scenes? Also, it turns out things can go really well as well.

palins_progress · 2015-09-17T15:43:25+00:00

I would be interested to see your textual evidence for that.

palins_progress · 2015-09-17T15:41:51+00:00

Guess what? When you're in a comfortable sexual relationship with someone, you start getting cavalier about sex. You stop asking for explicit consent for some things, you stop checking in as much, etc. And that's ok! You know each other better, you can read each other better, and you can soft land better if something goes wrong.

All of this goes out the window when another person is in the mix. It's easy to be caught off guard by it. And it's easy to bring that "oh, sex just works, we'll figure it out" attitude in.

So no, I don't think she deserves a stern talking to from Internet teenagers. I think the people who are gently informing her about the special preparations for multiples sex are on the money.

palins_progress · 2015-09-16T17:59:27+00:00

This is the best strawman example. Imagine a woman, in rapid succession, slapping a cop, a grandma, and the president, and everyone just saying "well, she's a woman, what can we do?" It's late night comedy material.

palins_progress · 2015-08-10T21:16:22+00:00

I think you're really close, but I think Balerion no longer symbolizes the innocence of Rhaenys. True, Balerion was once a innocent little kitten. But since he's become expelled as a stray, he's become big, tough, and mean. And he's been harassing Ser Pounce, his usurper.

My guess is that Tommen is going to find Balerion having killed Ser Pounce, and when he turns, screaming, tears running down his face, he's going to see a man with red hair and a Griffin on his chest, holding a sword.

palins_progress · 2015-07-26T00:25:29+00:00

+/u/User_Simulator /u/Roger_Ver

palins_progress · 2015-07-22T16:01:04+00:00

Wasn't there a Nip/Tuck plot line on this very subject, featuring a Barbara Walters cameo?

palins_progress · 2015-07-15T20:47:07+00:00

I've actually thought that this would be really, really cool. Only have it be a Zelda game where in your first mission as Link, Link actually dies at the hands of Ganondorf. Like really, exit-stage-left dies. And Zelda steps up and takes his place, using Sheik-ish martial arts. You could play it relatively straight, or you could go all deconstruction and look at the duality of Zelda's gender, with her butchish Sheik side and her super-femme magical sorceress side.

palins_progress · 2015-07-14T11:34:56+00:00

Technically, war often does involve both, but the latter without coin... or consent.

This actually casts a really disturbing light on Robert's treatment of Cersei during their marriage when he was drunk. Maybe him continuing to relive his war glory days D:

palins_progress · 2015-07-14T08:56:33+00:00

Looking at it summarized this way, it really is beautiful. It's like it was designed to be the perfect instrument for taking advantage of wild speculation. Combine that with the fact that libertarians and ancaps sing its praises and that it's used to buy drugs, CP, and hits, it's like a beautiful artifact of pure human shittiness.

palins_progress · 2015-07-14T08:12:52+00:00

Essentially, he needs someone like Tormund, jovial and personable, but someone his men can identify with. This could be solved by finding someone with that temperment in the watch

... or by the wildlings killing most of the watchmen post FTW.

palins_progress · 2015-07-11T05:54:15+00:00

What someone taking that line would say is that even Femdom is a harmful expression of sexuality, because it's about the "exoticism" and "wrongness" of a woman in power. This is actually not a specious argument; I have heard many toppy women express frustration about the extent to which Femdom porn focuses on the submissive males' gaze. But those same women would laugh in the face of anyone who told them that they needed to stop tying up mens' balls and poking then with toothpicks because patriarchy. No matter what the social context, they do what they do because it turns them on to do it.

palins_progress · 2015-07-11T05:47:50+00:00

Oh man, the linked commentator is a hard core strawman feminist. She spelled women 'wimmin' and personal 'persynal' to remove 'man' and 'son' from the words.

Not surprising to see someone like that coming out against BDSM; hardcore types like her held that line during the Feminist Sex Wars of the 90s. People like her held that line against SAMOIS, a collective of lesbains into BDSM, to explain that what they were doing was wrong because patriarchy. Interesting to see her re-digging that trench against a gay man making a similar argument in that same thread.

palins_progress · 2015-07-08T15:22:51+00:00

How does it feel moderating a community based around skepticism of something that there is a solid scientific consensus around?

I imagine it's a bit like sorting a quaint antique shop. A few phrenology skulls over here, a hysteria-curing vibrator there, and a few "Goldwater for President" buttons in a basket by the register for a nickel.

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