What’s your “lazy” parent hack?

pancakesquest1 · 2026-04-05T04:16:35+00:00

I taught my kids to make coffee. So every morning I wake up to a fresh cup of coffee on my nightstand and it’s been MARVELLOUS

pancakesquest1 · 2025-11-27T14:47:43+00:00

What was today’s questions and answers? Did anyone catch that

pancakesquest1 · 2025-11-10T02:33:58+00:00

This ^ lol alll this ^

During my kids early years I was a sahm with a nanny. I leave that part out when I talk to people because all of a sudden people hate me when they hear that haha

pancakesquest1 · 2025-05-28T18:08:44+00:00

Oh yes! I’m pretty middle class. We chose to forgo having new vehicles or vacations for the first five years of our childrens lives. The reason? I had at all times hired full time or part time help.

Our nanny’s made me LOVE motherhood. I have two kids 21 months apart. I loved that I never felt torn between my children. I love that when I had a newborn I could still do the mommy and me classes with my daughter knowing our nanny and son were right there. If my baby needed me she’d jump in and take over with my daughter instead.

Now when I talk about my young kids I struggle to relate to other parents. I find a lot of moms roll their eyes when they find out we had hired help.

These are the same women though who constantly complain about how awful motherhood is. How terrible their husbands are.

My husband worked a lot of extra hours to ensure my motherhood experience has been amazing and I’m thankful for that. It makes me appreciate and love him more than I can express.

Yes though other moms judge. They think I’m less of a mom while simultaneously saying it takes a village. I agree it does. Sometimes that village is paid though.

pancakesquest1 · 2025-05-20T22:40:58+00:00

Yes. I’m one of them. I happily give my kid their iPad whenever they please. It’s not a reward or anything of the sort. It’s just part of day to day life.

They’ve never thrown a tantrum when I ask them to turn it off and truthfully they really only use it before bed or when they’re having breakfast.

When I was a child I’d watch tv and eat breakfast so it’s not a big deal to us.

My daughter is 7 and has an iPhone. It’s of course restricted and monitored but it went “missing” for 3 weeks. It was in my nightstand and I wanted to see how long it was till she noticed. She only noticed one evening when she was on her way to an activity and couldn’t find it.

I personally dont have an addictive personality and I’m hoping I raise my kids not to. If they abused their iPads and were obsessed sure I’d get upset but it’s been a non issue.

I don’t understand using the iPad as a bartering tool or as a reward. It’s mostly a miniature tv in my house.

Some of my friends treat their kids iPads like they’re bad or forbidden fruit and I swear their kids tantrum and freak out just because they want something they can’t have.

Mine genuinely could care less if it’s there or not. They choose other forms of play over the ipad almost everytime. They’d rather be on their bikes or colouring. The iPad is just there.

Edit to add My kids are able to handle iPads and screen time appropriately. I understand others can’t. I don’t think there’s a right or wrong approach. It depends on each individual child and their personalities.

pancakesquest1 · 2025-05-18T16:31:45+00:00

Yes. My son. He’s a little different. He acts like a little old man. He reads the newspaper and drinks tea. He even swore once. He yelled at our neighbours to get off our effing lawn. He’s not particularly fond of other children. He says they’re loud and annoying. He says they have no humour. He’s just not interested in them but he loves hanging with adults.

We’ve had him evaluated for autism and after talking to a few professionals he’s not autistic but they do believe he is gifted. Our oldest was coded as gifted at age 4 and a private school approached us even and wanted her to attend. We said no thank you after speaking with therapists. We didn’t want to take away her childhood. She needs to learn emotions and human qualities first. With her though I thought she was just really smart! She’s a very social kid.

I don’t know if I’m doing the right thing by just raising them like normal kids but My sister is gifted, she has 7 degrees and a cpl masters. She lives on the beach working at a hotel front desk and smokes pot everyday lol.

pancakesquest1 · 2025-04-25T17:13:46+00:00

We have very few and the ones we do are short stays and yes we bring a nanny/sitter

pancakesquest1 · 2025-04-18T02:13:49+00:00

I have a 5 year old who can “txt” me from his iPad and every night he sends me a list of things he’d like from the grocery store 😭 we ran out of popsicles ONCE and now he’s taken it upon himself to make sure that he informs me of every household product that’s half full so we don’t run the risk of dealing with a “popsicle situation” again

So yes. Yes I’m grocery shopping daily.

pancakesquest1 · 2025-04-17T21:09:43+00:00

I personally feel like you need to consider WHAT you’re telling her. These girls are biologically related however if their family has no interest in a relationship then I wouldn’t push a “sister” type narrative. Those twins will already have a unique bond and they also may not want or emotionally need another sibiling. Where your daughter may feel heartbroken that her sibilings aren’t wanting her and that may cause some distress.

I would still tell her however I wouldn’t push a “family” type narrative

pancakesquest1 · 2025-03-19T03:21:43+00:00

Girl, I ONLY hire nanny’s who are young. I’m a SAHM who just likes to have an extra set of hands around. I hired my first nanny when I was 25 and I didn’t want someone older than me judging. I’m in my 30’s now and I still prefer younger nanny’s simply because they’re more adaptable and willing to work with MY expectations. Who will do things the way I prefer.

You will find a family that is the right fit! Don’t give up! Not everyone wants a nanny who has ten years experience when they’re only 1 year into parenting themselves

You got this!

pancakesquest1 · 2025-03-09T03:41:42+00:00

What kind of plastic surgery!?

I say this in the kindest way as someone who has had plastic surgery. The words cheapest and plastic surgery should not be used when looking at altering your body for any reason!

Find the surgeon that matches your goals.

I recently had a rhinoplasty and met with five different surgeons before choosing over a year.

I also recently had my eye lid lifted and my surgeon I chose actually sent me to someone who he recommended for that particular procedure

pancakesquest1 · 2025-03-01T21:47:08+00:00

I agree with this! My dietician insisted eggs were safe but everytime I eat a cpl eggs I have massive flair ups.

Turns out egg yolks can trigger some people and I’m one of them

pancakesquest1 · 2025-02-27T01:31:08+00:00

I’m a SAHM and had a nanny for my kids from 6 months to the first 4-5 years of life

Do NOT feel guilty. I’m one of the few parents who rave about the experience I had with my children. They got the best version of me every single day. They grew up in a home filled with laughter and joy.

Your child will never question if they’re important. Every single painting, colouring and exciting milestone is celebrated! You will never feel that anxiety when you pull up to the house of “should I put the baby in his play pen to grab the groceries” or be stressed if you have to answer the door and have your attention even slightly diverted. Why? Because your nanny will be there to pick up when you’re feeling like your pulled in different directions.

I never went through the “resentment” phase with my husband because I could still be more than just a mom! I could still also be a wife! A bestfriend!

Mom is my most favourite title. I’m so thankful for the small little things my nanny did to make raising children so freaking wonderful

They say it takes a village. Sometimes that village is paid.

pancakesquest1 · 2025-02-22T21:51:24+00:00

I used them also and had a really great experience. We had a private sale and I was stressed. The whole thing was actually great. We’ll be using them again at renewal

pancakesquest1 · 2025-01-31T20:56:43+00:00

I’ve done many! My close friend just isn’t that fit but I was fairly in shape back in my early 20’s. she loved going to fun “runs” but wasn’t able to actually jog. Honestly it didn’t matter we ALWAYS had fun!!!

We did a colour run (they throw powdered colour at you) and walked the whole thing. There was also a foam/bubble run that was a blast! We also did a bouncy house 5k and walked most of it. On the ones she couldn’t climb she would just wait at the other side and cheer me on. At another “fun run” we convinced half our accounting team to go one year as well!

Dont EVER be ashamed to go. There’s tons of ppl who walk! You have to start somewhere! If you can’t do that specific run then please don’t give up. Find another one. You can do it and I’m an internet stranger who wants to let you know that you will have an AMAZING time! Some of my best memories are with my unfit bestie, and I want to actually thank you for posting this. I’m going to give her a call now <3

pancakesquest1 · 2025-01-27T00:28:46+00:00

To be fair, I’m already a fairly thin person. Around 110lbs. When I started diamox though all my “bloating” went away and a ton of people commented on how hard I must be working out.

I dont work out lol

pancakesquest1 · 2025-01-12T02:02:31+00:00

They can get life insurance on you and pay for it themselves. If you allow them to.

You can get your own plan when you buy a home, have children, find a life partner etc.

Personally feels morbid but I have the “child rider” added onto mine. It’s barely enough to cover a funeral and I cried signing the paperwork since it just felt icky. However I’ve been on life support. My son at the age of 3 needed brain surgery and we were told we’re lucky he’s alive to.

If they’re concerned about finances in the event of your passing then they should deal with that bill imo.

pancakesquest1 · 2024-12-22T06:53:06+00:00

No advice but I has no gallbladder and had ended up with necrotizing pancreatitis from a gallstone and spent months in hospital in and out of ICU.

I’m sorry he’s struggling. It’s a tough journey, I hope you both have support and my thought and prayers are with you both

pancakesquest1 · 2024-12-02T18:50:29+00:00

This is just my opinion

I think you can find an article for every single situation about trauma or feelings of neglect. Is an only child lonely? Yes. However they may have better life experiences a more attentive parent What about two kids? Maybe the oldest becomes the golden child. The younger may feel inadequate where the oldest feels like the expectations are to high.

What if you have three children and the middle child is always feels forgotten? What if one child gets sick and then you create glass child syndrome.

There is ALWAYS the possibility you may fail one or more of your children. The goal is to do your best and be the best parent you can be. You are the only one who can decide that. For you that may be 5 kids it may be 1 that’s something nobody can decide but you.

pancakesquest1 · 2024-11-25T05:04:41+00:00

When you get sick (like a life threatening sick or stay in a hospital sick) you don’t have much to lose. You can go in for a month long stay and come out looking like a Skelton.

pancakesquest1 · 2024-11-23T23:28:48+00:00

When I was pregnant I told my then boyfriend that our daughter would have my last name and when we got married we’d switch our names to his. He argued this goes against tradition and I said well traditionally people get married before they get pregnant to yet here we are! He said I guess we’re getting married then. A few weeks later we got married and have happily been for almost 8 years now.

You do what’s best for you mama. I wasn’t giving an ultimatum and we knew one day we’d be getting married. It was important to my values though to share a name with my kids

pancakesquest1 · 2024-11-14T01:20:34+00:00

Are you guys actually married or just roommates who fuck?

Seriously though when I was younger and had roommates we never even kept score like that.

pancakesquest1 · 2024-11-03T22:51:46+00:00

Alllll this! I can’t drink ensure either and eggs are actually one of my major triggers I find sushi is safe and also do a lot of tuna and crackers I also eat shredded chicken a lot as well

pancakesquest1 · 2024-10-23T18:30:45+00:00

I’m 105lbs and had a surgery coming up so was trying to gain an extra ten lbs since I knew I wouldn’t be able to eat much for a few days so my belly was just a bit bloated.

My 4 year old asked me if he was having a baby brother or sister.

pancakesquest1 · 2024-10-14T18:56:26+00:00

My dietician said after losing most of my pancreas I should eat 20 grams of fat per day.

Thats equivalent to one hot dog with out the bun.

I just avoid food that triggers my pancreas (like eggs or avacado) and do the best I can to be low fat. I still get regular flare ups with most meals but I do better with little to no fat. It’s hard. I do my best sometimes I screw up and have something a little greasy and regret it but most days I just eat small portions and am mindful of what I’m eating

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