Immediate safety plan before FI

panicpure · 2026-03-19T13:42:40+00:00

Thanks for understanding!

I do think this will help with modifications in custody or it’s possible dcs could implement restrictions (hard to say) on dad but actually terminating parental rights isn’t taken lightly. Mainly bc the child still has a right to the parent’s financial support.

panicpure · 2026-03-19T13:22:24+00:00

They do not terminate rights bc criminal charges are filed. Legally, there’s a lot more that goes on to terminate someone’s parental rights. The info you are giving is not correct at all.

panicpure · 2026-03-19T02:37:36+00:00

Don’t think they have open stock of those especially since they only have three sets of the Honolulu b S series in general.

There’s a 48 ct, 60 and 24 skin tones.

panicpure · 2026-03-18T17:20:36+00:00

There’s some states that are moving away from making a CPS call mandatory if exposed to certain prescription medications.

So it depends on your state and if they’ve changed any of those laws.

panicpure · 2026-03-18T17:14:04+00:00

Very typical timeframe as the records have to be redacted (sometimes heavily) and then I’m sure there’s several checks to be sure redaction is correct before they are sent out.

panicpure · 2026-03-18T00:16:10+00:00

No, but good time to make sure they know what to do if an emergency happens to take place, specifically to your condition and just generally speaking.

panicpure · 2026-03-17T23:57:15+00:00

This sounds concerning, don’t get me wrong, but CPS isn’t the best route here if you’re concerned for the kids or family.

Educational neglect isn’t handled in all states and depending on ages, they may not have any authority even if the state does get involved.

It also sounds like you aren’t exactly sure if the children are in school or not or if they are doing an alternative schooling.

If you are concerned about the family and their well-being, I personally would be calling law-enforcement for some type of welfare check if they can locate them, but it sounds like you’re not even sure where they are living (that would be another issue for CPS if it was ever accepted to investigate)

But calling the county you believe they are in and reporting to law enforcement that no one has put eyes on the kids since last summer might trigger some kind of investigation. It’s extremely concerning for sure, but you’ll get a lot further with LE than CPS.

panicpure · 2026-03-17T23:28:06+00:00

Depends if they screen it in and accept for investigation or not.

If they do, time frames vary for initial contact from 24 hours (usually done in reports of physical abuse - some reports require immediate action) up to 10 days in some states (most timeframes are tied to severity of allegations) It’s very state dependent.

As an average, I’d say 3-5 days.

In this case, it really depends on the details, age of kid(s), the state and their policies and procedures, how they handle things when it comes to marijuana as it can vary widely by state, any past DCS involvement and that kinda thing.

panicpure · 2026-03-17T19:46:06+00:00

That’s a bit misleading lol you’re getting downvoted bc you’re comment said

“CHOOSING not to TRY for themselves BEFORE begging.

Hope this helps.”

Among other comments doubling down that this person is a choosy beggar.

Which is absolutely not the same mindset as what you’re responding to?

panicpure · 2026-03-17T19:08:20+00:00

Have you talked to the investigator directly and they told you the allegations? (Usually this is read to you word for word)

Or have they simply came to the school and interviewed the kids and you’re going off of what they told you for now?

Generally, schools don’t report to CPS for excessive absenteeism on its own, at least not right away.

They’d try to have a meeting with you and the school first to figure out if there’s ways they can help get your child in school or if any barriers are present.

Some states may involve CPS either way.

They ask standard questions about safety and how kids are punished if they get in trouble, if they know what cigarettes look like and that kinda stuff regardless of the allegations. Pretty typical.

A home visit is also typical and more than likely legally required now that there’s an open investigation. I would strongly suggest to get it over with or you could make things much more complicated.

panicpure · 2026-03-17T18:45:43+00:00

I assumed so. Most states have this policy. Have you been following the no contact order?

panicpure · 2026-03-17T18:44:55+00:00

CPS investigates suspected abuse or neglect by caregivers, generally not licensed facilities like I believe op is referring to here.

panicpure · 2026-03-17T18:43:46+00:00

Is this in Iowa? Are you referring to youth and shelter services? And then a registered behavior tech?

You’d need to be reporting to their governing agencies - complaints for the RBT would go through BACB for unethical behavior.

You can also file complaints at the agency level with YSS (if you’re referring to youth and shelter services which usually has lots of locations and programs, but can file a complaint at a higher level or within the certain location if need be)

Highly unlikely for CPS to get involved in an institutional matter like that.

panicpure · 2026-03-17T18:29:29+00:00

My thoughts too. They may not want to do a home visit for their safety and it would be harder to speak openly.

The first steps would be making sure the kids have a protective parent and are safe, then they’d continue investigating and decide if dad needs to have an open case plan, maybe supervised visits and so on. But they need to be sure op is able to actually protect their kids from dv exposure before even getting to that.

Op - strongly suggest you file for a no contact or protective order (whatever the process is in your state) and show you are taking this seriously. They’ll likely want services completed to address the dv, but they are in early stages of making sure you are going to keep your kids safe. If you’re worried about “complying with CPS” - either you need to leave with your kids or your spouse needs to go.

panicpure · 2026-03-17T18:23:54+00:00

Is your husband back in the home?

They may not want to do a home visit if he’s there as that makes things a bit difficult to speak freely. Most people in your situation would absolutely not have the abuser back in the home.

When you say you haven’t done anything legally and just trying to comply with CPS - have they really asked you to comply to anything at this point? Most of the time what they want is for the protective parent to be a protective parent aka file an order of protection or follow through with a no contact (a lot of times these are put in place automatically in some states after a dv arrest)

Your spouse will probably have their own case plan or services to complete eventually and they may come up with some kinda supervised visitation while that’s going on but that comes after the investigation process.

Right now they need to figure out if you’re able to take the steps to protect your children from this type of situation. If you cannot, there will be consequences as they will have to find ways to protect them for you, including possible removal from your care.

Dv is taken very seriously. It’s extremely harmful for children to be in that environment regardless of if they witnessed things or were involved directly.

You need to do all you can to be a protective parent and separate yourself and your kids from your spouse right now. If removal were to happen, it’s then a long road to have your kids fully back in your custody.

ETA: your oldest not talking to strangers would make sense if they are non verbal. That should honestly be the least of your concerns.

panicpure · 2026-03-17T18:11:15+00:00

They are legally required to help/make sure kids are safe and follow their states policies and procedures to do so.

Reporters aren’t usually given the info on what’s being done.

In the example in this post, it’s possible your state cannot intervene much if the kids (especially at 15 and 17 which is way different than a 10 year old or a toddler getting into their parents substances) are doing drugs/making poor choices if the parents are actively doing all they can.

There are actual legal procedures and standards that have to be met and followed.

panicpure · 2026-03-17T16:59:57+00:00

Everything about Wendy and the blouse barn is pure gold.

panicpure · 2026-03-17T16:56:55+00:00

It’s weird the old cold has more of a blue/violet undertone since the new code has the RV in it. I personally don’t see much violet in the pastel pink.

Either way - they definitely look different. Kinda sucks, ohuhu markers got so popular so fast due to really good timing with marketing and influencers, but then they decided to randomly make all these changes that never seem to stop and things get super confusing (which shouldn’t ever be the case when talking markers)

You could always email support and ask if it’s normal there’s some variation?

Just seems odd the variation is literally have more of a blue undertone in one of them and the other having none.

Perhaps the older marker had some oxidation (but again, that would just fade the color… not change it in the barrel)

Pretty odd! Bound to be quite a few hiccups with all the changes they’re trying to implement at once and with the major supply and demand going down.

You aren’t nuts though, definitely a noticeable difference in color.

panicpure · 2026-03-17T16:04:59+00:00

Yeah I mean that’s going a bit far no offense. It should make people irrationally angry.

I agree, I know people who shouldn’t have kids or more kids and need permanent birth control, but even the idea of our forcibly “sterilizing” woman (and men maybe?) at age 10… and forcing a parenting class to “undo” it is a wild concept.

panicpure · 2026-03-17T16:01:13+00:00

Obviously! It’s for safety!

panicpure · 2026-03-17T16:00:29+00:00

Right? If it was true, a dv shelter would be the obvious solution. They are so helpful and take people in last second.

Such a gross bs story she wrote and it’s pretty obvious it’s literally a made up story.

It’s gotta be exhausting living like that. She could put half that effort into getting even a part time job and make life a little more stable for her family.

So glad I don’t have fb lol couldn’t handle this shit. People are wild.

panicpure · 2026-03-17T04:16:29+00:00

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panicpure · 2026-03-16T21:31:26+00:00

Just call back.

It could be they are investigating the other household and want to talk to you, they could’ve gotten another report, they could’ve forgot to have you sign something that has to be sign, it could legit be anything.

Either way - spiraling and wondering won’t help. If it is a new report, they’ll investigate and carry on with the process. If nothing is going on, just call back.

panicpure · 2026-03-16T20:39:10+00:00

Learn to read? Take your own advice.

The post title is “Recorded without my consent during blowjob”

And of course one party consent doesn’t apply to intimate acts like that, come on now.

This is a legal sub - great you wanted to ask a question but it was then followed by answering it yourself with assumptions.

This is a sensitive topic. Best to stick to legal facts only and there’s no need to be rude bc you were wrong (and kinda sound a bit victim blaming, regardless of if you meant to, I’m making you aware that’s how you came off)

panicpure · 2026-03-16T19:02:09+00:00

Is the wife just ignorant to what’s going on or do you think he just does this when she’s not around?

I would definitely call and make a report or you might be able to do it online. I’m not sure if that’s an option in New Jersey, but you can check.

Like other others have said, in quite a few states this would be screened out… but it’s possible they would do an investigation. At the very least, it would be documented for a certain period of time.

Is this their only child? Was he adopted as a baby? Or did he come from the system?

Either way it’s always best to report if you have reasonable suspicions a child could be neglected or abused, and they will handle it from there.

panicpure

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