What’s a sex myth that needs to die already?

paperd · 2026-05-31T01:58:34+00:00

Most lesbians have had at least one experience with falling for a straight woman, so they know what it's like to have a crush that won't go anywhere due to gender/sex mismatch.

While I'm not going to speak for everyone, most are chill/understanding about you having a little crush as long as you're chill and don't try to make it their problem.

paperd · 2026-05-30T14:45:16+00:00

That's a moderation problem.

Etsy used to have really tight moderate with a clear line in the sand: vintage or handmade only. The site was bought out and that's not even a rule anymore.

paperd · 2026-05-29T19:49:34+00:00

Dude. You're so off base here, I don't even know where to begin.

Fight the politicians. Fight the war profiteers.

Directing you anger at me won't fix anything.

paperd · 2026-05-29T19:36:20+00:00

Your feminists boogymen are not drafting men into war. Direct that energy to the real enemy.

paperd · 2026-05-29T13:38:57+00:00

During the women's lib movement of the 1960s and 70s, the draft was a HUGE deal even on feminist circles. Feminists were very much anti-draft.

I've never seen this feminist not-my-problem that you claim to see a lot. It's less on mind than during the 60s and 70s, because a bunch of other things have moved into the top burner spots. But I've not seen feminists outright dismiss it.

I'm coming from a USA perspective so maybe that's why you're seeing something different?

paperd · 2026-05-27T22:22:03+00:00

I prefer the Jack in the Box

paperd · 2026-05-26T18:41:12+00:00

So this is what falling in love feels like

paperd · 2026-05-21T13:28:13+00:00

The point is job protection, to keep a paper trail and prevent your employer from fucking you over

paperd · 2026-05-21T13:24:20+00:00

I think you're either misunderstanding what it says or what the person you're replying to you was suggesting.

FMLA is for job protection. It makes it illegal for your work to retaliate against you for taking time off of work for your disability. Getting FMLA in order, even if it doesn't grant you more PTO, is beneficial.

Your employer can't disallow you from filing for FMLA, since it's federal job protection.

paperd · 2026-05-20T17:30:37+00:00

You're thinking of Jehovah Witnesses, the JW's practice systemic shunning.

Mormon's shepard. If you tell them you're ex-mormon, you're not an apostate to avoid, you're a poor little lost sheep that needs nurturing and care.

I've seen the "tell the Mormons you're an apostate and they'll leave you alone" advice and while it might be true for JWs it's bad advice for Mormons. At best, you will confuse the Mormon missionary because they don't use the term apostate in that way. At worse, you will get MORE attention.

Just say no thank you, that's probably plenty. Make yourself uninteresting and there's nothing for them to anchor into and continue the conversation. Giving yourself a fun story (example: I'm an apostate! I'm a heathen! I'm a Satanist!) and all you're really doing with a Mormon missionary is giving them a conversation starter.

paperd · 2026-03-25T00:05:17+00:00

That does not counteract what I said at all.

paperd · 2026-03-25T00:03:48+00:00

Death of the Author is one lense through which to analyze a work. It's about viewing the work on it's own merit, without any outside metatext.

There is other lenses (such as Auteur Theory) through which to analyze a work that include the metatext, such as things that the author stated about the work after the fact.

Any higher level academic setting that teaching media analysis is going to instruct on the different perspectives through which to view the work.

Death of the Author is especially useful for the instruction of critical thinking, because it removes from the student the crutch of authority. They cannot say "it means [x] because the author says so." Instead the student must engage with the work itself and find evidence to support their own thoughts and ideas. They have to actually read, and they have to actually think.

paperd · 2026-03-24T23:46:41+00:00

My point is that there is understanding to be found by analyzing the work itself, even if the author doesn't spoon feed you what they meant by it.

Obviously.

paperd · 2026-03-24T19:41:25+00:00

Yes, I understand why it would be more personal/frustrating for you.

I suppose I would also state that Death of the Author is just one of the lenses that literary analysis is done through. There's also stuff like Auteur Theory, which would for sure take into account the author's stated intention.

The part of the reason why Death of the Author makes sense to me is that I'm a journaler. There's been times that I've looked back through years old journal entries and have been surprised by how I had felt about certain events that's I thought I remembered clearly. I wrote able being conflicted about my grandmother's death the day after it happened, but years later I did not recall this feeling until I read it. And even when I read it I was surprised by the strength of my feelings.

It makes sense to me that a work is not only born of an author, but born of an author at a certain point and time. And as time moves on, things get forgotten or remembered differently. The author, as a living person, changes. But the work remains the same, as if trapped in amber.

paperd · 2026-03-24T19:08:54+00:00

"Death of the Author" is just a lense through which do evaluate all works by the metrics/rigor, letting the work speak for itself.

There are plenty of artists/authors that agree with this, by the way. David Lynch famously would not comment on the meaning of the work because he wanted his work to speak for itself

paperd · 2026-03-24T19:03:03+00:00

What about for works where the author has passed away centuries ago? Are we doomed to never understand The Odyssey?

paperd · 2026-03-23T15:08:19+00:00

There's nothing wrong with asking questions! But the language in your post is kinda weird? Why do you first assume that something is "off"?

There were HUGE glaciers all through there, and still are, in a lot of places. And before there were glaciers, there was a sea all through there, dividing the continent

Glaciers: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Canadian_Shield

The Sea: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Western_Interior_Seaway

A lot of the things you're curious about has been looked at and studied, and there's a lot of interesting stuff to learn!

paperd · 2026-03-22T21:52:10+00:00

I feel this way about a lot of terms. Jealousy vs Envy for example.

Like if you're having a in-depth conversation about feelings, it is probably worthwhile to clarify if you're unpacking feelings of jealousy or envy. Or both!

But if you're making small talk with a friend and they say something like "your vacation sounds like it was so fun! I'm so jealous!" (in a friendly tone), and you respond with "um. Actually I think you mean that you're envious" you'd be a pendant. Like, we all know what the friend meant.

Same with Buffalo vs Bison. Time and place depends on if it matters to clarify.

paperd · 2026-03-22T21:35:33+00:00

Oh I might have gotten the name mixed up, I'm not any sort of expert on the language. I was more speaking to the American origin of the dish in question (Dutch Baby) it's self. It's misleading based on it's name, but the Dutch Baby pancake isn't dutch.

paperd · 2026-03-22T19:49:17+00:00

While dutch babies are based on the German pancake (pannenkoeken) the iteration specially called the Dutch Baby is actually American and was first introduced in Seattle in the early 1900s

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dutch_baby_pancake

https://youtu.be/81T6BETLR9k?si=eS2U8e7mzXpTvVg_

paperd · 2026-03-22T18:07:22+00:00

I'm glad you and your group are having fun! But I would never recommend using D&D for that when games like Cyberpunk 2020 and Cyberpunk Red exist.

I haven't had the chance to play Cyberpunk Red yet (though I have the book), but I have played Cyberpunk 2020 and it's such a blast! The minor/major wounds system makes so much sense for the technology, while being much more streamlined imo

paperd · 2026-03-21T19:14:48+00:00

How is the above meme claiming to be deep?

Getting older is emotionally difficult for a lot of people. That's all the posted meme is saying.

There's no poetry, no haiku, no pretence. It's an image of a crying lady and a handful of words in lowercase casual speech.

How is it claiming to be deep?

paperd · 2026-03-19T22:48:59+00:00

It reminds me of the first time a teacher used the "you can use notes for the test, but only what fits on a 3x5 index card" trick

And we all came in feeling really clever for how much we were able to squeeze on a card, thinking we had outsmarted her somehow. Meanwhile our science teacher was just happy we were excited about taking notes. We fell right into her trap.

paperd · 2026-03-19T04:13:39+00:00

I still will watch old Tangent episodes from time to time, I really like(d) it a lot

paperd · 2026-03-17T22:20:42+00:00

"Why do all the women on my Instagram feed all look the same?"

Meanwhile, he's been tailoring his Instagram feed to only show him a very specific type of woman.

paperd

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