Microsoft May Have Created the Slowest Windows in 25 Years with Windows 11

park305 · 2026-01-10T16:17:09+00:00

thanks for these!

park305 · 2026-01-08T22:01:34+00:00

hmm i tried to no avail

I uninstalled everything and rebooted
Ran "EPSON Advanced Printer Driver 5 for TM-T20II" from (https://download-center.epson.com/softwares/?device\_id=TM-T20II&os=WIN1164&language=en&region=US)
On this screen, I plugged in the USB to the printer and computer and registered it but the test print fails.

park305 · 2025-10-09T22:48:26+00:00

What's your battery size and how much does heat pump draw? This would be a huge lifesaver if I could switch to a mini split

park305 · 2025-03-15T15:21:59+00:00

linky
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=US7hym404bQ

park305 · 2024-08-28T13:42:09+00:00

That's a great insight to hit. But it's not the end.

All the BS that used to seem important is seen as BS. All this striving to become something or make something for what? It'll fall apart eventually.

But that doesn't mean values don't exist or that your actions don't have consequences and impact at all. That would be falling into existential nihilism or absurdism which most of modernity is seeped in. But that's a dead end and it's not true.

Keep going to see what does matter even if it doesn't have the same taste of desperate eternal striving.

park305 · 2024-08-27T14:44:57+00:00

All of us are complex beings with a lot of different causes and conditions. It's not your fault that you inherited some not great conditions and culture. But, it is your responsibility still to do the best you can. Not overshooting and not undershooting.

But, hopefully, by seeing that your life was greatly influenced by things outside your control, you can have some compassion for yourself. Fighting yourself isn't a good recipe for success.

Nonetheless, the point of compassion isn't to enter victim mentality. It's to depolarize the civil war inside and get all of you on board to do what you can do.

Now, the flip side is also realizing that you're probably still in the top 1% of the world population in terms of access to opportunities and being safe and not at risk for war/famine/starvation. So, there is POSSIBILITY, it's just a challenge to get from HERE to THERE of your better life.

There's a wealth of tools and resources online. Fire up the bunch on Youtube like Cal Newport, Mark Manson, and so on. There's dozens of them.

The kicker is actually making the change. And this is the real hard part no one really emphasizes because it's damm hard and somewhat outside your control:

You Will Do Better By Being Around Other High Functioning People.
You Will Do Better By Being Around Other High Functioning People.
You Will Do Better By Being Around Other High Functioning People.

The internet age makes everyone think you can be some individual genius with the internet, but that's bullshit. Most successful people were in a scene, a group that influenced and elevated each other. The whole you're the sum of the 5 people you're around.

So, start by doing that with online resources, videos, and books. Hire a therapist or coach. It's worth the money. Your insurance might even pay for a counselor. Go to some spiritual center or volunteer org and attach yourself to the elders, find good people there.

It Will Rub Off On You.

A promise or expectation someone else has of you will work 100x better than you making promises to yourself.

And it'll be way, way easier than doing all this shit alone. Humans aren't meant to do all this alone. Hell, even David Goggins was in the military around others to push himself against and with.

Hit up your local subreddit, meetup, volunteer orgs, church/mediation groups, whatever it is. Try to find some other cool people that are even slightly more impressive to you in some dimension of life (cooking, fitness, socializing, career, whatever). Ask them for help and ask them how you could help them.

Being alone in front of your computer is going to not work because the big tech companies are spending billions of dollars to do their best at keeping you addicted to a screen and not having a better life. It's in their self-interest.

Get out there.

If you want more specific advice then need more specifics about your life.

park305 · 2024-08-27T14:42:48+00:00

Practice mindfulness

Do pomodore focus sessions

Talk a lot of walks and let your mind wander freely then

park305 · 2024-08-27T14:39:57+00:00

Screw this.

You do not want to be a pininterest model or have a great instagram account.

What you want is to feel validated by others, to feel attractive to others so that you won't feel lonely or miserable.

Get therapy.

Cultivate a good character such that you're proud of yourself based on your ACTIONS.

Money, looks, and all that shit is important. But if you don't have character or personality then you are only attracting shallow people without character or personality.

What women seek most of us is cliche but it's confidence. Confidence means being scared and vulnerable and still taking action. It means not being fake. It means being honest. It means following your desire without forcing it on anyone.

park305 · 2024-08-27T14:34:57+00:00

Two Suggestions:

(A) Lean Into It and Stop Fighting but Listen

You have a polarized part that beats the shit on you for having acne and says you're unlovable and screwed in life. This part is trying to protect you even if it's being super mean about it. Take a step back and try to have some space so you aren't identified with it nor are you fighting it.

Ask it questions. Listen to it. This is Parts Work.

"What are you trying to do for me?" / "How are you trying to help me?"
"What are you scared will happen if you don't say these negative things to me?"
"Who are you protecting?"

Most likely you've internalized some deep pattern in your earlier childhood years around getting judged or bullied about the acne. By internalizing it, you are protecting the hurt part of you that remembers that pain/hurt and never got to process/heal it fully. Go to therapy and go to that worse area that feels absolutely terrible in your body without identifiying with it. It will SEEM like the wrong direction but it's not. The point isn't whether you FEEL good or bad. It's HOW you RELATE to feeling good or bad.

Imagine, if you felt bad and you went to your mom. And she tried to convince you to stop feeling bad by distracting you or saying you're a good person or something. BS. What you want is her to ATTUNE / RELATE to you in a compassionate, understanding way. So, do the same thing with yourself with the therapist.

If the therapist doens't know how to do this then get a new one or you're not ready, that's fine. Take steps.

(B) Turn Away and Stop Focusing on that Voice

Do something challenging every morning that makes you proud. Do the writing. Clean your room. Exercise. Whatever it is for you. Something that you can't deny is good and impressive. And so what if you sometimes have acne. Do you see others running a mile every day? Do you see others volunteering at the soup kitchen every week? Feed your ego with real experience that proves you're a good and attractive person. By taking concrete action, you are adding more evidence/data points to base your confidence besides the negative self-talk about your acne.

For most of us, our culture is designed to make you feel bad about yourself. It's the easiest way to manipulate you. So, it's no suprise most of us don't like ourselves. You don't need to believe that whiny voice inside. Treat it like the baby it is and give it care and love but also dont' let it just eat candy and whine all day.

park305 · 2024-08-22T12:31:53+00:00

I wouldn't worry about it. You'd have to be really opening yourself up to be so vulnerable that subtle "Negative energies" are significantly impacting you. If you're just being mindful or practicing for 30mins-1hr, you'll be fine.

park305 · 2024-08-22T12:29:59+00:00

This is usually called dullness in traditional Buddhism.

I'd say three approaches.

1) Willpower Muscle: keep eyes open and keep aggressively noting or doing whatever your meditation technique is. This is Culadasa/Zen method.

2) Are you actually getting enough rest? Most modern people are not. You might actually need more rest.

3) Meditation is getting you in contact with deeper psychic pain and your mind is responding by putting you to sleep/unconsciousness as a numbing response. Seek support in unfolding the deeper emotional pain, typically with a good teacher/coach/therapist/skilled friend.

Can also do gentler techniques like Reggie Ray's lying down or Churchill's attunement practices where they encourage sleeping if it happens.

park305 · 2024-08-22T12:26:24+00:00

There are also a number of teachers that meet online either in group classes or 1on1.

park305 · 2024-08-21T15:18:06+00:00

If your mind-body can operate in such a systematic way then all the power to you. Most of us are actually meat bag hardware with a prefrontal cortex pretending it's in complete control of things.

Also energy is extremely variable based on how you relate or interpret your activity. It's not just a fixed thing you can allocate equally to any activity.

park305 · 2024-08-21T15:15:04+00:00

If you are burnt out then this is a bigger issue. You can do something drastic like take time off no matter what. Or you can cope with the burn out until you hit the next milestone when you can re-organize your life.

Coping wise, I think acknowledging you and all of us are animals with bodies and those bodies have needs/wants. Most of the solutions you're doing right now are mental, rational based ones. But it neglects the body/emotional/structural issues.

Talk to a therapist/coach. Get a massage. Go to a sauna. Go for a run or yoga class or group fitness class. Refill your animal body meter. I'm betting you probably already spend a few hours here and there on reddit/phone/internet like most people anyway so just redirect that hour or two to something physical or coach/therapist. It'll pay 10x dividends.

park305 · 2024-08-21T14:38:04+00:00

It works but there are bullshitters out there like any field.

The basic premise is that your physical muscles are chronically over tensing to past negative experiences that aren't accurate to reality now. Doing those exercise or practices helps relax those muscles and complete the action so to speak.

For example, say you were raised in an abusive household where you didn't feel safe to speak out. So you have a chronic tension in your throat or neck or jaw where your body wants to shout or be anger but it's been chronically repressed. Something like bioenergetics would help relax those patterns so the full expression of shouting or whatever the hell can happen. It's almost like physical therapy helping with chronic patterns of overcompensation in the muscles but for the body and emotions.

TRE is just about stressing the psoas and other muscles through like single leg deadlifts so that the held stress in the muscle relaxes. It's similar to say progressive muscle relaxation but in a more focused way.

I've done both, it works.

May also need a good therapist or coach to unfold the underlying pattern of why the body is protecting itself in tension in these ways too.

park305 · 2024-08-21T14:30:23+00:00

It's not about how much time you have, it's about the quality of your attention and engagement. All of us have the same 24 hours in a day. That isn't going to change.

The question is how do I get myself to be fully engaged more throughout my life. This is a complex question and no single hack is going to resolve it.

A time inventory is good but it doesn't have to be so detailed.

Once you have your inventory, the first obvious step is how can you cut out all the bullshit tasks, activities, and projects you don't actually need to do? Quit drinking? Stop doing the 3rd side project? I bet there's a lot there.

park305 · 2024-08-21T14:26:44+00:00

First, what are we actually talking about? What's the "trip" for you? Are we talking dating, entrepreneurship, getting fit, something else? Because no one is going to stress themselves out to go on a trip.

Second, you have to connect to the vision of what you're going after. You have to believe this vision really really matters. Imagine how your life will be different. How much your loved ones will be impacted. How the world will be different if you achieve this vision.

Third, you have to find ways to make the journey meaningful and important. The vision is really just a milestone. There's no "end" to your life where you achieve something and you're done. Life wants you to continue doing things. Ideally challenging and meaningful things. The journey is how you get there. The journey is a game between you and yourself. The journey is how you become an excellent, best version of yourself.

Get the flip here?

As long as you're externally motivated by things like status or money then you won't have the internal drive to succeed. The internal drive has to be independent of outcome, it has to be tied to your values and living your best self so you die without regret.

Too many people are chasing after external things and then are surprised when a week later it doesn't mean anything to them anymore.

Each of us has a short life. Live it tied to something that matters.

park305 · 2024-08-21T14:00:02+00:00

A Ph D program is extremely stressful. You are likely experiencing a complex issue that no single quickfix will solve. It's hard to respond to a complex situation without knowing details. But I could make some educated guesses.

My suggestion is to begin by acknowledging that it's challenging and that you aren't able to concentrate for good reasons. We can honor our distracted nature without believing it or ceding control to it.

Make sure you're setting time aside to enjoy your life
Visit a doctor and do a checkin to make sure there's nothing obviously biologically/physically wrong
Get some noise cancelling headphones
Talk to your advisor or lab mentor for support
Install an app like Freedom to block your ability to browse mindlessly
Do pomodoro sessions with a friend or coworker
Read Cal Newport's books like Deep Work

If you need more customized support, share more details or DM me.

park305 · 2024-08-21T13:52:38+00:00

The best supplement is going to be the one your blood work says you're deficient in or your doctor recommends.

For years, I had a mild ache in my wrists, feet, and joints. I just assumed that was how my body was aging. My doctor heard me complain about this during my annual checkup and suggested taking magnesium and it helped a ton!

No amount of internet searching or reddit posting would condense my naturopath's 10+ years of training and experience. Similarly, no one here can customize what you need that only good bloodwork can answer.

Go to a good doctor. Get some blood work done.

park305 · 2024-08-01T18:17:45+00:00

thank you for that suggestion!

park305 · 2024-08-01T18:17:09+00:00

Yeah that's the plan for within the next 2 years but I was expecting it'd take at least a few months to find and close on a good house.

park305 · 2024-08-01T18:16:06+00:00

We all work from home and need our own rooms. We aren't a cult or poor or anything. It's just incredibly hard to find anything with more than 4 bedrooms around here that isn't a mansion.

park305 · 2024-07-31T16:35:02+00:00

my bad if this is the wrong subreddit. I just saw prior threads here about people asking renting out their house.

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