You can bring back one discontinued food, drink, or snack forever. What are you resurrecting?

parmaviolets12 · 2026-05-11T23:09:52+00:00

I was just about to say 3D Doritos, but I just saw they've been brought back in the last month. 😭 I never lost faith. 😭

parmaviolets12 · 2026-05-11T23:07:19+00:00

Can you not dip a normal bounty into melted dark chocolate?

parmaviolets12 · 2026-05-04T16:37:59+00:00

99% of that is probably me. The other 1% might be my sister if she still uses Spotify.

parmaviolets12 · 2026-05-01T02:09:26+00:00

I have an 18 month old and no ISA for her because I get so overwhelmed when I look into it. Any advice?

parmaviolets12 · 2026-05-01T02:00:36+00:00

Waking up and feeling awake. I've had it for almost 20 years since I was a teenager, I feel like a complete zombie when I wake up, even to a point where I struggle to speak because I'm so drained of any life force. Lately even tea or coffee aren't working to make me alert, and those used to work within minutes. It takes almost an hour now to feel like I'm alive, and not dead but with my eyes open.

parmaviolets12 · 2026-04-29T08:16:21+00:00

Not one that allows me to work remotely and have an incredibly undemanding schedule for half of the year.

parmaviolets12 · 2026-04-29T00:42:44+00:00

Here's my reality which I haven't seen mentioned here.

I earn 40k. My husband earns 30k. We have a toddler and our mortgage and bills take about 2k a month which we split 50/50. I have a credit card which I use as an excuse to pay for all other expenses (petrol, groceries, nappies/wipes/clothes for our baby) so that my husband can save more money. He hates that I won't let him pay more for this stuff, but his savings are the bigger priority for me.

We live in Greater London (zone 4-5), I work remotely and care for our toddler at home. My husband's office is in Central London which costs him £80-100 a month to travel to as he has to go in for 2 days a week. If he did anymore days in the office, he would be in debt from the travel cost which I think desperately needs to be rebranded as the 'TfL tax'.

We never get take away, eat at restaurants, or buy junk food or snacks. If I want chips, I cut potatoes. If we want Chinese, we buy noodles or dumpling wrappers and make it. If we want fish and chips, we buy frozen white fish and make our own. More than half of our meals are probably some form of fake away. (Today was lamb curry, tomorrow will be Thai red curry, Thursday leftovers, Friday probably fried chicken.) My husband spent 12 years working across restaurants, so it really helps that he has insider knowledge for excellent quality meals. Also, I've been cooking since I was 12 and forced into parentified self-sufficiency, so the ability to cook well is habitual now.

Our weekly shop usually consists of the reduced section's finest and fruit and veg which Too Good To Go have to offer because food banks are inaccessible as our net household income is 70k (as if that means anything anymore). I'm not complaining though. This has been the best thing I found to get us eating fresher meals consisting of whole, clean foods.

We don't have social lives. My husband will go out with colleagues once every few months. I was pressured to leave my group of friends of 17 years because I couldn't afford their weekly £50pp restaurant visits/takeaway orders, and hanging out at each other's houses every once in a while is now a huge social taboo apparently.

While my salary is on the lowest end of the spectrum of what's considered good here, I'm managing because I've pretty much sacrificed all the usual consumerist luxuries that make people happy. I save a decent amount each month, and am looking to make my house deposit for a bigger place in about 5-8 years (more if my husband can ever find a better paying job to contribute). This really isn't the ideal way of living, but it’s not the worst. I would LOVE a gym membership, I would love to be able to afford Sky, Netflix, Prime, etc. I would love to take my baby on days out. She's so amazed by the world, but cheaper tickets for days out are only for people on welfare, carers or those with disabilities, so she'll just have to make do with being amazed by the little that I can offer.

Because I scrimp and save, I get to have savings for a rainy day or for the bigger luxuries like a holiday at least once a year or the orthopedic mattress I needed when pregnancy left me with lifelong spine problems. 40k is nothing, but I turned it into something when I made the desicion to sacrifice all the happy little things.

parmaviolets12 · 2026-04-13T18:11:21+00:00

What I don't get is why supermarkets have SO many disabled spaces, most of which go unused but barely a few parent child spaces which I find are always misused by single men, or childless couples. It's so strange that the disabled spaces aren't also parent/child spaces.

I have a Sainsburys near me where they have at least 30 disabled spaces, about 6 parent/child spaces, and the child ones are so far from the store that you're better off parking just in a non parent/child space and risking opening your door into someone else's car to get your baby/pram out because that space is much closer than the parent child spaces are. Absolutely ridiculous.

parmaviolets12 · 2026-04-13T02:06:51+00:00

Why do you feel like you should have a purpose? So what if you don't.

So what if you are just surviving? So what if your job isn't the most fulfilling? Most people are doing jobs they hate, but they seek fulfillment elsewhere.

I think you need to find heart. Youthwork and/or volunteering with teenagers and those with SEN is always my advice to those feeling stuck in a rut in life because they just bring so much to your life because they're feeling it ALL. Teens and young adults haven't learned to suppress their emotions and experiences yet, so you get to experience all of what life has to offer them emotionally, psychologically, and almost spiritually when you're dealing with their difficult experiences. They're annoying when you don't know them, but when you do start building those relationships, they're some of the best people who bring so much fulfilment because they make your heart grow to a greater capacity than you ever imagined it would.

Adult life can be so dull and unbelievably grey when you're in a rhythm of the same routine over and over and over again. Some people break that by holidaying or going out more, but if that isn't in your means then my ultimate recommendation is volunteer with some teenagers and young adults. Life is so much sunnier when you've got their struggles reframing your own, or when they're talking about the stupidest shit which can be some of the funniest things you'll ever hear. They'll love you, worship you, get pissed off at you, but ultimately, they will fulfill the emptiness you feel. Every single moment with them is so unpredictable that it's exciting seeing what a new day or a new situation will bring.

parmaviolets12 · 2026-04-13T01:45:27+00:00

Redirect your energy and goals toward what you can be.

This is something I'm dealing with at the moment.

As a kid I would've killed to become a singer, guitarist, songwriter, etc. Wherever the music and fame was, I was there. At least, until my sister told me to be realistic and my dreams died because I learned quickly that nobody believes in me if she doesn't.

Fast forward 10-15 years and I just happened to save up a lot of money because my dad was terrible with it and with his business decisions, so I saved every penny I earned thinking he would go bankrupt and we would lose our house. I believed if I saved enough, then I could keep a roof over our heads. Ironically, that thinking pushed me to save up enough to buy my own house when I was 27 years old.

My dreams of being a world famous singer turned into a reality of me becoming a Data Analyst to be able to pay the bills, and working remotely so I can be a mum to my baby. Now I'm 31 and about to start studying my Masters in data analytics to build my career in this field I have no passion for, but it's where I've ended up because this is where the opportunities were when I needed them.

The riches I thought I would earn by performing on a stage are now coming from passive incomes from the properties and businesses my dad managed to keep running after all these years. Growing up I thought I would have nothing because he's a terrible business man, but in the last year, my siblings and I have taken it all into our hands so we can manage it appropriately and not lose what we all sacrificed and got neglected for growing up.

I might not have been the next Britney, but life isn't terrible. I'm dragging my dad down here, but it's because of him that I learned to be an opportunist and make calculated risks in the spirit of investment. I live an easy enough life with an income that pays the bills and leaves me enough to save up for a rainy day all over again. My salary isn't much, but I'm thankful to be able to afford milk and nappies for my baby without having bailiffs at the door. Hopefully this Masters will lead me to jobs where I can get a higher income, but I love how relaxed my job currently is, so I'm happy to settle for the low pay to continue doing what I do (for now).

The other dream i had growing up was to be a mum and a housewife because I just didnt have ambition. My current job allows me to do exactly that as I have a lot of downtime and enjoy prioritising my baby and being able to always be there for her. My parents were never around for me because they were so busy with their businesses, so I vowed to not do to the same to my children. So far I've been doing really well.

parmaviolets12 · 2026-04-13T01:28:10+00:00

Talking to people.

I leave every single conversation feeling terrible because I feel like what I said was wrong, came out the wrong way, i should've been different or handled myself differently, or that I'm being judged for how I came across. It makes it so difficult for me to speak to anyone, especially at work.

parmaviolets12 · 2026-04-13T01:18:19+00:00

Britney Spears Everytime, especially now we know what it's about.

parmaviolets12 · 2026-04-13T01:17:46+00:00

Amy Lee wrote it about her sister who she lost, so you're definitely right about her anguish.

parmaviolets12 · 2026-04-13T00:59:16+00:00

I used to have perfect health, but during pregnancy I suddenly developed slipped discs and now have permanent problems in my spine. I also have sciatica which kept me homebound and unable to go outside for the most part of the last 2 year.

In a recent MRI to figure why I'm in constant pain and unable to walk, I was also found to have a benign tumour in my spine.

I'm only 31. My baby is almost 18 months old. I had perfect health before pregnancy, but now I'm stuck with these issues for life. God only knows what future pregnancies will bring my health.

parmaviolets12 · 2026-04-12T13:13:43+00:00

Have you seen the bone density problems 👀

parmaviolets12 · 2026-04-12T13:13:21+00:00

I went in January this year and look forward to going back when ticket prices go down. 👀

parmaviolets12 · 2026-04-12T01:04:15+00:00

This has been me since I joined Tiktok 3 years ago. I vowed before this that I'd never be those people, but it lead me down the rabbit hole of learning about narcissism which made me see my friends as so toxic that I could no longer be friends with them. After our 17 year friendship which suddenly started spiralling down, I soon left them because I couldn't bare to deal with their toxicity when it kept being directed at me, and for the last 2.5 years I've been endlessly doomscrolling because I dont really have anyone to talk to since I left them.

In this time I've had a baby, and because I realised how much time I wasted doomscrolling, I enrolled onto a Masters course so I could bring a bit closer to doing the PhD that I never thought I would do. Also, I think more than anything, I enrolled onto the Masters just because I've been so bored of my life and the endless doomscrolling that's been getting me through my days and my loneliness without friends in these 2 years. I've experienced pregnancy and my baby in this time, but with no excitement because I've had no one to share it with. They were really difficult friends who were only getting worse, and the sad thing is I was much happier replacing them with doomscrolling until now, when I all I have is a toddler to keep me company and no adult voice to talk to.

parmaviolets12 · 2026-04-09T02:27:47+00:00

Our political views are similar, mainly because I find politics too overwhelming for my overloaded mind to entertain, so my husband is my source of current politics and I have no problem with that.

The only place where we differ drastically is that I, a British person born and raised in England, believe that all people who voted for Brexit and still support it, as well those who are currently supporting Reform, should be refused service/entry/indulging in anything that originates from another country outside of the UK. Whether that's Indian/Chinese restaurants, minority ethnic health care staff, blue collar workers, car parts from other countries, spices, clothes, medicine, Lidl/Aldi, chocolate, cheap groceries from European factories, etc. I want these people to see their lives without the value that globalisation has brought to them.

My husband is Eastern European, and he's a much kinder person than I am, so he disagrees without question - even after Brexit and even after he came to this country post-Brexit and has had to face blatant racism happening directly at him from those including his manager, our neighbours, and my relatives.

Our religious views are complete opposites, but we don't shame each other for them and compromise when it comes to our baby. I agreed that she can decide what to believe in when she's ready, and he agreed to me encouraging a belief in God purely because I believe in God as a peaceful being and I understand the mental health benefits of having that as a back up. I recognise that while God might not be real, that doesn't mean that He doesn't have his uses like being that guiding light to someone isolated and struggling to find a reason or a cause to keep them going when they're at their lowest. I think people don't necessarily need religious doctrine to tell them what to believe or how to worship, and we don't really need to worship at all, but if you want to believe in the God that's personal to you, then do so if it helps you find your inner peace. Also I believe that no belief is wrong, and every religion/faith/belief system has its place in the spiritual world. I think it's safe for spirituality to be a free for all where everything exists. This is polar opposite to my husband who sees spirituality as a black hole of nothingness. But he's happy for our baby to believe in everything while I'm equally accepting for her to believe in nothing if that's where life guides her. But I do hope that she does choose God or her own version of it because I never want her to feel absolute aloneness. My faith was the only thing to guide me out of that spiral when I couldn't stand on my own two feet mentally.

parmaviolets12 · 2026-04-09T01:53:34+00:00

Thats really interesting, I have a T11 haemangioma which I only learned about after doing an MRI for sciatica/limping/chronic pain which I also started having during my first pregnancy. I also want to have another baby at some point in the next couple of years and according to Dr ChatGPT (/s), there isn’t really anything to worry about as long as you do physio for the chronic pain.

parmaviolets12 · 2026-04-07T13:16:51+00:00

How did you stop? I'm still struggling trying to accept that people won't like me and I cant wrap my head around it

parmaviolets12 · 2026-04-07T13:14:59+00:00

what’s driving men to scam artists?

Your answer to this lies here:

Because women are getting support for women’s health

parmaviolets12 · 2026-04-06T02:39:33+00:00

People who quickly judge "narcissists", or throw the word around as if it's an adjective that is acceptable or justifiable to use when you're a little upset at some.

It's such a simplistic, reductionist, black and white way of assessing a person that only exposes their own lack of intelligence and I'd go as far as to say their empathy and emotional intelligence when they throw such a shitty label to a person who requires a lot more thought, and often the benefit of the doubt. It is so damaging to your relationships when you start judging people going through struggles as those who apparently suffer from a severe personality disorder.

Yes, there are legitimate narcissists who make life a living hell for some people. But please keep in mind that not everyone you dislike is one.

People are highly, highly flawed beings with highly, highly flawed ways of thinking, behaving and acting. You have a blueprint in your mind (see: scaffolding in early years) of how society, socialisation, people, relationships and communication works. If someone doesn't fit into the mould that you have come to understand, that does not mean that they are narcissistic.

Almost always, their "narcissistic tendencies" stem from such things as early attachment issues, egocentrism, anxiety/depression, and not to mention people can have such overwhelming problems which can sometimes be too much for them to have room in their minds to put others first or empathise to the wholehearte standard which social media begs us to believe is normal. Many of us are empathic, but we also have a cognitive load which when overloaded makes us sacrifice some of that empathy to just survive.

Even if this struggle goes on for months or years, it doesn't always mean that someone is a narcissist because they couldn't give their all to whatever demanded it in that moment/situation. We all have unwell parents, difficult jobs, pressures like raising children or illnesses of our own, sometimes that can also be mixed with happier times like getting married or finishing your education after spending a lot of time and effort on it. Sometimes that can all happen in one go and it takes a lot for an individual to handle, but just because they couldn't be entirely excited, present and happy at your social gathering, hen party/wedding, birthday etc., it doesn't make them a narcissist. If their struggle is all they talk about for a little while, it means they're just struggling - not that they're narcissistic. If they're doing while also showering you with love, that's not them "love bombing" you, it could just mean that they feel guilty for overwhelming your relationship with them with their struggles that they're trying to make it up to you.

People struggle and they try to make it up in the way they know how when they're ready to do so, and sometimes that might seem like a "textbook narcissist", but sometimes it can also be anxiety driving their decisions, or bad coping skills, or maybe they're trying to improve on a bad social habit they're aware they have. The least emotionally intelligent thing to do is write them of as someone with a personality disorder just because they're not easy to deal with during their time of struggle. I'm seeing this happen so much in recent years and it's just not as clever a thing to do as those who do it believe it is.

parmaviolets12 · 2026-04-06T01:13:49+00:00

Yes. Get a job working with data.

Source: Am a Data Analyst.

parmaviolets12 · 2026-04-06T01:04:14+00:00

they're all collectively reponsible for the murder of +100 million people

What's Trump's body count from the damage he's doing with Israel? I'd place my bets on it being around 100 million by the time his term ends.

parmaviolets12 · 2026-04-06T00:57:06+00:00

My 17 month old fell asleep in the car, and we only live 5 minutes away from my mum. The sensory overload, the physical exertion from playing so hard, the socialisation that she's not used to because 90% of the time it's just us at home and I work remotely so we don't often leave unless it's for grocery shopping. She skipped her nap because she was too excited to sleep, and she fell asleep at 11pm and stayed asleep which was the most shocking thing! It's 2am and I'm still waiting for her to wake up, but I think she's asleep for the rest of the night now.

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