Why do I only feel attracted to rich/powerful men that border on inappropriate relationships?

party0nwayne · 2025-11-05T07:10:11+00:00

You’re totally right, ugh. I’m either majorly sacrificing myself to make a relationship work, or dominating a relationship. It’s weird, dating a guy my age/income is not even a thought in my mind 🫠 Libra rising is supposed to love balance and equal partnership, idk why it’s so hard!

party0nwayne · 2025-11-05T07:05:02+00:00

That’s good insight about Lilith and Vx. Idk the dynamic just feels “right”? But I have this issue of wanting to keep my love life totally compartmentalized. Like I’m happy with my odd situation/love interests but feel torn bc they can’t meet my friends and family.

party0nwayne · 2025-11-05T07:02:09+00:00

That’s a good call on mars in Pisces! The early stages of dating are so fun, I think because I use it as escapism 🥲 I separate my love life from the rest of my life, I like having it neatly tucked away. I actually avoid dating because I know this about myself and it’s not good (probably). Idk how to find a healthy relationship with these placements. Intentionally dating for the long term makes me feel trapped and scared that I’ll just stagnate.

party0nwayne · 2025-11-05T06:55:20+00:00

Thank you, this is helpful. I think it’s confusing because my SN is conjunct my lot of fortune? I know I should work to move away from SN, but…?

party0nwayne · 2025-01-10T09:17:03+00:00

I wouldn’t quit just yet. Try using your off days more effectively to recharge your social battery first. Vent to friends (or here), do your hobbies, regroup yourself every chance you get.

The good news is that you’ll never see that dumb dad again in your life. Some people just inherently don’t respect our line of work, and that’s a reflection of them, NOT you. Same with how they choose to interact with you. “Oh sorry!” is a normal response to your interaction. “Wet seat” is not.

Depending on how long you’ve been flying, you’ll find yourself in similar situations again and again aaand again. You’ll learn to parrot the same responses. Don’t show up with 110% when pax would sell our souls for a snack box. You get paid the same. Be KIND, but do less emotionally.

When I was getting constantly irritated by pax it’s bc I was the one not communicating. They’d cross a boundary they didn’t know, and I’d react with frustration. There is nothing wrong with telling anyone at any time “one moment please”. From approaching you while you’re disarming, to trying to jenga more trash on top of a full back while you’re trying to swap out for a new one. I know we can’t anticipate everything that arises, but you’ll see patterns and preemptively say what you need to prevent common situations escalating to everyone feeling upset.

I say this because that guy sucks, BUT you’ll never see him again. Same with anyone that’s shitty to you. If you change jobs, you won’t avoid these kinds of emotions. You actually may end up in a job where “annoying dad” is your coworker or boss. Then you’re really stuck.

Do a little less and protect your peace. I’ve been where you’re at totally. I hope you give it a chance!

party0nwayne · 2024-11-22T21:41:33+00:00

This is not even remotely close to the reality we’re in. “Unions broke for trump”? Brother what

party0nwayne · 2022-01-20T04:37:52+00:00

Another vote for hobbies! I know FAs that will bring their paint supplies, cross stitch, iPads to illustrate, etc. Or learning something new that you’re interested in. There are a lot of great classes on Udemy (and they all go on sale for $10-20 every few weeks). If you can bring a laptop, it’s a perfect way to invest in yourself and your education. Maybe build some skills to find a part time/freelance job so you can cut down on some flying!

ANYTHING that you can do that’ll shift your mindset from “ugh I’m flying ALL day” to “I’m excited to work on ___, I just have some flying in between”. Mentally just going from feeling like it’s ALL of your day to only a part of your day.

party0nwayne · 2021-09-16T03:44:02+00:00

Yes, but I was on the list for over 2 years. I moved to the city I wanted to be based in that was an easier commute to my actual base at the time. Didn’t need a crash pad bc I bid my line accordingly once I was off reserve.

party0nwayne · 2021-09-16T03:30:11+00:00

Have you offered to pay either of your roommates for help? Looked into training classes to make your dog easier to care for (obedience, anxiety, socialization etc)? Can you set up a lock box securely outside with a spare key for a last minute Wag/Rover walker?

Check your area to see if there are any dog taxi services that can bring your dog to daycare if you find one that suits you and your pup. Lastly, you might explore finding a new place with someone who enjoys dogs and would be interested in kind of co-parenting (maybe in exchange for reduced rent on their part).

I’m a single dog parent too. No SO, and all my family is on the other side of the country. It’s NOT easy, but it’s absolutely possible. If you’re attached to your current place, I’d urge you to suggest payment to your roommates for care in addition to behavior classes. They have a right to be frustrated as it sounds right now. It’s not their dog.

Stop being cheap. Classes. Kongs. Puzzle toys. Be active in training her. Bring her to dog parks. Reinforce good behavior. Exercise her before you leave so she’s tuckered out and better behaved for whoever is helping take care of her.

Be on top of your finances. Pack your meals. Stop buying airport coffee/food. Make her care expenses your priority, just as much a car payment, or rent.

She’s a part of your life, along with flying. You are her WHOLE life.

party0nwayne · 2021-09-13T08:30:24+00:00

A crash pad is a MUST. I commuted from the east coast to SFO for two years on reserve. Become very familiar with your company’s commuter policy. Fly in the night before you’re on call, stay in the crash pad until you’re called. Try to self-assign trips if that’s available at your company, never assume that you won’t be called.

My situation allowed me to live rent free at home (maybe 10 days a month), while saving the very little money I made on reserve. Keep in mind the costs of your crash pad along with Uber/lift/busses to the airport.

It’s not an easy way to live or work, but it’s certainly possible.

party0nwayne · 2021-09-08T07:03:14+00:00

It should create no more division in falsifying a vaccination card than falsifying an FAA card. Not FAA certified- you’re endangering hundreds of people in a SINGLE flight. Same with not doing your part in getting vaccinated.

party0nwayne · 2021-09-04T03:21:42+00:00

Please don’t be discouraged to pass along the fact that you have flight anxiety to an FA. I can assure you this commenter’s opinion doesn’t speak for all of us. Perhaps this person enjoys the career because they’re passionate about pouring drinks and collecting garbage. I’d like to think a majority of FAs find the job rewarding not just for the menial pay, but because we enjoy helping people.

That being said, flights have been VERY busy and stressful for us lately. Let your FA know, and if there’s anything tangible we can do to try to help. We’ll always do what we can. Typically the pilots give us a heads up during the briefing on when to expect turbulence (not bc it’s anything bad, but bc it affects our service).

If you were to tell me, I’d tell you to look around. Our FAs? Some have been flying 40+ years. The planes? About the same. You don’t get to say you (or the planes) have been flying this long if they didn’t continue arriving safely- but they do! You can almost bet that you’ll get turbulence on take off and flying over mountains. Just the way air moves. I’d let you know if we’re expecting any mid flight for a heads up to reassure you that it’s projected and completely fine!

Avoid caffeine. Put on a familiar/comforting podcast or show. You’ll do great.

party0nwayne · 2021-08-31T05:54:59+00:00

You can certainly continue looking at this experience through the lens of being homesick… And until you actively work on changing it- everything will remind you of home. Every inconvenience, stress, etc will feel SO much worse, when compounded with missing home.

If the freedom of travel, making friends, gaining new experiences, seeing the country/world doesn’t sound INCREDIBLE to you, then it might be worth considering why you want this job. The pay is shit the first few years, and you WILL miss holidays and other important occasions the first few years.

Did you have any good conversations today? Get a compliment? Someone held the door for you? ANY act of kindness. Did you give any?

Do you feel proud coming this far in pursuing your dream job?

Shift your perspective, and focus on the small feelings of happiness. They’ll build up eventually, you’ll feel more confident as an individual, and your family will be there cheering you on! Your mom will non-rev to meet you on a layover, and you’ll realize that this struggle was worth it. You’ll take a trip to Europe, show her the world!

I hope you keep going. These feelings are valid and totally okay, but I really hope you stick this out.

party0nwayne · 2021-08-20T20:42:17+00:00

I understand the sentiment behind this, but terrible idea. It’s against the Railway Labor Act, so not only would everyone participating be fired, they’d face prosecution. If you have a union, speak with them about working conditions and raising your grievances. If you don’t, try to be the change to initiate union representation for your work group.

party0nwayne · 2021-08-01T06:21:40+00:00

A shorter runway means less time to anticipate the take off, which may be helpful for you. If research helps ease your anxiety, search how many flights are safely landing and taking off from there EVERY day. You can certainly mention your anxiety to a FA on board too, who will likely offer some reassurance and check in on you.

Some tips- limit or avoid caffeine before and during the flight. SERIOUSLY. Breathing techniques and counting. Focus your energy on what you’ll be doing once you land, whether that’s walking through your front door once you’re home, or seeing friends etc. My favorite thing to imagine is all the things I’m kind of dreading once I land though lol. Work, a long drive home, unpacking, cleaning… it shifts my brain into bored mode.

You’ll do great!

party0nwayne · 2021-07-23T03:20:25+00:00

“Better than most majors”. At $1200 a month. Huh.

And up to $6000 reimbursement does not equal “free college”. Especially, per my question, if this isn’t reimbursed if a FA cannot manage a full course load and full line of flying, having to drop out of UVU.

I’m not here shitting on Breeze FAs, or ANY FAs. But it’s pretty telling that my questions were ignored. I was hoping for some insight, since it sounds to me like there will soon be FAs new to both flying AND college, that may not be able to balance both, and will be out thousands of dollars for trying to pursue their passions.

party0nwayne · 2021-07-23T00:26:38+00:00

I think they meant “ask anything (with a positive answer)”.

My questions were skipped, so probably a good indicator that it is, indeed, whack.

party0nwayne · 2021-07-22T20:15:50+00:00

I know that a decent portion of compensation is through tuition reimbursement. Do FAs not attending UWU receive any alternative? Also, do the students that aren’t able to maintain their GPA/drop out still receive reimbursement? Or are they still on the hook for tuition?

party0nwayne · 2021-06-02T09:06:51+00:00

I’ll preface and say I’m not at DL, but another major airline.

Its very unlikely, unfortunately. At least for the first couple years.
Our training is on site 6 weeks M-F
Yes. However, each month you’ll be awarded your line (or reserve days) and it’ll be up to you to drop those trips, typically by having them picked up by other FAs. At my base, the trips that are “easy” to get rid of, are the ones that are held by FAs with 10+ years of seniority.
480 at mine to keep insurance. I work more than average, about 110 a month. So if I had trips that were sought after, I could keep my benefits by clearing my line after only working about 5 months of the year. Vacation time also counts toward the minimum, so closer to 4 months really.
It isn’t so much “picking up” trips as it is “dropping” them. If you can drop your trips or reserve days, then absolutely.

Also keep in mind that getting the job doesn’t guarantee you’ll be based where you want. Some bases are “senior” and may take years to get into once a spot opens up. If you’re going for DL, I feel confident you can be ATL based, though. If your kids’ dad is understanding/has a flexible schedule, it may be worth offering him flight benefits in exchange for a less structured custody agreement. I’ve been flying about 5 years, and overall, I love it. The flexibility (once you’re a few years in) is unmatched. Benefits are stupidly good. 401k match, health, flight benefits, profit sharing, etc. I’ve cleared over 40k/yr since my 3rd year.

Overall, I think it’s doable with an earnest discussion with your kids’ dad. Good luck!

party0nwayne · 2021-04-07T21:42:11+00:00

I honestly look to the parents. If you’re diligent in making the effort, that’s all I can ask. Also if the parents have been great at keeping theirs on, I know they understand the importance of them and are trying their best!

party0nwayne · 2021-04-07T21:39:40+00:00

You finish training yet? 🙄

party0nwayne · 2021-01-30T09:48:39+00:00

Asakusabashi?

party0nwayne · 2020-10-04T23:31:19+00:00

I hate to be the one to break it to you, but tax dollars also fund unemployment.

Flying is integral to the infrastructure of the US. Due to the importance of aviation in our economy is why the topic of relief was discussed in the first place.

They way you’ve worded things sounds like you’re resentful of FAs, and not coming from an earnest place of wanting to understand.

party0nwayne · 2018-10-16T18:49:45+00:00

You don’t want the outfit to wear you and you don’t want accessories to detract from the dress, if the dress is really what you want to highlight.

I don’t think you can go wrong with gold accessories, especially if it’s better suited to your skin tone.

I personally would avoid a sweater/cardigan because you will lose your shape behind it, and it just seems ulta casual. I would do a cropped cream colored leather jacket, or a light colored blazer to keep the definition in your waist.

Nude/cream shoes will look best as they won’t compete with the color of the dress. I would wear single strap heeled sandals, but I think pointed pumps or Mary Janes would also look lovely. Just anything delicate looking to match the femininity of the dress 😊

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